To think I can't be the only one that doesn't feel like a grown up?

[MartagonLilies]

I feel out of place a lot, like I'm not quite as adult as others. I don't know why, I do adult things. Shop, houswork, cook etc.
I just seem to not manage it as well as others. I always need to have a way of doing things, or they don't get done. So, housework for eg. I need a plan, like flylady / UFYH. Others just seem to get it done.
I always leave a social situation wondering if I've said something wrong.
Other things too, just these are the main ones.
AIBU to think this way? Does everyone else feel like this?

I’m with you. I’ve also had a couple of terrifying moments with the kids (medical emergency type bits) where my first thought has been ‘where’s the responsible adult who’ll know what to do?’ And then I’ve had the stomach dropping realisation that that person is ME and I have to figure out what the fuck to do.

I wake up some days and think "shit im actually an adult" your not alone we all have those moments

Also, I only properly clean and hoover when my mum comes round in case she tells me off. Yep, 48 years old mother of two, own my house, proper job and all that. In my head I'm still the teenager who hasn't put the laundry away.

Ah, I feel so much better about this now. I really thought it was me, and not many people felt this way.
It's such a weird feeling, like I haven't quite up with myself yet.

Same ..... I'm 38, married with a 3 year old DS - been at my job for 17 years this week, yet my first thought was "I'm not old enough to have worked anywhere for 17 years" I feel like I'm 14.......

It seems like I passed out in a field whilst drinking cheap cider and woke up a married housewife with two kids living in a large victorian house... with all sorts of people speaking to me as though im a legitimate member of society, who knows what they are doing... and I have to keep up the facade even though im just absolutely winging it....

Yep I'm totally winging it! Even married with two DC and in a professional job I still feel like I'm a teenager and want to look to my mum to speak for me in my doctors appointments!

Quite often when I’m traveling for business or something I’ll have these moments when I’ll think ‘I can’t believe I’m allowed to get on a plane all on my own!’ It’s definitely not just you

I'm 33, been married and divorced. Now got a 18 month old daughter and still don't feel like a grown up.

I was told I quite young to get married. I was 25. Then we split at 29.

Pressed too soon. I met DP at 29 and had DD at 32.

55 here OP - I'm currently working towards 'aged [knowledgeable] crone', the rest is a big blur of updown since being a teenager. I remember the clarity of thought that came with teenhoodnessdom; I remember how annoying I was too. You get older and the young become less annoying because it's a continuum.

The older you get the younger your mind feels, the body might not agree, so the Teen Rebel comes out and we All Have Fun.

That's my Theory anyway....

I don't drive, don't own a house, can't put up flat pack furniture, don't have contents insurance. I really don't feel like a proper adult sometimes.

On the other hand I'm tired all the time, lots of body parts hurt and that just gets worse as time goes on. Will be 41 soon and life definitely didn't start at 40.

Winging it here too. Responsible job. Landlord... Stepkids...Responsiblities coming out my ears and a lot of people constantly asking me for advice and thinking I'll somehow know what to do. I usually want to put pjamas on and hide in my bedroom. Luckily most of my family view me as still a child so there is that

I'm 40, married with kids and I'm a headteacher. I'm just waiting for someone to bust me and realise I'm totally winging this adulting stuff. What fool thought I was grown up enough to look after kids!!

Aged 50 here. Adult DCs not living with me. Clueless. No idea how I got here. No plan. Hate my boring job - can’t take it seriously. Or the people there.

The only times I feel alive are when I’m running or swimming or cycling or racing up mountains or travelling or having a really interesting chat with people who inspire me. I overeat crap and drink too much. I can’t work out makeup. I live with my DP. I have no interest in property or pensions or any of that stuff.

I get the giggles at “conventions”. Funerals are the worst. I don’t believe in marriage. Dress codes make me want to run naked and laugh in their faces. The whole thing about Pjs in supermarkets - I couldn’t care less what people chose to wear.

My boss asks my opinion and then doesn’t like my answer. FFS. I never do anything right. I definitely feel like a child.

Just watched 'Whatever happened to the Likely Lads' 1973!!!!
Theme tune seemed rather poignant ..

'What became of the people we used to be'

Just wanted to pop back on to say thanks to the PP who've replied since my last post too.
No idea how much better you've all made me feel!

There was a comedy to this effect on radio 4 the other night.

What could be more grown up than radio 4.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0b2hps0

I'm 46, a single parent to a teenage dd and own my own home. But I don't feel like I'm an adult. I hate being the one that has to make all the decisions and have all the responsibility, I want an "adult" to do that lol.