To want a baby

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Even though I don’t have a partner.

It’s mad, isn’t it

Of course it isn’t mad

Why is it mad? I was broody from the time I was about 15 before I had even come close to a boy, but wanted until I was 28 to have one. Nothing wrong wanting something, what's wrong is to act on it when it isn't the right time.

Not mad in the slightest. Far better to have a baby with no partner than have a baby with the wrong partner.

It might be mad and it might not be. Depends on your circumstances.

It's absolutely not mad. Women going it alone are a growing demographic.

I've said this before: women going it alone are probably in a better position as they know exactly what's on the table: them and the baby. You only need to have a cursory look at the Relationship's board to see that women who had the 'ideal 2.4 family life' crashed back down to earth in often very harsh and cruel circumstances.

All things being equal: finances, support/network, circumstances then it really isn't the craziest idea I've ever come across.

The alternative is not to have a child or to rush into a relationship, assuming I could find someone.

It depends entirely on your circumstances.

Well, in what Sense? The main problem is obviously that there’s only me as a parent to the child.

It's not mad at all. What are your circumstances like?

By circumstances I mean are you financially stable, have you thought about childcare if you return to work etc. The same sort of things I considered before having a baby

How old are you, and what is your financial position? Clearly this will have a significant baring on whether it's mad or not.

Financially could be better tbh. Not terrible, but not great.

Obviously, I’d need childcare, I wouldn’t shove him up a chimney

I’m 38.

Have you considered using a sperm donor?

I agree 're age but I suspect you are at the latter end, which is fine...as am I :o

Just go for it then

The not having a partner isn't mad but it depends on whether you're in a position to support a child financially, have a permanent home, a good support network.

If the answers are yes then maybe look into it!

Well yes, I would have to use a sperm donor. I’m just worried about the long term implications of that for the child.

I think definitely better to go it alone than to rush into it with the wrong partner.

I'd def do it at 38. You never know what's around the corner anyway. I was pregnant and partner left when I was about 8 weeks away from giving birth. Best thing I ever did to be honest. Better off without him

Yanbu

Lots of people, for various reasons use sperm donors.

Families are so mixed and diverse now I wouldn’t worry about long term effects. As long as you are honest with the child, letting them know how loved and wanted they are then they won’t feel as if they are missing out.

Wouldn’t they miss having a father, though, or perhaps not miss but feel a sense of something lacking? I don’t know.