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Original poster

Village hall busybodies

38 replies

Bostonferne · 16/05/2018 16:10

A clique of bored villagers has taken it upon themselves to organise events in our village hall. AIBU to think that if you are organising an event you should not be getting pissed out of your head whilst 'on duty' and nor should you be making catty remarks about the attendees as they can actually hear you!

OP posts:
Peanutbuttercups21 · 16/05/2018 16:14

I'll have a word with my husband, thanks for bringing it up!

Hereward1332 · 16/05/2018 16:14

Rather depends on what the events are.

Village Halls are open to anyone even if you disapprove of their motives - these events are unlikely to be get any subsidy, so if they are badly organised or unpleasant to attend, they won't last long.

AmazingPostVoices · 16/05/2018 16:16

Completely depends on the event and on whether sobriety is required for the safe or effective running of the event.

If someone is being rude about you in your hearing why wouldn’t you address that regardless of whether they were events coordinator or not?

AmazingPostVoices · 16/05/2018 16:17

Also if you don’t like either the events or the organisers you don’t have to go.

EdmundCleverClogs · 16/05/2018 16:17

A clique of bored villagers has taken it upon themselves to organise events in our village hall.

How is this a bad thing?

Tulip7 · 16/05/2018 16:18

They're the worst! 😂

LIZS · 16/05/2018 16:19

Perhaps if more villagers were willing to take on organising activities it would seem less cliquey.

IIIustriousIyIllogical · 16/05/2018 16:19

I'll have a word with my husband, thanks for bringing it up!

Grin
Bytheseabythesea · 16/05/2018 16:21

But what would you discuss in the post office if they didn't behave in such a despicable manner?

FuzzyCustard · 16/05/2018 16:23

This is half the fun of village life. Have you ever organised an event in the village hall, OP?

IIIustriousIyIllogical · 16/05/2018 16:25

Your title & your first sentence let slip how you feel about these people.

It's probably pretty obvious in real life too - reap what you sow!!

reallybadidea · 16/05/2018 16:29

Presumably either you go to these events, in which case you should be grateful to the busybodies organising it, or you don't go. In which case why does it matter if they get pissed or not?

itswinetime · 16/05/2018 16:30

Context is key here really isn't it if the event is a toddler group I would be with you in the no alcohol! If it's movie night then as long as everyone can drink go for it!!! Also are you paying to go or enjoying there hard work for free??

As for the catty comments maybe the overhear people calling them 'a clique of bored villigers' Or 'villiage busybodies' just a thought Hmm

FizzyGreenWater · 16/05/2018 16:46

events

in the village hall

organised by the villagers

um this is the point of said hall surely???

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 16/05/2018 16:48

God, the nerve! Trying to make village life less mind numbingly dull. I'd write to someone op.

Original poster
Bostonferne · 16/05/2018 17:09

OK to answer a few points.
It wasn't me that the pissed up person was making catty remarks about!!
I do like the events and didn't think badly of the organisers until I overheard them.
Although I have barely disguised my contempt in the OP as some of you point out, this is the first time as until now I had no clues to how awful they actually are!!
I think its great that people put things on for others, yes, but not to use it as an excuse to further your own social life at their expense and getting pissed whilst the other organisers are slaving away.
Being openly rude about some of the attendees whilst you are drunk and think they cannot hear is unpleasant behaviour so I don't think IABU in thinking they are bang out of order!

OP posts:
milkmoustache · 16/05/2018 17:14

Well you should probably take it up with the organisers, an anonymous letter might do the trick. It's difficult to know how we can help!

Luisa27 · 16/05/2018 17:16

Yes Fuzzy!

Well said!

Ohmydayslove · 16/05/2018 17:25

So you live in midsomer worthy? If yes be very very careful. Ffs don’t join any society, choir book reading circle or bell ring. Abs avoid leaving the pub after dark and walking over a bridge

Ohmydayslove · 16/05/2018 17:26

And never ever talk up any woman called Joyce or cully.

EdmundCleverClogs · 16/05/2018 17:26

an anonymous letter might do the trick.

Better not, this is getting into Midsomer Murders-plot territory. If Mrs Jones, the alkie head-clique gets done in, an anonymous note sender will be at the top of the list!

A normal person would just leave them all to it (and realise these things are typical of village life).

EdmundCleverClogs · 16/05/2018 17:27

Ohmydayslove x post Grin

Personwithhorse · 16/05/2018 17:31

We have a really good pop up restaurant in our village hall from time to time - it’s great and we can walk home!

happypoobum · 16/05/2018 17:37

OP I am assuming you didn't grow up in a village or this is somehow new to you?

In my village there are regular piss ups in the village hall and in summer we have piss ups up the village green.

I am sure it is enshrined in law somewhere that bitching about fellow villagers is compulsory???

I am not sure why you are so uppity about this. It's perfectly normal village life from the sounds of it.

Mrsmadevans · 16/05/2018 17:39

Yes, I agree it sounds normal .