Village hall busybodies

[Bostonferne]

A clique of bored villagers has taken it upon themselves to organise events in our village hall. AIBU to think that if you are organising an event you should not be getting pissed out of your head whilst 'on duty' and nor should you be making catty remarks about the attendees as they can actually hear you!

EdmundCleverClogs

Kind of want to know where this village is now

OK so it is perhaps now making more sense to me, I am not from the UK and so I did not know that this behaviour is to be expected. So if the event involves liquor then you can get drunk along with the attendees and talk about them loudly (behind their backs!) and they won't care.

It's not compulsory is it? Don't like the people organising it don't go! Or organise something yourself!

However something tells me your dislike of these people is out weighed by fear or missing out!! being killed as it's always the person home alone missing the get together that goes first in midsummer

So if the event involves liquor then you can get drunk along with the attendees and talk about them loudly (behind their backs!) and they won't care..

You are expecting them to act like paid employees doing their job. They are volunteers yes they can get drunk yeah I'm sure some of them are bitches. I'm fairly sure a lot of the attendees aren't perfect either!! That's life!

Reason 345 why I refused to move to a village - grew up in one and the words "church hall" and "villagers" makes my heart sink. Shudder

So if the event involves liquor then you can get drunk along with the attendees and talk about them loudly (behind their backs!) and they won't care.

The only difference between liquor and no liquor at British community events is the volume control on the bitching/gossiping. It will happen regardless.

So if the event involves liquor then you can get drunk along with the attendees and talk about them loudly (behind their backs!) and they won't care.

Well, the people being talked about might well care, but that's for them to deal with, you don't need to get outraged on their behalf. As has been said, whether drinking is appropriate rather depends on what the event it, but if it's run by volunteers who are also participating, and there are no safety hazards, it's not unreasonable that they might join in the drinking. They're doing this for fun, not as a professional events organiser, and if people really don't like it they won't go.

You should try being on a village hall committee!

It sounds like a charming quintessentially English village to me.😁

I thought that when people get drunk they often say unguarded things about others that they would not say sober. I don't really see why this behaviour might be expected to change because they are event organisers in a village. Would you feel it was more acceptable if they were just attendees or if the event was in a town?

As you say other organisers were "slaving away" the event was being supervised by people who were responsible. I don't see why everyone on a committee has to be sober, maybe next time they will swop roles. Either that or it will be sorted out some other way.

It comes down to someone attending an event hearing rude things about someone else.

YANBU. People should just keep themselves to themselves and stop with all this nonsense of trying to create communities and play a part in village life.

Seriously OP the title of your post speaks volumes. People don't get involved in community life because they're 'bored', and I hate the way some MNetters assume that anyone who works for the PTA or the Church or the local community centre is just some kind of busybody with time on their hands. They're usually people who actually have a bit of community spirit and don't want to live in some kind of soulless place where everyone goes around in their own little bubble.

I, for one, am grateful for them.

Sounds like a hoot. Get a cup and put some liquor in it!