DH said no to sponsor request

[Cheto]

Doorbell goes, DH answers it, came through and said it was a lad of about 9 or 10 asking him to sponsor him . I asked how much did he give and he said 'nothing, I didn't know him'.
Poor lad was probably nervous anyway and DH never asked what the sponsor was for or anything he just said 'no sorry.'
AIBU to feel my DH was a rude tight ass

I wouldn't sponsor a random kid either.

It wouldn't have harmed to give a few pounds, especially if he lives close by

YABU. It’s basically begging. DH doesn’t know him!

Would you send your 9 year old to knock on doors asking strangers for money? I wouldn’t.

Don’t be ridiculous.

I don't think it is right to go knocking on stranger's doors asking for sponsorship really, it should be from people you know.

I wouldn't have given anything either

I only sponsor children I know.

Yabu I wouldn’t have given anything

Not really, if he doesn't know the kid. Who let's their kids go knocking at complete strangers doors? I think I would have turned him away too.

A nine year old knocking on doors alone asking for money? Hell no.

I'd have said no as well. I think it's rude and inappropriate. Also if his parents sent him he's probably embarrassed. Although I'd feel for him in that case I wouldn't want to condone what I think is ridiculous behaviour.

I wouldn't hand over money to a child I didn't know who may or may not be doing a sponsored event.

I wouldn't have sponsored him either. I would have been a bit narked that he'd knocked on my door when he didn't know me to be honest.

“AIBU to feel my DH was a rude tight ass”

Yes. Not just unreasonable but naive

@overnightangel point taken ... I feel I may have to apologise

Sounds like a cheeky kid trying it on.

I think you do need to apologise.
It is not ok to give random people begging at your door money regardless of age.

I wouldn't give money to some random person I didn't know. I'd say your husband was dead right. Definitely not a rude tight ass

I had this recently they had a proper letter from the school and a form, I gave them a few pounds, if they scammed me good luck to them

So he asked for money for sponsorship but didn't say what DH would be sponsoring?

DH did right.

I do too OP! I’m very pissed off wheh anyone knocks on my door asking for money.

I give to causes and charities I support with my money and time/skills. On principle, I don’t give to anyone who disturbs my peace at home.

And I’m sick to the bloody back teeth of sponsorship requests.

@WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam i don't think DH even gave him chance to say what is was for which pissed me off too at the time

I don't even carry cash so wouldn't have been able to help if I'd wanted to! How many people have cash lying around these days they haven't withdrawn for something specific?

@Cheto. Would you be annoyed if someone came round selling something to You? Or an 18 year old begging for money?

No you wouldn't would you.

He was polite. He said no thank you. He closed the door.
It is not acceptable to go begging strangers for sponsorship money and I find it absurd that you would give them it.

Team DH

I had kids knocking for sponsorship, they said it was a fundraiser for their school, so I phoned the head teacher the next day and told them they needed to make sure all the kids knew about not knocking on strangers doors.