DH said no to sponsor request

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Doorbell goes, DH answers it, came through and said it was a lad of about 9 or 10 asking him to sponsor him . I asked how much did he give and he said 'nothing, I didn't know him'.
Poor lad was probably nervous anyway and DH never asked what the sponsor was for or anything he just said 'no sorry.'
AIBU to feel my DH was a rude tight ass

Is your husband not allowed a mind of his own without being held up for discussion and ridicule?

I wouldn't have sponsored him either. I would have been a bit narked that he'd knocked on my door when he didn't know me to be honest.

I agree with ComfyPantz.

So did you sponsor this kid?

I'm guessing not.

Would you be annoyed if someone came round selling something to You? Or an 18 year old begging for money?

Who wouldn't be annoyed at a stranger knocking on their door and asking for money? Seriously?

I’m with your DH. He wasn’t rude, he just declined to give anything. It’s not tight not to give to everyone that asks for money even if it’s for charity. I don’t give a penny to the majority of charities just the select ones I chose! Presumably those of you who think the OPs husband is tight give to anyone who asks.

@tillytrotter1 fgs.. who's ridiculing him ?? It's me that's looking ridiculous anyway !

Of course YABU.
Your dh was absolutely right.
dc should not be encouraged to knock on strangers door.

@WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam. Read my post. I'm saying That exactly. It is wrong for anyone to eng for money at your door. Regardless of age.

Don’t feel bad OP. Just apologise for being a bit judgy and telling him off for doing what he felt was best, and what most people will have done

He was probably on the blag

YABU your DH did nothing wrong.

We have had kids coming to our door before with a sponsored something or other. One time, this kid came to the door to ask to be sponsored, and she said she needed the money now, as it all needed to be in in 2 days.

I said 'well will you have done the sponsored walk by then?' and she said 'we already did it, so I need the money now.' I said I didn't have it, as I didn't keep money in the house.

She took the form back and bolted. Almost certainly a con.

I'll be fucked to the far end of fuckville before I will give some random nobody at my door my fucking money!!! Child or not

My ex and his friends used to do this for ciggie money when they were about 11. I'd have still given the lad a couple of quid

Sounds fair enough to me. Why should he sponsor someone he doesn't know? Who may or may not be genuinely raising money and whose cause may or not be a good one.

If DH and I sponsored everyone we know who is raising money for charity we would bankrupt ourselves. We pick and choose who and what we support. Equally, I sometimes fundraise for charities that are important to me. If other people I know also support those charities or really like me they might sponsor me or make a donation but I don't expect it and don't take offence if they don't. And I certainly wouldn't ask a stranger.

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My ex and his friends used to do this for ciggie money when they were about 11.

I'd have still given the lad a couple of quid [

Dear God. You actually think your ex doing this is funny?

DC should not be encouraged to knock on strangers' doors. Very dangerous and the parents shouldn't allow it! Also no way to prove if the sponsorship was genuine or a scam. I side with the DH in saying no.

I would have given him a couple of quid. Where's the harm?

Perhaps he has been bullied encouraged by his school to get as much money as he can and doesnt have a family who can just write a cheque so did what he thought would raise the most.

Sponsorship is a bit weird in the first place though, isn't it?

Surely if a cause is worth giving to at all, it's worth doing it unconditionally?

Why do we expect people to go through ritual suffering which we then reward with a donation?

UserV yes

A couple of kids knocked at our door asking for sponsorship money for a run. DH said he'd give them the money straight after the run, and he'd come and watch them run over finish line. Suddenly they couldn't remember when the run was, or where!

@Pyongyang. Most likely wasn't real for a start. It encourages begging off strangers?

I think that's the risk you take sending your 9 or 10 year old out knocking on strangers doors. You're going to get some that say yes, but equally some that say no, sorry or blunter no chance. I have a 10 year old. Not done this before, but if situation arose would brief that people giving are a bonus but be prepared for those that don't too.
Your DH really didn't do anything wrong.

As a kid when ever we did sponsored events part of the rules from what ever charity or school was to never knock on doors or ask strangers to sponsor

YABU

I wouldn't ever give money to some random person who turned up at my door either.

There was a recent post on my local community Facebook page about some kids going door to door asking for money for something or rather in the name of one of the local primary schools. It turned out to be a scam (and the parents made them return all the money). I'm sure that type of thing is uncommon, but it's obviously not unheard of.

Wow, maybe it's cultural (I'm Irish), but I'm with you, OP! Of course I'd sponsor a kid who came looking for sponsorship. It's a brave thing for a little kid to do, and for a good cause. Whatever happened to community? I certainly don't know all the kids in my neighbourhood, so I would just give the kid the benefit of the doubt. When did people become so horribly suspicious?! The poor kid.

A little girl 9 ish stopped me in my local shopping centre and asked me to sponsor her for a new kitten ! Definitely kitten i didnt misunderstand her