Play date / broken toy

[lauryloo]

Ds (4) has had a play date today. Other child has been super rough with one of his bruder toys. It’s only about £25 to replace.

Hubby thinks we should ask his Mum to replace but I’m happy to just chalk it up to experience and replace it myself.

Hubby is bu isn’t he? It’s just one of those things!

It's annoying but I'd probably just replace it, and think twice about asking the child over again!

Yes just one of those things. What would DH say if the situation was reversed?

Unless the other parent was present at the time and hence was the supervising adult then you are responsible .

I agree the supervising adult is responsible at this age.

I wouldn't dream of asking the other mum to replace it. Hazard of small children. Has your DS never broken anything?

Unless you took the toy off the child explaining it wasn't suitable to play with and they somehow hooked it down from a high shelf, it's just one of those things.

Assuming the mum or dad wasn't supervising and it was you are your DH then you are the responsibe adult in charge.
Please don't ask the parents to pay

You OR Dh that should say

DH is being unrealistic

Oh god, don't say anything to her! £25 is not worth the potential damage to your reputation if you ask for it!

I wouldnt say anything. At a play date a few weeks ago my dd's friend managed to snap the head off a Barbie doll I had passed down to my dd (barbie was over 25 years old and my own dd has had it a couple of years without breaking it) was very annoying but had to let it go and I never told her mum.

Age 4 the responsibility lies with the supervising adult. Sorry.

it's am accident. I would be disappointed if parent didn't encourage child to be more careful but that's all i would expect.

No way. The child is 4. Toys break. Your Dh is being really tight for the sake of £25. In future if your ds has toys that are important to him hide them or supervise the play.

Thank god you agree with me. I wouldn’t dream of asking other parent to pay at this age. 4 year old boys are just rough.

I wouldn't ask for money. You know for next time to keep certain toys out of the way. My DC have favourite toys that are kept in their room when guests are over.

Your house, your supervision, your cost. If it was really expensive, I'd say this is what insurance is for.

I wouldn't ask for the money. We always put expensive or favourite toys away when there were play dates.

Was the mother there and saw it happen? If yes then she should offer to pay.

This happens a lot to us. I end up removing any precious toys and leaving the more robust or easy to replace items for the play date. Some of my sons friends are super rough and try to snap things on purpose. I need lots of deep breaths on those days.

You would be making a total fool of yourself asking for the money. Kids break things, it could easily be the other way around. Your husband sounds as tight as a bears arse to be honest

what's a bruder toy?

I dint think it’s normal for a 4 yo to be rough.
I also think that said 4 yo was under your supervision and you should have dealt with the situation. Aka stop the child who was too rough, take the toy away because too fragile etc...

So no you can’t ask for the parent to replace the toy.
You can think twice when inviting a child that you know is being VERY rough.

Unfortunately boys of that age don't really know their own strength sometimes. One of my boys went through a phase where it seemed he only had to pick something up and he broke it. It wasn't deliberate or malicious and thankfully I think he only ever broke our stuff not other people's, but it's just one of those things really.

**myfriendbob a bride you is a brand of tractor, digger etc. well made but can he fiddly with moving parts and breakable.

A bruder, not a bride!