Play date / broken toy

[lauryloo]

Ds (4) has had a play date today. Other child has been super rough with one of his bruder toys. It’s only about £25 to replace.

Hubby thinks we should ask his Mum to replace but I’m happy to just chalk it up to experience and replace it myself.

Hubby is bu isn’t he? It’s just one of those things!

We also put special toys away before playdates (eg Lego as son doesn't enjoy taking it apart/building it again, just likes playing with finished item so would get cross if friends took it apart).
I wouldn't ask other mum to pay, however if my child broke something I would offer to replace it.

Replace it and don't invite that child again.

I wouldn't ask other mum to pay, however if my child broke something I would offer to replace it.

^^this.

And gender is irrelevant. They shouldn't get away with being "super-rough." They wouldn't be asked back to my house.

Your DH is wrong. It's the supervisory parent's responsibility. Wouldn't invite the kid back though.

There’s a lot of casual sexism on here towards boys... boys can be rough.... boys don’t know their own strength... etc

There’s a lot of casual sexism on here towards boys... boys can be rough.... boys don’t know their own strength... etc

Oh ffs.

I once broke a pair of children’s binoculars as I didn’t know my own strength.

Always put away special toys or fragile ones before a play date.

My kids know to his certain toys that they would be really upset if damaged or hard to replace items etc.

Not all children take care

Don't ask for payment - it was an accident, juts don;t get those toys out when the little boy next comes round (until he is a little older).
it's not a boy thing, it's a development thing, he maybe has less developed fine motor skills that your DS.

A friend of mine had a little girl who used to just crash through the house like an elephant until she was about 5 - lovely little girl, just not quite ready for delicate stuff - we put away anything with small bits and got out the more robust toys when she came round.

You should replace it yourself and meet the other child elsewhere for the next playdate. Don't mention it to his mum.

Wow - amazed how many people would ban a 4 year from their house after one mistake/problem.

I thought that too Aworldofmyown - how petty! They are four ffs!

YOu are right, if there are any precious toys, they should be put away before a playdate. He is only 4, and at that age, they can be rough with toys. Chalk it up to experience.

I know poor boy, as another poster said, his fine motor skills probably haven't developed properly as yet, they are still little. If this was an 8 year old without SN, than I would be annoyed about it, but still would not ban him from the house, unless his behaviour was poor.

Hubby has ordered a part to repair.

He’s a lovely little boy and it was an accident, I just though DH was being a bit OTT with his initial reaction of getting the Mum to replace. Nothing was mentioned at pick up and he’s definitely welcome here again.

That's good, if his behaviour is otherwise good, and your ds likes him, have him back, just put nice stuff away. Some people are so mean on here condemning a 4 year old child, banning him, nice, says more about them really.

Absolutely just one of those things....

Yep....v annoying, but just one of those things unfortunately.
In future when the rough boy 😂 comes to play, hide anything delicate!