To feel wierd when a frenemy stalks your insta and fb stories

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A while a ago when I left my biz and set up my biz a whole gang of mums disassociated themselves with me. I don’t know why but hey I was upset at the time but I got over it. Thing is my kids are still friends with theirs as it’s a small village. I haven’t unfriended on fb for that reason. But I e noticed they watch my insta and fb stories all the time. They don’t say hello to me in public. It feels creepy but I’m worried if I block them my kids will suffer...

Ooh, I've been on Insta a while but only just started watching stories. Didn't know it was possible to tell who's watched, is that true?! Haven't made any myself yet as still getting to grips with watching them but if I did I wouldn't care who watched as my Insta is a public profile. Bit freaked out knowing people can see that I've watched theirs, though!

Phoebeursula, we see everything, if you have a business fb or insta account there’s a whole array of analytics

I would forget about them.
They don’t speak to you and more importantly they don’t make any comments on social media about your business. No comment on instagram or FB about how crap what you are doing is for example.

In effect, they don’t matter. (But they do increase the number of people who have watched the video which is good for you!)

Let them live, be nosy, maybe jealous that actually you are doing much better than they thought you would.
(See the reaction of some posters about being a life coach - a lot of people don’t believe it’s a proper job or that you can make a living out of it)

Biz? Frenemy? Really?
Who cares if they're watching?
If it matters that much to you then block them.

The premise behind coaching is to assist the client to empower and validate themselves, so that they only need trust themselves. Once the individual is able to follow their own guidance our job is done.
Coaches do not offer advice. This is one of the biggest misconceptions about coaching. We do not deal with vulnerable people, they are referred to the appropriate therapist. We have a code of conduct that follows the ethical principle that someone who approaches us for coaching is ready to move on from whatever situation they are in. Coaching merely provides them with empowerment to move forwards, it is not retrospective.

Vivacondo yes one did start making snide comments when I did Facebook lives so this is why I’m wary it puts me off when they join.

As for biz and frenemy, they are just words. Such judgements! I feel people want some verification of my credentials. I have an academic degree and a masters. I chose to become a coach because I suffered abuse in my marriage and family and was fortunately offered coaching by chance that changed my life. I had a predisposition towards being the kind of person people confided in, so I wanted to help people. It’s been the best decision I ever made, I love my job, it’s 100% more rewarding than my corporate career. Just my choice.

Is this "biz" actually a business at all? Or yet another stupid scam "biz" that so many women splash all over FB?

Sexist much ! OP as you are a life coach .... what would you advise a client ?

It’s hard but people this petty will eventually fall out and implode - watch and wait

So is there a way people can see you’ve been stalking them on Facebook -asking for a friend

Stop...shouting. I wouldn’t attempt to offer coaching to anyone who didn’t approach me, it’s unethical

Bearhunter only on FB stories

I wouldn't give two hoots really. But I would like to know what you said about mums that return to work and why would a big group of friends in a small village turn their back on you because you left your husband ?? This is intriguing.

OP as you are a life coach .... what would you advise a client ?
Very good question.
Also do you have some suppport around you (colleagues who have done the same training than you etc...) that you could bounce ideas with?

I think you need to remember that when you do one of those videos, you are in your professional persona. The fact they are people from the village doesn’t matter anymore. React and treat them the same way you would any other person who is joining in. (Incl if they are starting to have a dig at you). React professionally and they won’t have anything to say about it.

You can’t please everyone and there will always be some nay sayers.

As your dcs will grow up, their relationhsip with other kids will change. Incl their best friend. Don’t make it more important than it is.

Thanks I think I have the answer it’s best to let it lie and not give it importance. I just needed to bat it around a bit in my mind! Devils advocate

Exactly . The school Mum shit can be hurtful and I have been burnt . Everyone has . But these bitches don’t deserve your oxygen

Sexist much

No, not at all. Is it men that do all the MLM bullshit? The selling from home, the scentsy, the avon, the life coaching, the crafty glitter shite selling, the hair bows and tupperware and opening fucking oysters for fake pearls? No, its always and exclusively women.
No sexism, just fact.