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To feel wierd when a frenemy stalks your insta and fb stories

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 18:54

A while a ago when I left my biz and set up my biz a whole gang of mums disassociated themselves with me. I don’t know why but hey I was upset at the time but I got over it. Thing is my kids are still friends with theirs as it’s a small village. I haven’t unfriended on fb for that reason. But I e noticed they watch my insta and fb stories all the time. They don’t say hello to me in public. It feels creepy but I’m worried if I block them my kids will suffer...

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myfriendbob · 14/05/2018 19:20

It’s just feels a bit voyeuristic when the people in question don’t speak to you in real life, like why would they be bothered?

YOU have THEM as your FRIENDS on social media. Think this through. Hmm

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:24

Myfriendbob it’s not that simple, they are my son’s friend’s mums. One is my neighbour, one is a teacher at the school, they are all in the PTA. It’s a small village school with one class per year. If I cut all ties my son will have no social life.

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Weebo · 14/05/2018 19:26

They are just being nosy. Social media makes that so easy.

Cheerfully give them the finger say hello to them in the next video. :o

No, really, don't.

jamoncrumpets · 14/05/2018 19:27

How exactly does one qualify to become a life coach?

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:28

Weebo!! Haha tempting!

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Weebo · 14/05/2018 19:28

Has the OP wronged you on another thread, Bob?

Because you seem really pissed off at her.

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:29

I trained with CTI for three year, to get certified 😊

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marveljane · 14/05/2018 19:29

I watch through all my insta stories including my exes but I'm not stalking him. I usually skip through them actually and watch the ones I like but it will still come up that I've watched them to him. You upload them to be watched, no?

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:30

Not that I’m aware of Weebo, haven’t been on mumsnet for months

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XiCi · 14/05/2018 19:32

People are just generally nosy. I wouldn't read too much into it.

Felyne · 14/05/2018 19:32

Can I ask what a life coach does? I've heard of them but never really understood what they do. Thanks.

jamoncrumpets · 14/05/2018 19:33

I've looked into life coaching, as I work in a similar, albeit more science-based field. The 'qualifications' offered aren't really worth the email attachment that they come on, and it's terrifying to think that unqualified people are advising the vulnerable about all aspects of their lives.

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:33

Marveljane, sure I upload them to be watched, I just didn’t think they’d be interested. I can block them but I’m guessing they’ll know. They are are ultra sensitive about social media as my neighbour stopped talking with me over one comment I made about mums going back to work! That was a year ago!

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marveljane · 14/05/2018 19:34

@infromthewoods I would just block then you won't have to worry about it, even if they are possibly just skipping through them to get to the others

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:35

Sorry you feel that way jamoncrumpets. I didn’t really come here to discuss or defend my choice of work.

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Weebo · 14/05/2018 19:35

Well, I say good for you.

You got out of an undoubtedly shitty relationship, got trained up and started your own business. I'm not sure why people are mocking you for trying to make something of yourself.

I hope you are doing really well.

You wouldn't be the first woman to find herself isolated from her so-called "friends" after a marriage ends.

OyO · 14/05/2018 19:36

Social media boffs: is there a way to block someone who has already blocked you on FB and Instagram?

myfriendbob · 14/05/2018 19:37

it really is that simple actually. People who you have chosen to have on your social media will look at your social media. Not sure how much simpler it can be, to be honest.

And you coach other people on how to live?

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:37

But anyone curious to know what Life Coaching is about I’m happy to answer questions privately 😊

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:38

Thanks weebo, I appreciate that.

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:39

And don’t worry I’m used to it, I’ve taken a lot worse than whatever I’ll get on AIBU!!

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Chewbecca · 14/05/2018 19:42

I click on the first thingy on Insta and it shows me all of them and i press to the right to get to the one I want to see. Is there another way of doing it? As all sorts of people will think I'm watching theirs when I am not consciously! (New to insta)

Juells · 14/05/2018 19:43

How can anyone see that someone has looked at their FB page? I didn't think that was possible. I've mine set to private, anyway.

Cooloncraze · 14/05/2018 19:43

They’re probably not watching your insta stories. When I look at Instagram it always scrolls onto stories I’m not interested in and I click past them- but to that person it will look like I’ve seen it.

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infromthewoods · 14/05/2018 19:55

Chewbecca (great name by the way!!) I don’t think there’s a way to avoid it know, you just have to scroll through

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