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To hate workman

56 replies

Elusiveone · 14/05/2018 08:50

The mess, the noise and having to sort out someone to here and let them in. Im in my third week of having my work done. Ive coped quite well with it but being a student and caring for a disabled dd and i have anxiety and ocd. All this is making me want to cry. Builders are my worst nightmare. Yes im probably being stupid but just want this over with. Im finding it hard to be polite now

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Midthreademergencynamechange · 14/05/2018 08:52

There's no excuse not to be polite.

Boooommm · 14/05/2018 08:54

We've had building work done and it is truly awful. But you have asked them to be in your home and ask them to do the work therefore you have to just suck it up. It's not the end of the world it will end soon full stop I know it's bloody awful but at the end of the day you have to keep reminding yourself how lucky you are to be able to afford to have it done and that at the end of it you will have a nicer house. try and get out as much as you can hope it ends soon.Flowers

Thisnamechanger · 14/05/2018 08:54

The mess, the noise and having to sort out someone to here and let them in

YABU, hardly their fault - it's part of their work!

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Elusiveone · 14/05/2018 08:55

Yes your right but only so much i can take and being mucked about every day with there times. Not easy to juggle that and endless medical appointments with dd that cannot change.

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Mulberry72 · 14/05/2018 08:56

I feel your pain OP, I hate having work done in the house, the mess, the noise drivers me bonkers.

We now schedule any (significant) work that needs doing while we are away on holiday.

No need to be impolite to them though, they’re only doing their job.

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Elusiveone · 14/05/2018 08:58

And being a single parent. I dont have the luxary of someone else here able to help me.

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Sparklesocks · 14/05/2018 08:58

It can be disruptive but keep reminding yourself it’s only short term in the big scheme of things and it’ll be back to normal soon

Namethecat · 14/05/2018 08:59

Mine were arriving at 7.30am but thankfully were going early afternoon. I tend to let them get on with it after they arrive and are given a tea/coffee. Then tea/coffee again before lunch. In the afternoon same again with a packet of biscuits or piece of cake and few chats and seeing if more tea is needed. Job done !!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 14/05/2018 09:00

I hear you OP. We've had major building work done in the past with workmen being at the house for 8 weeks, it drove me nearly crazy. We had no kitchen all that time too.

How much longer will it go on for? Is there any chance you could move out to your parents or family if it's going to be a while?

SilverHairedCat · 14/05/2018 09:00

Honestly? Give them a key. Remind them you're in and out. Set boundaries on where you're happy for them to go in the house, help themselves to coffee, bring their own milk or whatever.

Then come and go as you please. Ring them every day if you want, and ask for updates, but you are making life very hard for yourself.

Hide or remove valuables if you are concerned about them.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 14/05/2018 09:01

It is pretty awful having work done - the invasion of your home, the noise and mess, the fact that there are always problems and questions and delays and increased costs... It's not their fault but it is always a relief when builders leave (usually with something unfinished which you then need to chase them to finish).

expatinscotland · 14/05/2018 09:05

I give them a key and just get on with my life. Point out where kettle is, tea, coffee, milk, sugar, cups and leave 'em to it.

OreoMini · 14/05/2018 09:09

There doing there job! That doesn’t mean you get to be rude to them

onalongsabbatical · 14/05/2018 09:11

Another one saying just give them a key. If you can't be sure of their comings and goings and have important appointments to keep, just give them a key and some simple instructions - please make sure door is double locked when you leave, whatever, and go away and leave them to it. The more time you spend out of the house the less you'll be feeling the invasion, too. Coffee shop hanging out working on laptop? It is a pain but it will end. Try not to let it get to you too much. Hopefully they'll do a good job and it will all be worth it.

freezerfoodyum · 14/05/2018 09:24

Well you don't hate THEM, you just hate having work done, which is quite understandable.

RebeccaBunchLawyer · 14/05/2018 09:26

That’s a bit strong saying you hate them, surely? Didn’t you ask them to be there? Aren’t they doing noisy work that you requested? Why did you ask them to come then, and surely you can go out when they’re banging away?

At least you they are doing something helpful for you; your neighbours probably don’t feel the same way!

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 14/05/2018 09:29

Why are you having work done if you hate it so much. It's not their fault you know, they probably want to get the job done just as quick as you do. Like PP's have said, leave them a key and just go about your day.

starryeyed19 · 14/05/2018 09:30

I've just had three weeks of building work finished and I completely understand. My first set of builders fucked me about and left halfway through. It's not fun at all.

Zaphodsotherhead · 14/05/2018 09:30

Just think how lovely it will all be when it's done (presuming they are doing something that will improve your home?).

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 14/05/2018 09:33

Oh come on people. The OP has a disabled DD plus anxiety and OCD. It's hard enough when you've got workmen in ( even when you have arranged for them to do the work ) without the added issues the OP has.

She's only human and the most relaxed people will get frustrated and down hearted having workmen in the house making all sorts of noise and mess.

The OP probably posted to vent and receive a bit of support eh?

expatinscotland · 14/05/2018 09:42

'Why are you having work done if you hate it so much. '

Landlord probably ordered it.

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Elusiveone · 14/05/2018 11:09

No i did not ask them to be there my landlord did

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Elusiveone · 14/05/2018 11:11

Why some of you are so judgemental sorry if you think i am BU but i have to deal with this chaos. Not you

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Elusiveone · 14/05/2018 11:14

No my neighbours one side had a whole house redone and there building a house next to them and the landlord just refit my other neighbours house the other side. So ive had my share off there noise but it did not bother me as there not in my home

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SilverHairedCat · 14/05/2018 11:14

OP, you posted in AIBU. People give their opinions. They may be harsh, but it doesn't make them wrong.

Seriously, give them a key and go do what you need to do. I know that doesn't help with the mess, but it helps with the noise and worry about your child's medical appointments.

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