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Parking plus death wish kid

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whateverstreet · 13/05/2018 23:14

Ok I don’t think I’m being IABU but my neighbour does.

  1. we have a large carpark that should hold 8 cars, but we all squeeze a few more in (including them) -‘normally 15
  2. they believe their child should be able to play in the Car park
  3. that includes throwing balls around the cars, and cycling in between the cars -‘as all kids should be able to play outside their house.
  4. the bloody kid has damaged the side of one of our cars
  5. the bloody kid has a death wish - they play chicken n dive at the entrance to the car park, they hide and then floor themselves in front of cars
  6. I almost ran over said child the other day, when they dived in front my car.
  7. you can only do a max of 2 miles an hours on the turn into that car park - when I shakingly complained - I got told I must have speeding / he dived in front of my bloody car.
  8. aibu in that I don’t want to be the one who finally runs him over - life ruined.
  9. I vomited last time as it was so frighteningly close - one inch from his head. He dived for the ball at the entrance to the car park - emergency break time.
  10. I told the parents - went in one ear out the other - and now it’s become even more of a game. I’m the nasty neighbour - no just what this kid is doing is plain dangerous.
  11. is it time to move!!!?
  12. I’ve done the obligatory drawing, but I’m not good at it / the red splodges are the cars - the arrow shows where he jumps out/dives face down on cars.
Parking plus death wish kid
OP posts:
LakieLady · 14/05/2018 07:29

Car parks are so dangerous. No car has 360 degree visibility and small children are often below the level of the windows.

Any parent who lets their kids play in a car park is a complete dickhead. Definitely raise your concerns with the police.

Trilogy18 · 14/05/2018 07:39

Could you go with a letter to the parents signed by as many neighbours as possible and copied to whoever administers the car park?

The letter needs to be very clear that this is dangerous behaviour (and describe it) and that all your neighbours find it unacceptable and that one more occurrence will result in all of you notifying social services and the police.

Keep a copy. I think you need to go into writing on this so there is a record.

morningconstitutional2017 · 14/05/2018 07:41

Has the child done this with the others? He can't have picked you out especially for these little games, surely? IIWY I'd ask your neighbours if they have the same problem and get them on-side, you've all got to complain loudly to the parents and yell at the child every time this happens. He's been lucky thus far, one day he may not be and whose fault will that be? A visitor may park and the inevitable could happen. The 'official' number is eight cars - could the fact that there are more squeezed in be held against you? This horrible for you.

KeiTeNgeNge · 14/05/2018 07:45

I agree with getting your community police officer's involved - you need to get this sorted before the kid tops himself.

rollingonariver · 14/05/2018 07:49

Dash cam is a good idea even if you can't convince the parents. God forbid you hurt one of the children, you can cover yourself.

qazxc · 14/05/2018 07:56

You have tried to sort it out amongst yourselves, it's falling on death ears.
This child is in imminent danger, it's not a matter of if but when he will be hit.
You need to escalate this to community police. I would, even for the more selfish view that if an accident happened, I wouldn't be wondering what if.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 14/05/2018 08:01

Honestly, call the police. There was a kid who used to do very similar close to where we lived. I'll not go into details but I can still hear the sound over a decade later of the day all the near misses turned into a tragedy. I think everyone who heard it knew instantly what had happened. Heartbreaking for all concerned, including the poor driver who hadn't a chance to stop in time but ended up with a child's life on their conscience. I've no idea if a wooed from the police would have prevented it, but it's sure as hell worth a try

Mxyzptlk · 14/05/2018 10:22

You could also be held liable if you hit the child and it's shown you knew about it running around the car park.

SistersOfPercy · 14/05/2018 10:43

Could you sound the horn before pulling into the entrance? Might make him jump so you see him? Also might annoy his idiot parents enough to do something about it.

tinkerbellone · 16/05/2018 12:05

Hi is your car park problem going op? X

IceSwan · 16/05/2018 12:27

I'm anther one for dash cam

Original poster
whateverstreet · 16/05/2018 17:50

It seems to have quietened down for a few days - but I think that may be due to some of the neighbours parking their cars differently - slightly blocking the entrance, but it is preventing the kids from playing at the entrance - I was not the only one who complained Smile

I've also asked for a no ball sign for the car park as well.

So 🤞 fingers crossed.

OP posts:
Mxyzptlk · 16/05/2018 23:28

How would a No Ball sign stop a kid from throwing themself in front of your car, just for fun?

Mxyzptlk · 16/05/2018 23:32

they play chicken n dive at the entrance to the car park, they hide and then floor themselves in front of cars
6) I almost ran over said child the other day, when they dived in front my car.
…………
7) aibu in that I don’t want to be the one who finally runs him over

And now you're relying on crossed fingers??

4GreenApples · 17/05/2018 07:35

If the parents don’t have enough concern for their child’s safety to stop him playing with balls in the car park - especially after other residents have told them they nearly ran over the child - then I wouldn’t put too much faith in the parents paying attention to a “no ball games” sign.

Did you contact the police about it? Or get a dash cam?

RedBlu · 17/05/2018 09:32

We had a very similar issue a few years ago - actually to the point I wonder if it is the same place!

It was four house to the right, four to the left and four at the bottom with a small entrance road (it was on a new estate). People parked along the entrance road and outside all of the houses were allocated parking so basically a car park.

There were about four houses who had young children and they were all antisocial wankers who didn't give a shit about anyone else. They couldn't be arsed to take their children to the park which was less than two minutes away and let them play in the communal car park.

They would ride bikes and scooters about and scratched numerous cars, kick balls about denting cars and damaging property, they would jump out in front of cars as they came in or tried to leave. They would dump their bikes in peoples spaces, chalk all over the road (they once chalked out a tennis court Confused)

The parents thought their little shits could do no wrong so if you nearly hit one, you must have been going too fast or weren't looking. Also the old children are allowed to play outside and get fresh air. Us and other residents complained and a no ball games sign was put up and totally ignored. A letter got sent to all residents saying children are not allowed to play in the car park, all hell broke loose and they totally ignored it.

In the end we moved, couldn't be dealing with those morons anymore. I swear even if one of their kids got hit by a car, they still wouldn't think they had done anything wrong - it would always be someone else's fault

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