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To be so bloody devastated..

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Welshgal1 · 12/05/2018 19:45

Posted on here a few times in regards to me and OH ttc and having problems with my currently non existent cycle. Part of this shitty process has been me peeing on OPKS regularly. I've not really bothered OH with that and haven't mentioned it, but have been entirely addicted to pregnancy tests and have shoved many a test in his face asking him if he can see a line when we both know damn well there isn't one.

Anyway he goes to work a few hours before me, so in that time I do my OPK and write the date on it and put it in an old wash bag with the rest of them. Today, I forgot until the last minute and did the OPK an hour or so later than I normally do. I had already started getting ready for work and after lots of faffing about dashed off late and got on with my shift.

Didn't realise I left the bloody stick on the bloody loo in the bloody bathroom. OH knows damn well what two lines means. He doesn't know the bloody difference between bloody opks and pregnancy tests.

I had 3 missed calls and I couldn't answer because I was with customers. It was him crying with joy. Literal sobs down the phone.

Texts from him, the nicest sweetest bloody texts I have ever had in my bloody life celebrating a pregnancy that isn't a thing.

I got home from work to the happiest man alive. I'm heartbroken. He feels awful for getting so excited but bless him he wasn't to know. I'm devastated and I don't know why it's hit me so hard. He was on a split shift today and has gone back to work and I've just laid in bed for hours feeling mortified and sorry for myself, and more so, him.

Not sure what to say or do really or what I'm posting on here for. Just needed to vent and this forum really cheered me up lately with the whole Titzilla thing. Sorry if this is an inappropriate use of the forum.

SadSadSad

OP posts:
hoopdeloop · 12/05/2018 19:47

Flowers for you

GissASquizz · 12/05/2018 19:47

Oh OP x

Onemorning · 12/05/2018 19:47

YANBU. Flowers

Grossmascaragoop · 12/05/2018 19:49

No ones fault at all! Just a horrible misunderstanding Flowers for you x

NorthernLurker · 12/05/2018 19:53

Oh that sucks but at least you know how much you both want this. I hope you get good news soon.

Eatsleepworkrepeat · 12/05/2018 19:56

Jesus life is horrible sometimes Sad
I hope its a trial run for the real thing one day. Good luck op.

MrsMozart · 12/05/2018 19:59

Oh lass. Really feel for both of you.

PurpleStarInCashmereSky · 12/05/2018 19:59

Oh OP Flowers

No ones fault. Just one of those things that makes you feel shite.

AlwaysDancing1234 · 12/05/2018 20:02

Oh OP just a horrible misunderstanding, no one to blame. Sending hugs and Flowers to you both.

Tiredtomybones · 12/05/2018 20:04
Flowers
Mummyoflittledragon · 12/05/2018 20:16

I’m so sorry. I hope the advice on the other thread (Agnus castus) helps. I also read - on another thread I think - that specific acupuncture helps to regulate cycles and hormones.

user1492877024 · 12/05/2018 20:17

So sorry for you.

Welshgal1 · 12/05/2018 20:21

He's home. He's said he really doesn't feel well and has gone for a lie down. I'm worried I've really upset him. Didn't manage to speak to him about it and explain for far too long, he spent about 8 hours thinking we'd done it and he was going to be a dadSad. Urgh I've never felt so guilty and awful in my entire life, he's always the strong one who tries to just brave everything.. so unlike him to be visibly upset and put himself to bed. Trying to give him some space for a few hours mainly because I don't know what to say Sad

OP posts:
Nubbled · 12/05/2018 20:23

Flowers for you.

dontcallmelen · 12/05/2018 20:23

I’m so sorry, 💐

DailyMailClickbait · 12/05/2018 20:25

I'm so sorry. You've nothing to feel guilty about but this must be so hard. Be kind to yourself.

SharkSave · 12/05/2018 20:26

Oh OP you poor thing. I don't know what to say

Kittykatmacbill · 12/05/2018 20:28

Oh I am so sorry, that’s so miserable. Flowers. There is nothing I can say that will make it better, but you poor thing.

ladymelbourne1926 · 12/05/2018 20:28

Oh op I'm so sorry. No ones fault just a awful misunderstanding. Thanks

SleepFreeZone · 12/05/2018 20:28

Oh god TTC is just so fucking soul destroying when nothing is happening. I’m so sorry OP 💐

BrutusMcDogface · 12/05/2018 20:29

Oh, I'm so sorry for you Sad fingers crossed you'll get your baby one day. Please don't blame yourself for upsetting him; it's not your fault. Sending love Flowers

SleepFreeZone · 12/05/2018 20:29

Can I just add that I’d you haven’t tried fertility acupuncture then please give it some consideration. It was frankly miraculous when it came to sorting out my cycles.

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velourvoyageur · 12/05/2018 20:31

Oh sweetheart. You both need time to process. The shock of today will fade but for now it hurts. It's no one's fault, please don't allow guilt to eat you up. Can you go and give him a cuddle? You don't need to talk or find the perfect words but being together I think will only help now? Touch is very powerful, as is just reaching out with your presence.
It is good that he's acknowledging his feelings and getting some rest.

Flowers

Theimpossiblegirl · 12/05/2018 20:31

Oh Welshgal, this must be so hard for you both.
He is upset but probably feels bad for getting it wrong when you both want it so, so much.

This is exactly what Mumsnet is for, get yourself onto the conception boards and you will meet some lovely people who understand exactly what you are both going through.
Wishing you lots of luck.
Flowers

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