Have just witnessed the most unreasonable thing!

[Bridesmaidinchief]

I was just at my best friend's final dress fitting and there was another girl in the bridal shop having her first fitting and her family were seeing the dress for the first time.

She came out of the changing room to total silence and not one of the three people she had brought with her had a nice word to say. One (her mum I think) just said 'oh you'll have to do something about the cleavage, it's too much' and then one of the younger ones said 'I didn't think you would go for lace'. The third one didn't say anything but just shared a look with the other.

I wanted to cry for her. The shoo assistant did SUCH a good job of immediately making a big fuss of the bride and telling her she looked beautiful but you could tell she was upset. The others didn't say a single nice thing the whole time she had it on.

Can you believe they couldn't just suck up their opinions and be nice for one minute?! It's not like they can change anything now, she's stuck with this dress! I was really shocked tbh.

Some people really are burdened with hideous families.

How wicked of them. There is no excusing their behaviour.

I was damned with faint praise. DM said ‘you look quite nice’ when I came down in my dress.

at the pink sash.

Maybe it didn't suit her at all. Strapless dresses are hideous.

Vanilla
wtaf? People actually think those are classy?

Bride YANBU what a sour lot. Its her day, her dress who doesnt want the bride to feel good about herself? I would have told her she looked beautiful.

Wedding dresses are like baby names aren’t they? You can be honest when they’re still deciding but once they’ve picked one, you say nothing but how wonderful you think it is.

People can be so nasty about weddings. Even some mums can be jealous oh their own daughters. I actually can't think of a wedding I was closely involved in where there wasn't someone in the family behaving like a cow. It's pathetic. However if I thought someone was showing too much cleavage and there was an opportunity to fix it, I would say something.

Yanbu. That makes me feel very sad for her as I had very similar when I was getting married. I gave my abusive mother way too many chances to be a mum to me before I gave up - one of which was wedding dress shopping.

She sat through the whole experience looking like she'd been slapped in the face and the more the assistant tried to prompt her to say something nice, the more snotty she looked.

Sorry, bit of a wallow there

iLostIt We didn't have the closest of relationships before that, but it ruined it

It has never been spoken of again

@HeyToTheHo that's shocking!!! I'm so sorry!

The pink sash as well, omg. It's just awful how sour some families can be.

I feel bad that I didn't say anything now, especially as I thought she looked nice!

Some people are just horrible. On Say Yes to the Dress there's always a jealous bridesmaid or bitchy mother ready to put down the bride with a withering comment when she comes out all excited. It's so unkind.

Those poor girls. People can be cruel.

Maybe it didn't suit her at all. Strapless dresses are hideous.

And there you have it. Some people just don't care who they upset or annoy.
For the record, my dress was strapless and I have enough confidence to know that it wasn't hideous and was in fact the perfect dress for me. Some people don't have that confidence and thoughtless remarks can do a lot of damage.

Had exactly this with my DM. I'd lost a lot of weight in the run up. She quietly told me I looked skeletal, the dress didn't suit me and to take it off and we'd find another. This was 4 weeks before my wedding. Was devastated.