My husband has had debts that go way back before I met him, I initially helped pay them off (before we were married) using my savings which he sometimes paid back but more often than not didn't although he did pay for a lot of nice meals out and gifts etc..(he was earning more than me at the time) Every time I paid a debt, there was always more round the corner (we're talking several thousand pounds here each time). When I met him he owned a flat, we sold this and bought a bigger place together and then got married but unknown to me, he had loads of debt and in reality couldn't afford to pay the mortgage on a bigger place. We have since sold that and he used all the money he put in (plus my money) and profit from the sale to pay off his debt. I then received a considerable sum of money from a share in a house that was sold - since then my husband has expected me to pay for everything including more of his debt. I have tried to ask him to save a bit each month but he says he doesn't have to because I have enough (he works full time and I manage my work around the kids who are both at school - not by choice but he has also been very reluctant to reduce his work hours, even though I earn more). He suggested being a stay at home dad but said I would have to pay him an allowance if he was going to look after the kids full time. He told me about another debt a few years ago and I agreed to pay it off after years of nagging but only if he paid me back a certain amount each month - is this being unreasonable - to expect a husband to pay his wife back a loan? Needless to say, six months on he hasn't paid anything back