to be annoyed at these comments?

[DrowningEveryDay]

I met a friend after many years and I was telling him about my husband's plan for the future.

Conversation went like this:

Me: So we're planning to use this XX visa option to move to the XX.

Friend: But you need a job for that right?

Me: Yes. Well apparently the XX visa does not get a lot of applicants so it's easy since only a quarter or less of the limit gets filled.

Friend: Yes, but he needs to be hired for that right?

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Me: So I met up with a penpal from childhood who's now living here and she was so weird in person.

Friend: Because she thinks she has a successful husband.

Me: But my husband is also successful.

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I did not notice the tone until I was home.

Was my friend throwing shade at my husband?

What is this possibly non-existent job?

I agree with Drowning.
Although my initial thoughts were that your male friend has issues with women following men around the world bacause they can go too.
However he may be mysogynistic and or has experience.
You don't say much OP.

It's hard to figure the conversation with your friend.

What is this possibly non-existent job?

Intersection of Medicine and Technology (AI).

Your friend was vexed because it's about your husband and not you.

However he may be mysogynistic and or has experience.

Yes to experience, possible to mysoginistic.

To clarify, again, we met and became friends when we were young and inexperienced. Life happened to both of us which probably hardened him and made him skeptical about everything.

So for people wondering why I am friends with him, we've been friends for so long. It was a different time back then.