The fear of dressing babies in the "wrong colour"

[Praisebe]

So i was picking up a few bits online for my baby and came across this review for some bibs. Do people actually think this was in RL or is this some sort of joke what does this woman think is going to happen if her baby son wears a pink bib that he'll turn gay or god forbid not be her "little man"

We had 4 boys and then 2 girls. To be honest I went frilly obsessed with the first girl. Pink all the way to an embarrassing degree. Girls now 18/19 and often wear pretty dresses with bloody doc martinis or huge clumpy bloody shoes.

Why god dam you why!! Not a heel in sight

Op people are daft.

I do think when you have boys and girls then toys are just toys and why not?

DD had a tool set and DS was obsessed wanting a vacuum and a mop, they'd also do dressing up and DS would float around in a dress and heels and DD in super heros - no harm came to them.

DryHeave I 100000% agree and have been called a conspiracy nut more than once for saying so. Anything to make us think we need to buy more stuff! I know a woman who had a daughter and bought her everything pink with glitter and unicorns etc. Then she accidentally fell pregnant again with her son. At this point her financial situation was so bad that she was on the verge of being homeless. She was stuffing her own underwear with muslin cloths for her daughter because she couldn't afford nappies. But the biggest problem she kept talking about was that she couldn't afford to rebuy all of the baby stuff she needed in blue! She was more upset at the thought of her son wearing pink than the fact she couldn't afford food.

My DDs bedroom is blue. With rainbows. She also wears blue a lot. Because she looks better in blue than pink.. She also wears dresses with dinosaurs on, and not dinosaurs with pretty bows and eyelashes but proper snarly dinosaurs.

I got told off in Sainsbury's once because her pram was red and that was a 'boys colour'.

Pink used to be a "boys colour" and blue for girls

My DD was rocking a boys stripy shirt yesterday. And a load of her next size up trousers are boys trousers. However they were free and she doesn't care what she wears.

She has a red buggy and my friends little boy has the same one!

She was also head to toe in pink one day and was told she was a lovely boy. And had lovely blue eyes. Her eyes are dark brown.

Really bizarre. My local selling group is awful for this. I usually bite my tongue (small community) but once I had to say something: when a woman advertised some astronaut bedding and curtains "for a little boy".

I wrote "girls can be astronauts too!" linked to an article about Valentina Tereshkova but I was ignored.

She also wears dresses with dinosaurs on, and not dinosaurs with pretty bows and eyelashes but proper snarly dinosaurs.

Where do you find those? DD would absolutely love that...

I agree, the colour thing is utter bullshit, girls and boys can and should be able to wear any colour.
My DS's (3YO) favourite colours is pink and he always wants to wear his pink clothes, so I've bought him various pink tops, pink shorts, even pink socks and underpants.
This is much to the dismay of ex MIL who tells me I'm not being fair and I should stop trying to force pink on him when he's clearly a proper boy as he loves cars, trains, superheroes and all things stereotypical of what a boy should apparently like.
She didn't like it when I said that the fact he was born with a penis should be all that is needed to define him as a proper boy

She also has a top that says "today I want to be a princess dinosaur"

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Bloody ridiculous isn’t it. Loving the scary dinosaur dress

https://www.johnlewis.com/mini-boden-girls%27-hotchpotch-dinosaur-stripe-dress-blue/p3457247?sku=237389976&skwcid=2dx92700030043532544&tmad=c&tmcampid=2&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6dX5-n52gIVTLXtCh2ivQ44EAQYBSABEgKE3PD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

How about this, @OnTheList ? Not exactly scary, but blue and yellow so would discombobulate the person in the OP.

I saw a dinosaur dress on Facebook the other day it was an Ecru colour with black dinos on it
tillyandreuben.co.uk/collections/dresses/products/dinosaur-bone-hunter-dress

I hate pink and not sure why. My favourite colour is blue so whether my child is girl or boy they will mostly be in blue.

Some people just like pink for a girl. I don't really care what other ppl chose for their DC same way I wouldn't like to be judged by what colour I dress mine in.

With regards to toys I think it's either laziness or ppl who don't know the child who choose "boy/girl toys". Again, my child will play with whatever they prefer.

I don't judge people who still think pink for girls, blue for boys as it's their choice and I couldn't care less lol.

There seem to be quite a few dinosaur dresses.... should we expect the world to soon be overrun with women palaeontologists?

I made my DGS a quilt for his bed when he was 8 and he absolutely loves it.

Now he is 12 and I offered to make him a new one. I asked him what colours he would like and he very solemnly answered:

Pink and purple. so that's what he is getting.

Snarly dinosaur play dress by sewing circus. DD wears a lot of these dresses, current fave is a pirate one.

#Let Clothes be Clothes started a #dinosaursforall campsign i was involved with on mat leave and luckily boden and next listened and all the other shops followed. Felt quite proud to see dino pants for girls in Primark last year. Pink dinos mind but we are getting there slowly. Am a dino obsessed archaeologist and until this campaign DD had to wear boys bits as a baby.

For anyone on Twitter, you might like @LetToysBeToys and @LetClothesBeClothes. They recently retweeted that family went to Halford's to buy their son a bike. He liked a green and white one. The assistant insisted that it was a girl's bike (frame shape, I suppose). They had to push very hard to buy it.

It's very revealing when you see all these little differences day after day. The slogans on children's clothes are depressing. Boys' t-shirts - active, dirty, noisy, future superhero and so on. Girls' t-shirts - pretty, kind, good friend, princess. It was bad 20 years ago when my children were little but I think it's worse now and I do think marketing has a lot to do with it. Wasn't there a hoo ha about educational globes for learning world geography being sold in a pink version for girls?

DD dresses in a mix on new and her brothers hand me downs. When she was one month old I was used to people saying 'he'. Some people got really nasty when they found out she was a girl as apparently I'll confuse her.. she still hadn't worked out how to use her hands....

I dressed my little boy (8 months) in a 'boy's' pink t-shirt from asda the other day. It was in a miltipack with a blue and grey one...i think. He likes awesome in it but I did get asked twice if he was a girl! It's not just me...it is blindingly obvious he is a boy despite wearing pink but some people are so institutionalised with their thinking!

It is crazy some of the attitudes. DS doesn't wear pink but that's because I dislike the colour myself so even if I had a girl I wouldn't choose pink clothes. DH has a pink shirt, it has so far failed to turn him gay or into a woman, perhaps we should return it?

So blue for baby girls is bad (though maybe not as bad as pink for boys) but as a grown up female cheap maternity clothing was heavily navy blue . And blue is completely acceptable in adult dresses etc. So when does the switch flip that means blue is fine for a girl/woman....?

Also, now I want a dinosaur dress!

I get so annoyed at all the ‘boys’ clothes being dinosaurs/ transport/ naughty boy and the ‘girls’ all being frilly/ sparkly/ cupcakes/ unicorns/rainbows/birds.

Asda is especially bad for this.

If I take DD out in something pink and sparkly, I always get comments like "I can tell she dressed herself" and "isn't it funny how they're naturally drawn to pink/ sparkles/ unicorns at such a young age?". Actually, if I gave DD (aged two) free rein to dress herself, she'd go out every day wearing only a hairy Gruffalo jumper, welly boots and a pair of my sunglasses. We own a fair bit of stuff with unicorns on because it can be hard to find clothes for girls without any sodding unicorns on. DD is unimpressed by unicorns ("oh no, poor horse. What's he got on his head, mummy?").

I don't really understand why people are so desperate to read some kind of universal truth about sex and/or gender into the behaviour of tiny children. From when DD was less than 18 months old, I'd have other mums insisting to me that their sons of the same age were exhibiting typical boy behaviour because they were banging on a drum or hitting things with a stick ("isn't it funny how the differences between boys and girls show so early? Must be the testosterone surge"). Bizarrely, DD would usually be exhibiting the exact same "typical boy behaviour" only a couple of feet away from them.

God I was given a load of secondhand clothes when my eldest was first born and very grateful I was too. You should've seen people's faces when coming to visit and my son was in lemon yellow or baby pink babygros. Anyone would think I had him wrapped in foil ready to roast in the oven [hmm