AIBU: not always wanting to take DS friend’s sister too?

[HeavyMetalMama]

So, yesterday I wanted to take my 10yo DS to the local park on his bike and he asked if his friend could come, who lives a few houses down. Naturally, I said yes. I texted his Mum who then said “Yes but his little sister will be so sad”. Now, I don’t mind as I usually babysit both a bit in the holidays, but I felt a bit peeved. I’ve got a 7 week old demanding, exclusively BF baby and physical disabilities, and so to me having 2 slightly older children is a lot easier than adding a 6yo to the mix, especially one who isn’t keen on instruction and while they’re all on bikes. The Mum does have my DS over occasionally and took him to the fair once with her and her children. I took all 3 of course, but where does it end? Days out? Sometimes I just cannot take both.

So, AIBU?

I replied only with “when can he be ready to pick up?” And her reply was just “are you taking them both?” So that answers that. It’s not so much coping but if when she cycled off I cannot chase them with a pram let alone wonky legs

No just ds's friend. Maybe next time. Ttfn!

It's a text, you don't even have to be brave!

Say sorry I can only take Bob. 2 o'clock ok?

Sorry, just the boys this time. Is that OK or do you want to leave it?

What a bloody cheek she just wants some child free time obviously. I would never dream of asking that of a lady with a tiny baby! Unbelievable cheek some people.

Ok YANBU but you need to get firmer with the C.F. mother.

After her first text I would have nipped the PA comment in the bud with something like "Aww that's a shame for Jane but I can't take both of them and my own two today so DS will just see Jack another day, unless you want to come along with both children?"

But especially now she has ignored your message about picking her son up to directly ask about both children (when she hadn't actually asked you to take her daughter in her first message) I'd have been very clear about only taking your DS's friend and it is that or nothing.

I've had this and the best way is to say no first - no I can't take her because it is not possible for me with a baby and my health problems. It's a shame that your son can't come on the outing by himself. I'll ask you another time if your son can come out with us.

YADNBU

She is though, CF!
I would just tell her that with a baby I couldn't take the 6YO unless the Mum was coming too, like PP have said

Reply-no!

Sorry heavymetal, my post was meant read "the 2 sister were NOT close, I know the bloody cheek of it! It was every time, family BBQs etc when bestie WAS invited.

Can I ask what CF is?

C.F.- Cheeky Fucker

If she needs it spelling out why you don't want to take both her children when you invited only one it's time to call it quits.

I'd just message back saying. "Sorry something has come up" and never invite her d's again. CF's will keep pushing....

I'm sure your d's has other friends with more normal parents he can invite over to play.

So say no, just the boys. Just do it. It isn´t that hard to say no.

Sorry to ask off-topic, but what is a cf?

Whoops didn't read the whole thread my bad