I have a "frend" who makes me feel like a chore to her to even text me back. My partner/fiance recently died. We were going to be getting married this month. He died suddenly . I got this friend a gift that was handmade in my fiance's country a couple years ago and sent it from the country. One of the gifts (there's 2) was handmade and from the neighborhood we stayed in for a month on a getaway we planned when we first became a serious couple. The friend in question got me a luggage tag for a birthday gift recently less than 2 weeks after he passed away. That's right, a luggage tag. To tell you the truth, I think she had it laying around her house.
I recently got her and her daughter thoughtful gifts, nicely wrapped.
I want to ask for the gifts back that I gave her from my fiance's country but I'm reluctant to do so. I know it isnt right to ask for gifts back, but this situation is different as he died and those things are sentimental to me. We picked them out together and one of them is the only thing from that neighborhood I mentioned. Both are handmade. These items have no sentimental value to her. Then again, I think maybe I shouldn't because I might think about the fact I had to ask for them back from her.
I feel upset with this friend and I feel like I've gone above and beyond for her and she makes me feel like a chore. Also, I'm only staying in her area for a short time and will be leaving soon (don't have residency in her country) and she knows this. I'm leaving in a matter of days. SHe makes me feel blown off. I don't know why I have bothered to go out of my way for her in the past or send her something from his country. I thought our friendship meant something but actions speak louder than words. She will say sweet things but then her actions say otherwise (blowing me off, etc at the last minute/cancelling plans).