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AIBU To be pissed at a mum from school and my oh

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:23

I trust my partner wirh my life. I know he woukd never stray this isn't the issue here. He went to a birthday party with my son last week. He sat on his own as the mothers are dreadfully clicky. Anyhow a lass i know from the school run sat next to him. He had a beer as it was in a football club and she had one too. He cones home and tells me party was awful and he sat and had a crack with said woman.
Fast forward to Monday on the school run. She approached me and took pleasure in telling my how funny and amazing my do was and they had an amazing time at the party and hes sooo funny and she's been talking to him d hes added her on fb....so naturally I ask the other half....hes no idea what shes on about doesn't have her number or Facebook. Apparantly at the party she had suggested he added her on fb so he could send her my number...which she actuallu already has. But he never bothered.
Aibu thibking this is utterly weird

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SneakyGremlins · 08/05/2018 23:24

She seems a tad overinvested in him.

Are you sure he hasn't added her on FB?

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:26

Absolutely sure. I would have seen anway. Like I say not trust issue on his behalf just find it a little snakey on her behalf

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Singlenotsingle · 08/05/2018 23:27

She's pretty lonely

thetriangleisarealinstrument · 08/05/2018 23:28

Just ignore. She sounds like a drama llama. Just trying to stir the pot.
At least youve been warned now so your DH knows just to be polite but not to really engage in future.

Singlenotsingle · 08/05/2018 23:28

Probably lonely. Pesky predictive text!

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:29

I must admit I felt a little sorry for her if she was that excited at a kids birthday party.

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SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 08/05/2018 23:30

Weird but probably harmless. If the others were clicky she may well have been relieved that someone normal was there!

MiddleClassProblem · 08/05/2018 23:30

She’s probably added some other bloke with the same name 😂

C0untDucku1a · 08/05/2018 23:31

Do you have her as a friend on facebook?

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:32

I don't really use fb much so haven't added her to be honest. Had a crack with her a few times and gave her my number a few months back as her daughter and my son get along well Which makes it all the weirder she pretended it was to get my number

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C0untDucku1a · 08/05/2018 23:33

Can you search for and see her profile now?

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:35

Oh yeah I did the other day when It happened she hasn't got my oh on there. Again super weird why pretend you've been talking to him. Wondering if it was just to get a rise. She seems like she has self esteem issues maybe. Or maybe just wants my oh for herself

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UserV · 08/05/2018 23:37

I'm gonna play devil's advocate here.

Keep an eye on her......... and him.

She has a massive crush on him, and is like a little girl cooing over Justin fucking Bieber!

HE may not be interested (yet,) but if she keeps pursuing him, his head may be turned.

Monitor the situation. This women sounds batshit. You don't fucking pursue another woman's man like that. What sad, desperate weirdo!

I know he would never stray.

Every woman who has been cheated on has said that at some time or other.......

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:39

True story although oddly its just not something id ever worry about. 10 years in and he still worships the ground I walk on and we have a good relationship. However also know these types of women well and generally they don't stop til they get what they want. At first I kinda brushed it off but the more I thought about it the more sneaky it seemed .

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Rollercoaster1920 · 08/05/2018 23:40

Maybe she finds the other mums clique annoying too so did enjoy your husband's company in preference to them?

Slanetylor · 08/05/2018 23:41

She sounds very friendly. If you also had the craic with her that might be her personality. She was kind to sit with your DH if she could have sat with the bigger gang. She does seem very open and friendly. But obviously talks alot of crap too.
I’m sure I know this person!! The version I know is mostly harmless, very interested in adding friends to her list but no more.

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:42

@roller I totally get that hes very easy to get along with and very funny. It was just the cooing over him and the pretending they had been speaking which was queer. He has women friends hes had for years doesn't bother me at all. Thinks it's jsut the odd way shes approached it . Maybe I'm being unreasonable I don't know. Hence the thread :)

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timeisnotaline · 08/05/2018 23:43

Not what you are asking but I’m a bit sorry for them both at the party if all the other mums are too cliquey to chat. No wonder she’s overinvested in your dh.

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:45

Oh they are bloody awful. They channel it through their kids too. Only pick certain kids to go to their parties etc . Surely you just invite the class. Or all their friends. Sometimes get the feeling they don't like my son playing with their kids. Odd sorts of parents.

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LolitaLempicka · 08/05/2018 23:46

If you truly trust your DH, why are you giving headspace to this situation? It is very nothingy, she probably just has poor social skills and is happy to have a friend, especially if the others are so cliquey.

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MissReginaPhilange · 08/05/2018 23:47

Actually Lolita I'm not sure. I think it just irked me a little as I felt like I was being mugged off for want of a better word. Was just querying others thoughts

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Beeziekn33ze · 09/05/2018 00:12

She may need to get out more!

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MissReginaPhilange · 09/05/2018 00:17

I think.she may. I may make more.of an effort with her and see if she needs someone to spend time with. I kinda feel bad now as she must be lonely if she's doing all that

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BlankTimes · 09/05/2018 00:24

I may make more.of an effort with her and see if she needs someone to spend time with

But not at your house, not with you and your dh, keep them well apart, don't let her contact him "to give you a message" and that sort of thing. See her well away from your home and your dh.

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MissReginaPhilange · 09/05/2018 00:26

Oh yeah no deffo not at my house. Although axtually in a weird way if she saw us up close and personal together surely she would see she woukdnt have a chance of sneaking in. Or us my sleep deprived brain talking nonsense

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