AIBU To be pissed at a mum from school and my oh

[MissReginaPhilange]

I trust my partner wirh my life. I know he woukd never stray this isn't the issue here. He went to a birthday party with my son last week. He sat on his own as the mothers are dreadfully clicky. Anyhow a lass i know from the school run sat next to him. He had a beer as it was in a football club and she had one too. He cones home and tells me party was awful and he sat and had a crack with said woman.
Fast forward to Monday on the school run. She approached me and took pleasure in telling my how funny and amazing my do was and they had an amazing time at the party and hes sooo funny and she's been talking to him d hes added her on fb....so naturally I ask the other half....hes no idea what shes on about doesn't have her number or Facebook. Apparantly at the party she had suggested he added her on fb so he could send her my number...which she actuallu already has. But he never bothered.
Aibu thibking this is utterly weird

Are you sure she hasn't got a screw loose?

she's been talking to him

^Because this is a blatant lie. She's either not all there or she's a liar/troublemaker.

Although it could be both.

Oh that did just make me giggle. I don't know her well enough to know either. Perhaps she is one of those women who are bat shit mental. I've met a few in my time.

Could she have meant he's added her on FB Messenger ??

They're two separate things now. You don't have to be friends to add each other on messenger.

Can you casually find out about how 'great' or not this party was from a neutral parent?

I could put the feelers out and get more info about her in general. I think it could be self esteem related. She has gone from a tubby lady to trim.with fake hair fake lips boobs and teeth. Boobs most recent. Maybe she was trying to parade her new look? Im.not in anyway bad mouthing people who have worl done its each to their own but low confidence may explain the behavior

You don't know she's bat shit mental. That sounds awful, btw. Few ppl are genuinely 'bat shit mental', but I'd bet most of us have done or said something out of character because of situations which affect us in a certain way.
It initially sounds as if everyone else there was v difficult to socialise with, no doubt both she and your dh were relieved to have someone to talk to. She sounds as if she really is feeling the lack of friends for whatever reason, and this came across over enthusiastically when she spoke to you. It would probably be really appreciated if you did make time for her.

However, experience has shown me that NO MAN is immune to attention from another woman (whether good looking or not) so make sure there are no opportunities for any overly friendly feelings on either side, and lay out your boundaries to him now. Sounds sad and untrusting, but as many ppl have said before, no one thought their dp capable of it until it happens. Sad but true.

I meant that light heartedly. It wasn't meant to insult. And I'll deffo take what you've said into account as I don't really know her intentions and like you say no man is immune to flattery and attention

Fair enough :).
Tbh I don't think you have anything to be worried about so far, hopefully it's the start of a good friendship, but keep your eye on the ball :)

This is my take on it;
Your DH left and another dad came along and waited for the party to finish and pick his child up.. She chatted to him too and also bought her a beer. She had already had a couple and doesn't even remember who was who cos her head was a bit foggy
If not the above she must be slightly astray in her head. Bless her.
Don't waste your head on it OP. Take care though. Always err on the side of caution for sure but I don't think she has the right guy

monty how likely is it she had more than a few beers while waiting at a kids birthday party?
Agree she could have been confused about the FB thing though, probably just didn't remember the name correctly.

Who knows how many beers she had but I still think her memory is defuddled.

@MissReginaPhilange

I think I know you.

@sad do you really :)

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Ooops. Sorry

Me and my DP's DS has a good mate at school. We both added his mum so they could meet up. A couple of months later I went to message her about a party to find out she had deleted me but kept DP.

I found it pretty hilarious. Realised she had been liking all his stuff too the cheeky F. But when he went to delete her, I said don't you dare! I'd rather her know it doesn't bother me.
She's alot older and not DP's type, I have no worries. But I do find it funny how crass she is.

I've let her get on with it and kept smiling. So you should too! Honestly don't let silly stunts like this get in your head. Because thats all they are!