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Original poster

AIbU to be annoyed at friend who is perfect at everything friend

46 replies

Beautyandbeast · 08/05/2018 20:56

Before I go on, she's lovely and really do like her.
But sometimes gets on nerves for being just perfect at everything.
Good looks, really excellent at her job, beautiful clean/tidy/ordered home, 2.4 children, good relationship with family/friends./organised.... I could go on.
I feel like no matter what I do I just about scrape by at keeping on top of stuff.
Anyone else know someone like this?

OP posts:
DollyDayScream · 08/05/2018 20:57

The only people who seem perfect are the people that we don't know very well.

Deshasafraisy · 08/05/2018 20:57

Stop comparing yourself to her, it’s making you unhappy. Focus on your own good points instead of hers

SandAndSea · 08/05/2018 20:58

Please can you find out her secret and report back to us?

UrsulaPandress · 08/05/2018 20:59

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Aprilmightbemynewname · 08/05/2018 21:03

Sounds like a friend I had.
Her dh was a sex pest who made her life hell.
You never know what happens behind closed doors.

justanotheruser18 · 08/05/2018 21:03

You need to find a friend who doesn't have it all together so you can compare yourself positively to him/her. Just kidding. I feel you. I know plenty of people who seem to have it all. It's really hard not to compare myself to them and I know I have a great life too. Hug.

WinkyisbackontheButterBeer · 08/05/2018 21:08

My best friend is one of these. It’s even worse because she’s so bloody lovely as well.
It would be better if she was a mega bitch and then I could hate her! Angry

Lorddenning1 · 08/05/2018 21:10

Maybe she isn't a real person, possibly a Stepford house wife robot

Swimmingsnowman · 08/05/2018 21:10

She won’t be perfect believe me. Some people are just very good at hiding their problems/ struggles

PersonAtHome · 08/05/2018 21:13

I have one of these friends. She does triathlons, has an amazing job (which she's really good at), has a wide circle of friends, throws fantastic parties, has a gorgeous (and huge) house, has a fantastic relationship with her husband, wonderful wider family. And she has made more money than all our peers. Oh and she has a family holiday home she can use.

It's so annoying. And she's annoyingly nice as well.

Original poster
Beautyandbeast · 08/05/2018 21:16

That's just it. They are annoyingly nice so you can't even dislike them.

OP posts:
SmileAndNod · 08/05/2018 21:18

I have a friend like this. Perfect house, Perfect job (just been promoted), dc at grammar doing well, dh who adores her. Looks v glam, hair nails always done etc. Finds time for yoga etc. Out every weekend at events / nights out / away for weekends with her girlfriends. Everything documented on FB. Just. So. Bloody. Perfect.

I OTOH am knackered, grey, fat and unappreciated at home and at work in a job is barely over minimum wage. I fucking hate my life but am too worn down to even think about what needsto change.

Yes I know I'm probably jealousGrin

UserV · 08/05/2018 21:19

2.4 children? She has 40% of a child?

happyasharo · 08/05/2018 21:20

I love these words of wisdom when I am feeling jealous (v short vid!)

BrownTurkey · 08/05/2018 21:21

Ah, thanks OP

Gemini69 · 08/05/2018 21:33

are her eyes Orange or Green... HUMANS Hmm

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 08/05/2018 21:35

Maybe she isn't a real person, possibly a Stepford house wife robot

She won’t be perfect believe me. Some people are just very good at hiding their problems/ struggles

Sounds like a friend I had. Her dh was a sex pest who made her life hell. You never know what happens behind closed doors

Anyone else want to project unhappiness/dysfunction/traumatic secret life onto a woman who only the OP knows?

I get that people are trying to make the OP feel better, but do we really need to do this to a complete stranger?

Lorddenning1 · 08/05/2018 21:37

To be fair mine was done in jest, lighten up!

PsychedelicSheep · 08/05/2018 21:38

Sounds like she just works hard at her job, relationships, home, parenting, life admin etc.

And not that different to most of us really Confused

Ticketsfrom · 08/05/2018 21:40

No. Because everyone is dealing with their own shit, you just don’t know her well enough to know what it is. But it’s there.

PsychedelicSheep · 08/05/2018 21:41

I mean, I have a decent enough job and a nice if not massive home with 2 kids and lovely friends I see a lot of.

I hardly consider myself perfect or even remotely unusual. Not sure what the big deal is.

Lorddenning1 · 08/05/2018 21:43

Some people have their knickers in a twist tonight, I'm guessing this was a lighthearted thread

colourfulll · 08/05/2018 21:43

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 08/05/2018 21:44

Sounds a lot like my life tbh.
Didn’t realise it was anything special.

Rudgie47 · 08/05/2018 21:47

You never know the realities of peoples lives. Facebook is a load of rubbish, people just put on all the good things, they dont show themselves all alone, crying into a glass of wine.
As I've got older I realize that everyone has their own struggles and severe difficulties.Also money does not buy anyone happiness.