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6 and 7 year olds being kep in at lunch time for forgetting homework

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DaanSaaf · 08/05/2018 20:55

Year 2 ds just told me they have to stay in at lunch time and do extra work if they haven't brought their homework in.

Aibu to think that's a bit harsh at their age?

OP posts:
Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 22:25

*is

elQuintoConyo · 10/05/2018 22:25

Fuck my eyes for i cannot believe what i am reading!

I'm in forrin and my Y1 son (6.5 yo - Y1?) has one book to take home on a Tuesday, read, write a few bits (author/illustrator, what the main character did, how the story ended) then choose a face: liked the book, meh, didn't like the book. The book goes back the following Monday. That's it. Brilliant.

I teach English to children and at various points during the class we'll get up and jump around or run about. We also throw a (soft) ball around to help liven things up. My students are thriving and beyond happy polishes fingers on shoulder

If any teacher kept my son in at playtime for homework not done, they'd be feeling my wrath. I'm not a pfb mother, DS can be a bit of a silly goose and i'm 100% with the teacher on how to handle that, but homework? At that age? No.

Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 22:35

@elquintoconyo

I would keep your child in regardless of age if work wasn't completed because he misbehaved.

Oliversmumsarmy · 10/05/2018 22:45

Just to point out kids who are know. To struggle or have a genuine reason are not kept in

. What do you consider a genuine reason. Dyslexia, ADHD,dyspraxia. You would struggle to get a diagnosis at that age.

How do you know someone is struggling the first time they have not done their homework.

Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 22:49

@Oliversmumarmy

Issues at home, illness ect ect.

Obviously maybe not the first time.

CalF123 · 10/05/2018 23:03

I'd love to be the teacher who takes away some of the entitled PPs' DC's breaks and lunches. I'd smile sweetly as they told me their dc didn't need to do homework as they 'didn't believe in it'. Then say "oops, must rush off, little Tabitha hasn't earned her lunch break today so better go and supervise detention."

Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 23:12

@CalF

The children with entitled parents who moan I relish punishing.

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 10/05/2018 23:15

linz and cal you relish punishing kids because you don’t like their parents?

Are you sure you’re cut out to be teachers because that’s a really weird attitude.

Oliversmumsarmy · 10/05/2018 23:17

Does that mean those with undiagnosed learning difficulties too

Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 23:18

Yes

GirlInterruptedOftenByKids · 10/05/2018 23:28
Hmm
Oliversmumsarmy · 10/05/2018 23:37

So if a child cannot do the homework you would have them sit staring at a blank piece of paper all break and lunchtime.
How are they meant to do it. Punishing them for not being able to do the work. Making them sit in a classroom every break and every lunchtime is not teaching them anything

Oliversmumsarmy · 10/05/2018 23:40

You need to put your theory forward for an award. Those with dyslexia and who cant read would be cured just by them sitting in a classroom with out a break

Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 23:43

@Oliver

I have already said if they are struggling that is different and special needs.

GirlInterruptedOftenByKids · 10/05/2018 23:43

So even though dd gets twice as much homework as her brother and the kids in .the other year 1 classes I'm not to moan or you'll enjoy punishing her all the more? And that makes me entitled?

CalF123 · 10/05/2018 23:46

@GirlInterruptedOftenByKids

How much homework she gets is irrelevant. Presumably she isn't getting 5 hours a night.

Linzeyhun · 10/05/2018 23:48

@girl

No of course not. I just find the naughty kids are the one who's parents have something to say examples include

Why was my child moved seats?
Why was my child kept in ?
My child wouldn't swear.
How dare you tell my child they couldn't use the loo.

GirlInterruptedOftenByKids · 10/05/2018 23:56

Why is it irrelevant? If her brother is done in ten minutes it's hard to keep her going for an hour plus. If she knows her friends from other classes get half of what she gets it's hard for her to motivate herself. And from my POV it looks very much like a ridiculous workload for a just turned 6yo

Audree · 10/05/2018 23:57

Posts like these make me grateful for my kids’ teachers, who are actually aware of the latest research in education and the negative impact of homework. It’s great to know that most educators are genuinely concerned with the kids’ wellbeing and don’t enjoy making little kids suffer.
The first thing my 8 yo dd did when she got home from a national competition was to write to her teacher to thank her - I found out after she had sent her message. The same teacher who gives little or no homework and sends parents a message to remind us the importance of kids’ getting enough sleep.
Most teachers are caring and open minded. Some are not.

GirlInterruptedOftenByKids · 11/05/2018 00:01

I already said she's very well behaved at school so not a "naughty kid" thanks

You'd probably think I was That Parent if you were d s" teacher tho :

"Why is my child being verbally and physically abused by another child? Why do you keep letting him sit near that child? Why does his assessment keep getting forgotten about? "

Bet all you hear is blah blah blah moany parent.....

CalF123 · 11/05/2018 00:04

@Girl

That will be a great lesson for her then in self- discipline and staying focused on your own work rather than worrying about what others are doing.

Linzeyhun · 11/05/2018 00:05

@Girl
I'm sure you are aware that is not what I'm saying.
Parents concerned about welfare and parents coming in to complain because the child doesn't want to adhere to my classroom policies are different.

Oliversmumsarmy · 11/05/2018 00:10

No Linzeyhun I asked if you punished those with undiagnosed learning difficulties.

You answered Yes

Or were you answering yes to the question about punishing children if you didn't like their parents.

Linzeyhun · 11/05/2018 00:14

@Oliver

Mistake there on my part.

I was trying to say that children with learning difficulties wouldn't be kept in.

NorbertTheDragon · 11/05/2018 00:28

My son was regularly kept in at break and lunchtimes for not doing his work. Meaning he had no break at all.

He has ASD & ADHD so has trouble concentrating. Not giving him a break at all meant he was even more fidgety and less able to concentrate in the afternoon then, so it was a vicious circle which his teachers failed to see despite his diagnosis.

I now home educate as he was holding it in all day and exploding in rage the second we walked out the gate, and the school was so focused on SATs at a young age they only did Maths and English, as a child who found handwriting incredibly difficult, it was destroying him. Especially as the help I'd been promised he'd get for 3 years never materialised.

I also told all my kids primary teachers that I'd never make them do homework. I thought it would be a problem but most of them were fine about it. We always read books, and they had the choice to do homework if they wanted.

My older ones are at secondary now and getting lots of homework and have no problem getting on with it.