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Call the police yet?

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MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 05:20

DP is abroad. He went out with mates, had an argument and got split from them. Called me at 3am because he couldn't find his way back to his hotel. I was chatting to him and helping him via maps and sobriety.
He went off the phone to look properly at maps and I haven't heard from him since.
His phone is dead and just spoke to his brother whose sharing a room with him and he's not back yet.
He hasn't used the joint account and doesn't have any other money on him.

Best case scenario he's fallen asleep drunk, but he's in a big city, not really sure what to do.

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Achafi · 08/05/2018 05:22

Is he in.the UK?

MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 05:22

No France. I'm in the UK

Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 08/05/2018 05:24

I wouldn't worry just yet, did he say anything like his phone was dying or bad signal? And there could be a possibility he's fallen asleep somewhere or is in the lobby if there is one, when it's early enough rig his brother and ask him to go look for him and re trace steps they taken last night, as I think k with filing a police report someone has to be missing for 24hours...sorry I'm notuch help op and I'm sure he's fine but I'm sure there will be someone who has better advise will come along soon.Brew

MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 05:24

I mean I know the police won't be interested in a drunk man that's been gone for 3 hours. But so worried.

Janus · 08/05/2018 05:25

Can his brother go to where he last was as you may have a good idea where he was when you located him on maps? Did he sound relatively with it when you were speaking to him? Chances are his phone has just died and he’s still making his way home? Hope you’re all ok x

Achafi · 08/05/2018 05:25

I would check.his social media and then get his brother to report him from the country that he is in.

Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 08/05/2018 05:25

Op your 2nd post isnt the same name..best get it changed if you can just thought I'd let you know

MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 05:26

Thanks @Purpleneonpinkunicorns x post.
Yeah I know you're right. Trying not to worry.

Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 08/05/2018 05:27

You're welcome..like janus has said maybe he's still walking back to the room, I would try and remain calm..but I know how easy it is for us to say that when were not in your shoes x

WalkingOnAFlashlightBeam · 08/05/2018 05:28

As worried as you are, I don't think you should call the police. I don't know France's laws on missing people but if it's anything like England, police won't do anything or consider him missing for a while yet. It's only been a few hours!

His phone is dead, I'm inferring he's drunk, I would guess he has ran out of battery and gone to sleep if off a bit before he can find people to ask for directions or somewhere to charge his phone in the morning.

Ask his brother to let you know if he heard anything. Argument or no, I reckon he'll be willing to go and have a look for him in the morning.

Another thread taught me that you can use find my iPhone to see the last known location of someone if they have an iPhone and the feature switched on and you have their log in details, have you thought of that?

You've had a name change slip :)

Redglitter · 08/05/2018 05:28

think k with filing a police report someone has to be missing for 24hours

No that's not the case. You can report someone missing after a much shorter time than that. However just because you report a person missing doesn't mean it'll meet the criteria straight away. In circumstances like the OP has quoted, albeit it's worrying, there's no way the police would get involved

MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 05:28

@Janus yeah I was hoping that, I think brother is back asleep now. I'm half angry/half worried...

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MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 05:34

Good, this is what I needed people to talk me down from using my dodgy Del Boy French to call the gendarmes,

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Purpleneonpinkunicorns · 08/05/2018 05:42

Thanks redglitter I've learnt something already today as I've always thought it has to be 24 hours, and op I'm sure he will turn up soon as he is probs walking slower than normal so I wouldn't practice your accent just yet Winktry and relax and try and get his brother to go look for him

Audreyhelp · 08/05/2018 06:07

It’s not that long to be missing bet you hear by ten,

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MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 06:26

He's got a train back to the UK before ten!!

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PlumsGalore · 08/05/2018 06:26

I suspect he has used his battery up whilst looking at maps and is still lost. It's very warm so he's probably slept a couple of hours on a bench. Once the world gets up and starts moving around about now, he will hopefully manage to either find his way back or a helpful stranger will point him in the right direction.

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MyOtherUserNameIsAUnicorn · 08/05/2018 06:32

Update: he's alive and well now I'm just waiting for him to call me back. Relief is quickly turning to anger! Thanks everyone for being my sanity when I was panicking.

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youarenotkiddingme · 08/05/2018 06:46

Glad he's ok Thanks

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 08/05/2018 06:51

Glad all is ok Flowers

ClaudiaWankleman · 08/05/2018 06:59

Why anger? His phone died and he sorted himself out in a few hours. Doesn’t sound like much to be angry about.

Janus · 08/05/2018 07:06

Oh thank goodness!! I think anger is normal, you’re angry because you were so worried but you can’t always have a fully charged phone!

TammySwansonTwo · 08/05/2018 07:09

If he angry too! Grown adults shouldn’t be getting so drunk that they can’t look at a map, especially when in a foreign city, and by being reckless he’s scared the shit out of you too.

Unless you’re both 18 and don’t know any better, I’d be having a serious chat when he got home!

TammySwansonTwo · 08/05/2018 07:09

Crikey. I’d be angry too.

Stupid phone.

Fruitbat1980 · 08/05/2018 07:53

Also using maps kills phone batteries fast.
Buy him a super sim credit card size power bank thing to re-charge before he goes on his next jolly!

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