Can't get through a meal without..

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My mum mentioning her weight/food habits in a circumspect way EVERY meal. Btw she's not over weight and neither am I.

AIBU to find this really really really irritating.

Sometimes it's 'can't eat that, that, that' as reading a menu.

Sometimes it's a 'ooh that's very carby/fattening (ps I hate that word)/heavy'

Sometimes she gets some food, then purposely says (in a loud voice) 'oooh I can't possibly finish that!'

Sometimes she shoves her food on other people's plates in a very obvious way 'you finish that, I cant'

Sometimes to the women in the group 'you aren't going to finish all of that are you!'

This week we were at a BBQ and she ordered a pork kebab, chips and a flatbread then said 'only a soda water please, lager is really really fattening' I thought that it wasn't the lager that was unhealthy in that situation.

I just change the subject whenever she goes on about it, especially when she is in front of my DD. It's brought up all sorts of weird memories from childhood that she used to have this bizarre commentary on food.

Does anyone else's mum do this? It's driving me bonkers.

Mil once made a comment about not being able to manage the portions in a restaurant in front of dh’s female friend.
Friend made a show of stretching and replied ‘Well then, sit back! You’re about to see something special!’

Heh, I like this person. They sound like good fun.

Someone else said it but there are so many lines on here that I've heard her say, or actions that she takes that are familiar! It must be very common.

And the fact that someone else has pointed out that these days everyone is Vegan/ low carb/ paleo is so right.

The one that resonates with me I think is one that I think Peter Kay has made a skit out of, where his mum wants cake and she says 'just a sliver'

Slightly related but what do you say when your mother has these kinds of food related outbursts in front of a young child? Telling them they (the child) will get fat or the adult will get fat?
It makes my blood boil just observing it but I need some stock phrases to cut this nonsense out!

I don't per se have stock phrases but I do just change the subject and hope that she cottons on to me doing that.

On the occasion that I have said something it has been on the lines of 'Please can we not speak about diets in front of DD?' Or 'the only diet we should be talking about is what makes a healthy diet'. I've also mentioned to her to not make 'skinny' a compliment.

The stock phrases are bringing back memories

• just a sliver of cake
• any starter - even the most minute bit of smoked salmon on a lettuce leaf - is declared "A meal in itself"
• the "don't order any takeout for me - I can only manage a tiny nibble" - then everyone wonders where all the prawn toasts, spring rolls and crispy duck went! We got wise and always ordered a full portion for her
• the trying to put stuff from her plate on others' plates - then criticise us for eating
• trying to send us off with half the contents of her fridge - while criticising our weight
• several collapses (once bluelighted to hospital) as a result of starving herself after being "bad" ie eating at CHRISTMAS

'It's a meal in itself' ha ha yes! That's one I hear. And the takeaway thing, 'i won't eat a portion of chips, I'll just have couple from all of you' (which in actuality was an entire portion of chips!)

My DM isn't to bad for this sort of thing but she did used to have an annoying habit of yelling out (literally) "just a small one! Just a small one!" when anyone was serving ice cream or cake at the dinner table. Just annoying because she did it in such a loud aggressive manner, and as if she was going to be given a massive pile of ice cream anyway at a normal family dinner.

Anyway we took giving her a thimble sized bit of ice cream served in the smallest bowl in the house, a little sauce bowl. She soon gave up her saying.

Not covering your issue here exactly OP but maybe you will enjoy this fantastic piece of slam poetry on related subject matter. It is called ' shrinking women '

If my mum shoved some food on my plate I would loudly state "URGH! Get your skanky left-overs off my plate!" and shove it right back.

Yes, YANBU, that is super annoying behaviour.

I bloody hate women who have this pose of 'I'm so delicate, I can only eat one single lettuce leaf'. Fuck off!

I also hate adults who make a huge parade of fussiess around food. Make sure the restaurant caters to your diet, and then order what suits you. Don't insist that everyone listens to a half hour moan about not liking this, or that not agreeing with you.

Can't you just roll your eyes every time she starts?
"Oh YAWN! Can we talk about something INTERESTING this meal time please?"