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to ask for school trip money back

137 replies

georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 08:36

DD was sick last night, so although she is absolutely fine now and perky as anything she can't go to school for 48hrs after the last time she was sick (so will now wednesday if no further sickness).

Problem is she was due to go on a school trip tuesday, I don't want to be too outing but the trip was between £15-20, I'm a single parent so this was a bit of a squeeze but I put aside a little for the few weeks and managed to pay it at the last minute.

Now she is unable to go this seems an unnecessary expense that could go towards something important or just a little something to cheer her up after missing the trip but having not been in this position before WIBU to ask the teacher if this is possible??

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PattiStanger · 07/05/2018 09:23

I would imagine that posters aren't pretending to give medical advice but are posting from years of experience of having children who vomit on a one off basis for a variety of reasons that don't mean they have anything they would pass onto everyone else.

Of course you can ask about a refund nicely, if it's not possible the school will say that. We don't have enough information to know, it might be something where they only have to pay for those who go. The OP's already said there's no bus involved.

On that basis though I think the cost is a bit steep for something for 6 year olds. Is it a theme park?

piflekins · 07/05/2018 09:28

Definitely ask - it may be that they don't pay until the day. You sound like a lovely parent.

Nothisispatrick · 07/05/2018 09:29

Can't believe all the people saying send her in, absolutley disgusting. The amount of parents we get saying 'oh they were only sick that once' when their kid has projectiled all across the school corridor or all over themselves in the middle of the classroom. Same bloody parents who'd be the first to moan if their teacher was off sick for a few days with a bug and they had supply.

Mumofkids · 07/05/2018 09:30

I just wanted to add, I always observe the 48 hour rule, in fact as a sahm currently, I love it as I generally get 2 days with a well kid to enjoy, that I don't normally get. My son had 1 bout of upset tummy last weekend and I was delighted to have him home 2 days! Even though as it was 11am Sunday receptionists said to send him in on the Tuesday I stuck to the rules and he had a lovely day off.
My daughter missed her yr 5 only trip of the year due to sickness and was so gutted. She was sick the day before so there was nothing to be done.
I only said that if it was a resolved episode last night and she was fine all today and all night I would consider sending as it's a shame to miss out. If you choose not to send I would ask for the money back.
I would also never give any child the school made pack lunch as it's awful!!!

OverTheHedgeHammy · 07/05/2018 09:31

No harm in asking if there is any chance of a refund if they don't need to spend the money on admission. Just ask if it's possible. Please don't demand it back. (TBH you sound nice and I doubt you would!)

Mumofkids · 07/05/2018 09:34

The high and mightys suggesting people are out of order, if she had any further sickness or has loose bowels today then definitely don't consider sending, if nothing else, for your child managing a possible loose motion out for the day would be dreadful. We knew a child who was sick so regularly with a sensitive tummy that the 48 hour rule had to be ignored as it was clearly not a gastro bug.

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georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 09:35

mum maybe it differs across different areas? Last year I went as a helper on a trip and they got a baguette with a choice of filling, a piece of fruit and a yoghurt so quite similar to a homemade lunch!

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BurpeesAreTheWorkOfTheDevil · 07/05/2018 09:36

I have a 'happy chucker ' my kid is often sick for no reason, he has a really sensitive gag refuel and can throw up if someone has a snotty nose etc

In your position, with the heat and excitement and food kids don't usually have a lot of, like ice cream, picnic etc I would keep an eye on her, if she's eating fine and doesn't throw up again I would send her Tuesday.

Childrenofthesun · 07/05/2018 09:37

On that basis though I think the cost is a bit steep for something for 6 year olds. Is it a theme park?

The majority of that will probably be paying for the coach. Hiring a coach for a full day is extortionate.

RexManning · 07/05/2018 09:46

I would also never give any child the school made pack lunch as it's awful!!!

Sounds like you have a poor school cook. Our KS1 packed lunches are a sandwich on wholemeal bread, a piece of fruit, and a piece of homemade cake, and they're lovely.

The majority of that will probably be paying for the coach. Hiring a coach for a full day is extortionate.

Yes, it is, but there's no coach cost here. OP said above that the destination is local and parents have been asked to drop off and pick up from the trip venue.

Quartz2208 · 07/05/2018 09:48

Could it be sunstroke?
If she has been ok for 36 hours (and no other symptoms at all) I would put it down to sunstroke to be honest

OreoMini · 07/05/2018 09:50

@Childrenofthesun the OP has already said they had to drop there own kids to the place and pick them up Smile no travel costs for this one.

£15-£20 does seem a lot of a school trip though with no coach cost. My kids school tend to be around the £3-£8 mark.

crunchtime · 07/05/2018 09:51

just send her in!
seriously-she hasn't been up all night being sick-it was a quick thing and she's fine now. don't make her miss her trip.

OreoMini · 07/05/2018 09:51

I also didn’t know schools offered packed lunches if kids went on a trip! My kids school always ask us to bring a pack lunch and they are in reception and ks2 so both get free school dinners currently

Nothisispatrick · 07/05/2018 09:57

OreoMini

If your child gets free school meals because they're in ks1 you shouldn't be asked to provide a lunch! That doesn't seem right.

Atthebottomofthesea · 07/05/2018 10:01

Dd went on a trip recently and they provided the lunches. They usually haven't but I guess that is easier than 50 odd lunch bags.

RexManning · 07/05/2018 10:02

@OreoMini a lunch should be provided for your child in reception, certainly. KS2 (year 3 - year 6) children don't receive universal free dinners but if your child is eligible for FSM then they should be given a packed lunch for a trip.

Childrenofthesun · 07/05/2018 10:02

Blush If no coach cost, that is expensive.

Springnowplease · 07/05/2018 10:03

Not all school can provide sandwiches, only those with their own kitchens.

StealthPolarBear · 07/05/2018 10:04

The 48 hour rule is usually the law on mn! Wonder why this thread is so different

BewareOfDragons · 07/05/2018 10:05

If she's fine today, I would send her. May well just be the heat.

OwlinaTree · 07/05/2018 10:06

We give the option for a school pack up or parents providing pack up.

Ask for a refund. They won't think you are unreasonable to ask. Schools may be underfunded but that's not the fault of individual parents.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 07/05/2018 10:08

I'd let her go on Tuesday if she's not sick again.

RexManning · 07/05/2018 10:09

@springnowplease Except that universal FSM for infants mean that schools have to find a way around this. Presumably they buy in the usual meals from an outside provider, so they just have to do the same with sandwiches.

Mumofkids · 07/05/2018 10:12

@georgiadronea @rexmanning I've had kids at 3 primary schools and the dry cheese sandwich and hard flapjack provided was awful! Good to hear other schools do better!

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