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AIBU?

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to ask for school trip money back

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georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 08:36

DD was sick last night, so although she is absolutely fine now and perky as anything she can't go to school for 48hrs after the last time she was sick (so will now wednesday if no further sickness).

Problem is she was due to go on a school trip tuesday, I don't want to be too outing but the trip was between £15-20, I'm a single parent so this was a bit of a squeeze but I put aside a little for the few weeks and managed to pay it at the last minute.

Now she is unable to go this seems an unnecessary expense that could go towards something important or just a little something to cheer her up after missing the trip but having not been in this position before WIBU to ask the teacher if this is possible??

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Fluffybat · 07/05/2018 08:56

As @northernknickers said the school will likely refund you. I'm a teacher and my school would but as also stated it would come out of school budget. We also have no your sticks or board pens! Nightmare 🤣 You sure she couldn't have a bit of sun stroke?

If you're missing a day of paid work then ask for the refund but maybe see how your dd is today.

Fluffybat · 07/05/2018 08:57

Glue sticks.... not your sticks

bobstersmum · 07/05/2018 08:58

You can't ask for the money back and will look desperate if you do. But if no more sick and eating fine it's likely not a bug so I wouldn't be keeping off personally. Kids are often sick as a one off, stomach bugs are terrible and I've never known it be just one episode of sick.

Idontdowindows · 07/05/2018 09:00

It doesn't hurt to ask. If you don't ask, you don't get.

It's not unreasonable at all to ask.

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georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 09:00

There wasn't any transport costs as parents are expected to drop off and collect directly from the place so no coach/bus costs its just the admission I think. They are in KS1 so packed lunches were provided as their school dinner.

I will have to ring office tuesday AM anyways to inform them if shes not coming in so perhaps I could ask then,I don't want them to feel they have to refund me if it comes out of the schools pocket but some of it may be paid on the day?

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Tiredofit · 07/05/2018 09:00

Does she get free school meals? Schools here get extra money for children on school meals (I'm not sure if that's the case where you are) and it may give them a bit of leeway in refunding the money.

Idontdowindows · 07/05/2018 09:01

and will look desperate if you do

No she won't, schools understand parents not being able to just throw money away and putting it like that sounds very much like shaming her for not being able to throw 20 quid away for nothing.

user1955 · 07/05/2018 09:01

Think carefully about sending her if there is ANY chance she's unwell. At school we can care for ill children with some level of comfort while we call a parent or carer, then they go home to the comfort of their own bed. Trips can be miles from home, meaning parents can't get there to collect, so they have to stay all day. They often have few facilities and the whole trip has to come to a grinding halt while the child is sorted out. This impacts the other children, not pleasant for the staff and, most importantly, is awful for the ill child.

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georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 09:03

Could possibly be heat stroke? No other symptoms really other than complaining of a tummy ache yesterday after tea which she does sometimes to get out of finishing it so thought nothing of it at the time.

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Yorkshirebetty · 07/05/2018 09:03

It's a tricky judgement call with sickness, but please bear this in mind : I once took a school trip and a girl started vomiting on the coach. The mess and smell triggered others. It was awful. I rang her mum who told me that she'd had a sickness bug but seemed ok that morning so came on the trip. Honestly, don't risk it!!

ILoveMyMonkey · 07/05/2018 09:03

If she is absolutely fine today then I'd send her in (teacher speaking). What time was she ill yesterday?

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georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 09:04

Tired she gets free KS1 meals but not the general one, she doesn't qualify for the pupil premium

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MerryMarigold · 07/05/2018 09:07

It's not d & v if she was only sick twice. It's very different having the 48 hour rule for a child who's had constant diarrhea, vomiting, stomach cramps etc. for a wHole day. That's when I keep them off for 2 days. I'd send her in.

aladyofindeterminateage · 07/05/2018 09:07

How does travel insurance work wrt school trips?

chocatoo · 07/05/2018 09:08

I probably wouldn’t send her in but I would definitely ask whether all or part of the money could be refunded.

Supermagicsmile · 07/05/2018 09:10

Op, if she's fine today..let her go tomorrow!!

MaisyPops · 07/05/2018 09:10

aladyofindeterminateage
When we had a child ill (injured and at A&E the day before fhe trip) and unable to attend, home got a Drs note and then they wenr through school and we helped them put a claim in.

That was for an active residential though. I'm not sure for minor illness

BellBookandCandle · 07/05/2018 09:13

Even though school don't get PP for your DD, you still may not have to pay full price. The cost of a trip is the suggested amount to make it economical viable. However, if you can't afford to most that you can pay what you can afford and school cannot exclude your DD from the trip.

Letters usually say that the trip may not go ahead if they don't have enough contributions (or something like that). If everyone only paid a proportion it's unlikely the trip would proceed, but that rarely happens.

Worth remembering for next time. Hope your DD feels better soon and enjoys the bank holiday.

I would probably send her if she was ok today/tonight

Mxyzptlk · 07/05/2018 09:13

There's no harm in asking politely if there could be a refund.
There's no need to try and guess what their policy is, as some on here seem to expect you to do.

OreoMini · 07/05/2018 09:13

She was only sick twice and is fine now, if she’s fine all day and isn’t sick again I’d send her in too.

dontbesillyhenry · 07/05/2018 09:14

What a load of horseshit saying if you are only sick once or twice it's not contagious. I've no idea where some people get their 'medical' knowledge

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georgiadronea · 07/05/2018 09:19

In regards to my actual DD I think she'd be fine as 1) she is fine now and it could have been just one of those things or having been out in the sun etc. 2) its a very local trip very close to where we live and where I work so in worse case scenario she could be collected within 10 mins or so.

But I don't know why she was ill and if she was contagious so I wouldn't feel comfortable sending her without knowing and then she may pass it onto classmates/volunteers/the teacher. So I will keep her off as I can't be sure it was just the sun or excitement.

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Jonsey79 · 07/05/2018 09:21

Please ignore the many posters who have said to send her in anyway. It would be incredibly selfish to send in a child probably still harbouring a d&v bug. Even if none of the rest of the children and staff are immunocompromised (and of course you won't know if anyone is), the school can do without it bwing spread around. I'm a teacher and would be seriously pissed off if a parent knowingly broke the 48 hour rule and put everyone at risk. So selfish.

OP - I get that it's annoying to lose the money and there's no harm in asking for at least a partial refund. Don't get your hopes up though. It might be that the school pay admission on the door and won't be left out of pocket. The biggest cost is likely to be the transport though and that will be prepaid. A pp mentioned the state of school budgets and it's true. Please don't expect the school to be out of pocket.

Atthebottomofthesea · 07/05/2018 09:22

No it is not a load of horeshit. When I am sick when I have a bad headache I am sick because I have a bad headache. I'm sick, the nausea passes and my head clears. No bug at all.

Jonsey79 · 07/05/2018 09:23

Just saw your update - thank goodness for parents like you OP. I'm glad you're keeping her off

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