Friend has regifted something I gave her and put photographic proof on Facebook!

[FirstOfHerName]

I gave her a scarf for her birthday and she's just gone to see her inlaws and one of the many photos she's posted is of her MiL wearing the scarf and proudly showing it off!

Should I:
a) say nothing
b) 'like' the photo or
c) comment saying "nice scarf"???

I'm actually not remotely offended but surely if you regift you keep it quiet?!?

And it was a naice scarf, not a shite one!

Just do it. And add an appropriate smiley. Idk if I were ribbing her I’d choose 😬 or 🙃 maybe?

Ffs stop saying SCARFS

My Mum, Aunt, Cousin and myself all have the same scarf bought independently. It's a little embarrassing.

Also scarves

Maybe her MIL has just borrowed it. You’d seem batshit to post anything about it op so resist the urge!

it was a gift to her for her to do what she wants with it.

think of it as having solved one of her probelms, saved her time and caused her to reduce some of her stress levels, in that she was able to regift it. that is also a gift to her that may be more valuable than the scarf itself.

Scarf scarf scarf scarf
Scarfs scarfs scarfs scarfs (sic)

You know when you see a word so many times that it just becomes hilarious and meaningless?!

Scarf

BrutusMcDogface, all those chances and you still never said scarves 😂

I wouldn't say anything.You might mean it to sound jokey but it could be taken the wrong way.She may well have liked it so much she bought another.forget about it op.🌻

How do you know it's the scarf you gave her?

My mil gave me a scarf, a massive square one that hits the floor if I was to hold it out straight in front of me. She's a scarf person. I am not. I have no idea how to wear the damn thing as it's so bloody mahoosive. I'd regift it if I could.

How do you know it's the scarf you gave her?

I don't, but considering I bought while on holiday overseas, I'd be surprised if it wasn't!

I might ask 'Oh has your MIL been to holiday destination that looks so like a scarf I bought for a friend when I holidayed there, isn't it beautiful!'

or just post 'What a beautiful scarf!'

C. I always put any scarves bought for me in the charity shop bag. I'm not a scarf wearer but wouldn't re-gift and then fb it.

Are you certain it's the same one? My mother and I once managed to buy each other an almost identical present. I bought hers in Venice...

Maybe - unless the scarf was unique - she has one herself.

Unless it's a brand you can only get overseas, and there's no way of ordering it online, you'd be unwise to assume it's the same scarf. Why couldn't the MIL have seen her wearing the scarf, asked where she got it from, and bought one for herself? Surely you have done this very thing before?

Would you prefer she opened your present, told you it was rubbish and insisted that you took it back?

She may have lent her MIL the scarf. She could even have been trying it on when the pic was taken.

If you are absolutely sure, could you just be quietly amused and not embarrass her?

I don't think there's anything wrong with regifting but generally the rule is not letting the original gifter know, i assumed this was an unwritten rule that everyone knew!

If this were one of my friends and i'd seen it i would heart the picture and write 'love the scarf' with a winky face. But that's just me.

"Oh wow, that's exactly like the one I bought you"... no?

Alternatively like it or say 'nice scarf'.

MIL: Would you like this? I really don't need it. Someone gave it to me.
ME: Yes. That would be me.

Fortunately we both found it funny.

Could mil be borrowing it do you think? I'd have to comment, maybe something like 'love that scarf mil' and a winky face.

I love scarves. I'd never regift a scarf gift! A girl can never have too many scarves.

I am quite gobby.

I'd comment on the post with "I take it you didn't like the scarf, then" with an emoticon to take the sting out. Probably the crying with laughter one.

C. Nice scarf with a grinning emoticon. You're not dissing her, you could genuinely think the MIL was just trying it on - as that genuinely is a v plausible possibility

When I give somebody something then it is theirs to do with it what they want..

And if someone else gets joy from it all the better.

It's called recycling