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AIBU to think he should sort it out himself?

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Duck77 · 06/05/2018 20:04

My parents brother is staying with us tonight. He's got an early morning flight tomorrow morning from an airport that 2 hours away from us. There is modified service between kings x and Paddington tomorrow so he can't change there to get to Heathrow.
He just mentioned to my partner that 'it's a road trip for us tomorrow then'
Now you see my partner has been away for 2 weeks with work (got home today) and going away again for a week in Tuesday.

AIBU to think just be a grown mad and sort your own s**t out?

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Prole · 06/05/2018 21:11

He can get the tube from Kings + to Paddington tomorrow. Piccadilly WB to Piccadilly Circus then Bakerloo NB to Paddington. Or he could just stay on the Picc line train to Heathrow and end up in Uxbridge.

DelphiniumBlue · 06/05/2018 21:11

Sorry autocorrect playing up, not SO but DP!

DPotter · 06/05/2018 21:19

Please note the Heathrow express is closed this weekend, due to major engineering works on the lines between Paddington and Reading.

I know as have spent 2.75 hours doing a trip today that usually takes 25 mins...and the same to come home, so 5.5 hrs on the train today.

It will have to be the Piccadilly line or walk / taxi.
For the record I get really annoyed by passive requests, such as your uncle/ bill said. Just asked properly, like a real adult....Grrrrrrr

WingsOnMyBoots · 06/05/2018 21:21

It is quite expectant/entitled behaviour on the part of the brother. Does he not know he can get there on the UG?

mither · 06/05/2018 21:23

The engineering works were just for today.

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Duck77 · 06/05/2018 21:25

I'd love to spend time with him don't get me wrong @DelphiniumBlue but he wasn't planning on coming home so this one day was just a bonus. I sort of accepted that May and June will be full on months for him and I'm just looking forward to July to get to spend some time with him. I am more just worried for him, he does 12-14 hour days when he is away and for his sake I wish he could have a lie in tomorrow.

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PositivelyPERF · 06/05/2018 21:26

Isn’t it a bank holiday in England? Will the traffic be bad? It could take a lot longer than two hours.

I think you should get the time table out, plan his TRAIN/BUS/TAXI journey and hand it to him. Cheeky fucker.

Gabilan · 06/05/2018 21:29

No way would I take a car to London/ Heathrow on a BH Monday. One snarl up somewhere and they'll be sitting on the M4 watching the plane go overhead.

Leaving anything else aside, he's going to be better off on the tube.

DiddimusStench · 06/05/2018 21:32

I’d be pissed off if my brother/sister just assumed o would do that without asking nicely.

Train to kings X and Piccadilly line to Heathrow - not hard.

Mightymucks · 06/05/2018 21:53

First tube to Heathrow from Kings X doesn’t get in until about 7 so probably no use to him. The problems between Kings X and Paddington are on the Hammersmith and City Line. There is a direct overground train from Kings X to Paddington at 4:30 tomorrow with no disruption. He can get that or get a taxi from Kings X to Paddington.

AnneLovesGilbert · 06/05/2018 22:03

He sounds very rude and presumptuous but we don’t know how they normally talk to each other.

I adore my brothers but in these circumstances with your DP being between two work trips and you two having precious time together I’d be expecting them to act like the independent grown ups they are and make their own way.

mither · 06/05/2018 22:12

First tube to Heathrow from Kings X doesn’t get in until about 7

The picadilly line runs all night?

mither · 06/05/2018 22:13

There is a direct overground train from Kings X to Paddington

Can you link to that?

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Duck77 · 06/05/2018 22:44

So I basically told them there is a one hour trains to Kings x from us then he can go on Piccadilly for another hour - 2 hours trip for him with 1 change- perfect I thought. Win -win! But nooo my partner just told me his brother needs to see what works out the best. I can not believe this!

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Mightymucks · 06/05/2018 22:49

Piccadilly Line only runs all night Saturday and Sunday.

Got the train route and time off the National Rail app so can’t link, but you can find it on their website.

OP, what time does he need to check in/be there?

Mightymucks · 06/05/2018 22:50

Sorry! Only runs all night Friday and Saturday!

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Duck77 · 06/05/2018 22:51

He needs to be there by 9:30

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HicDraconis · 06/05/2018 22:53

My sister works really hard - weekdays in the office, weekends at home - but when I rock up to stay she always books leave and is there to get me from the airport (2-3h drive each way). If her husband objected to this I’d be really sad; I value the extra time in the car with her.

Luckily for me, her husband isn’t an arsehole and he does the driving so we can chat. I pay petrol and airport parking charges obviously.

I think if your partner wants to take his brother to the airport tomorrow then he should do so, and really it’s not your decision to be involved with.

mither · 06/05/2018 22:54

There is no direct train from kings cross to Paddington.

Mightymucks · 06/05/2018 22:58

Mither,

Website says there is but at 3:55 not 4:30

m.nationalrail.co.uk/pj/jd?responseId=4&journeyIndex=1&journeyType=s&fareId=&direction=outward

If he needs to be there for 9:30 he can get the tube

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Duck77 · 06/05/2018 22:58

@HicDraconis as I mentioned my partner has been working his balls off the past weeks and he's not taking any time off for this like your sister does so I'm just going to leave your comment with that. Also he wouldn't pay for petrol for sure - no way my partner would accept it but more like his brother is so full of himself and selfish he won't offer anyway.

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mither · 06/05/2018 23:03

It's not a train. If you click on the details it shows as a transfer.

Mightymucks · 06/05/2018 23:12

Well it takes 25 minutes so regardless of what it is he could have got it!

HicDraconis · 06/05/2018 23:26

@Duck77 my sister works long hours, evenings / weekends. She uses her small amount of leave to pick me up and drop me off because we are siblings and close. Her husband wouldn’t dream of trying to suggest that actually, her leave and one day off here and there should be spent with him and that I should navigate public transport instead.

Rather than what you think your partner should do or want to do - what does your partner think? Does he want to run his brother to the airport, have a coffee with him, wave him off? If so then it’s up to him. If he doesn’t, and he wants his brother to catch a train, then he needs to tell his brother that. Either way it’s his choice.

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Duck77 · 06/05/2018 23:44

Yeah well if he want to have a chat with him maybe my partner s brother shouldn't have spend the whole evening playing on his phone. Whatever. I know I am not being controlling I'm just upset his brother is taking the piss when he's been working the amount of hours he did the past weeks

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