Finding it funny my husband is finding it difficult to do what I do everyday

[Jordan4531]

I'm currently upstairs getting ready for a wedding we are invited to, I can hear my husband desperately trying to stop my two year old get her paints out while trying to clean up. I get told it's not that hard look g after the kids while he's at work, well he sounds like he's finding it quite hard right now. I'm going to enjoy the peace and give myself a wicked blow dry

You’re over thinking it. It’s not difficult. It’s just that 2 year olds can be very stubborn and likely to throw a tantrum if they don’t get what they want. Which can be tedious at times but it’s not exactly difficult

Are you joking Momo?!

Enjoy your quiet time OP

Oh course it's difficult! What a funny reply. Yes parenting is hard work, especially a little one who knows what they want.

Hope he starts to appreciate what you do more

Hahaha I know what you mean!
Whilst DH says he appreciates everything I do, I don't think he fully "gets it" so I do enjoy leaving him with 2.5 DS when I am catching up with friends and he is always so glad when I come back 😜
Enjoy getting ready ( hope there's wine involved) and have fun at the wedding!

If you had insisted he did his fair share a long time ago you might have more free time to give yourself blow dries. No need to boast for being a doormat

The week after I go out for the afternoon/evening my dh suddenly helps more.

Next Saturday I'm going out!

Bloody hell. Some grumping on here this morning!

Good on you op.

Bloody hell. Some grumping on here this morning!
I agree.

Oh I love when this happens! DH’s smug little ‘I’d gladly swap home for work with you any day,’

RAN out the door for his shift last night as I was left with a screaming DS who was embracing his inner banshee and living his best life of not going to bed.

Some people on here got out of bed the wrong side this morning

Enjoy! Enjoy the fact it's sitting outside and drinking weather. Enjoy the fact that afterwards your dh should have a renewed appreciation for you!

Enjoy the wedding, OP!

Mwahaha enjoy your peace! Men like this need to find out the hard way. I'm lucky to have a DP who says "no way would I swap with you, you work so hard" It's just reassuring to hear that a lot as being at home can be such a slog and society doesn't always appreciate it.

Why is this in AIBU? Surely its a chat topic ?

I find it so depressing how many men are still like this.

I have just gone back to work part time after 18 months as SAHP, now DP is at home with dd all day. He apologised profusely for not believing me when I said I was exhausted after a full day with her previously, as now he is the one flopped on the sofa immobile once dd is in bed.

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Really? AIBU finding it funny that .......
It’s an AIBU.

Yes mummy it's hardly something people would adjudicate on, which is what AIBU is intended for, those causal encounters in carparks and the school run ... AIBU to be smugly laughing at my partner isn't really the boards intention, or is it?

Fucking hell the grumpy replies?!

Of course it’s fucking difficult!

Enjoy OP. Nothing like a little re-balancing of the marital appreciation scales.

Yanbu op

Enjoy the relax!

My DH shares the load evenly with me, pulls his weight around the house and with the kids. But even still there's times I don't think he fully 'gets' how much I deal with in a day. Whenever he's off, I'm there too so he at least has some moral if not always physical support. He doesn't get the whole school run, housework and getting out to work thing on my own everyday.

AIBU.
Yes, you are. For posting in the wrong place!!

Enjoy it :) I recently spent a couple of days away visiting my brother in hospital and got back to an absolutely shattered DH.

DH: "Did you leave me extra jobs to do on that list?"
Me: "Nope."
DH: "You do all this, every day?"
Me: "Yup."
DH: "On foot?"
Me: "Yup."

• the context to this being that the starter motor on our ancient quad bike packed up in November and rather than spend £100-ish on fixing it, he said he'd buy a new quad when he got a cheque for his current car from the dealership he was buying his new one from. So I spent all winter walking about six miles each morning feeding sheep and horses and walking the dogs in some of the wettest, windiest weather the Scottish Highlands have managed in quite some time. He did it for two days in reasonable weather in April and shortly after a lovely nearly-new ex-demo quad bike arrived!

Jeez, and people complain about the feminist section.

Yes it is difficult and I am glad he is discovering this for himself. Enjoy your peace.

Lots of people woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!

Enjoy the wedding OP

Honestly, KevinTheYuccaPlant, that anecdote just makes you sound like a mug.