To ask what you wouldn’t want others to find

[JaceLancs]

Been clearing the house of a relative who died suddenly n found lots of strange things - some fetish stuff but others just random oddness eg noting in diaries the anniversary of age of an electrical appliance ‘fridge freezer 19 today........’
Making me wonder what I wouldn’t want someone else to find.......
In my case diaries from my angst ridden teens
What about you?

My notebooks. They're a mix of teenage diary angst bollocks, observations, articles that I have then gone on to publish, training notes, edits for other people's work, games of hangman with the DC, but mostly just HUGELY confessional stuff that almost no one knows. My only comfort is that, were I to die tomorrow, my handwriting is so terrible that no one else could read them.

Nothing. I have burned or destroyed anything I never wanted anyone to find and don't write anything or keep anything that I wouldn't want anyone to find. They all know I have too many clothes and shoes.

Queen & Frozen you’ll hate me forever, it’s so addictive, and so frustrating that you can never get as many uses as you should
I’ll apologise now

@sobeyondthehills f I had a fridge that was 19 years old I would celebrate it as well

My washing machine has just turned 17 if you want to come round for a slice of birthday cake?

Love letters from my late husband from before we were married. I know our DC would probably like to read them but they're private. Nothing else, I'm boring too.

I have 2 female friends who feed each other’s pets when they are away on holiday etc, so have a set of eeach other’s house keys. They have an agreement that, if either of them meets a sudden & untimely end, they are to go round and remove each other’s sex toys etc before their parents clear their house. They were very, very drunk when they told the rest of us. Sign of true friendship, eh?

Chucked my teenage diary away a few years ago it was just too embarrassing. Lots of moaning about my parents, and my first sexul encounters written in detail.
Now I use an online diary with passwords, no one will ever see them if I die now!!

I don’t know if I should...
DH has bought some really quite strange sex toys, he bought a butt plug, nothing too racy except the thing is massive. Huge, beyond any sort of useable size. I am horrified. So horrified infact I don’t know how to dispose of it. It’s just hidden in a drawer. I just know that would be the bin bag that splits, or my bin would be the one that gets blown over with a butt plug the size of a bowling ball. I will instead be “that” one when I die. I’m certain of it.

Ah, not about someone who died, but a story about weird logging of stuff.

A colleague of mine years ago bought our mutual boss's ex company car. Said boss then handed him a ring binder with detailed notes of every time he bought petrol, how many litres he'd bought at what price and then how many miles he'd driven and manually calculated out the petrol consumption and then a wee description of the type of driving he's done. Like 20 trips to and from work, 4 trips to x supermarket and a weekend trip to x with 1 passenger and a large suitcase etc. :o

Colleague said "oh thanks very much..." then binned it when boss wasn't looking!

Boss also once had me searching press archives for a photo of a guy featured in an article about ley lines as he was convinced that this bloke had been sleeping with his wife and that the photo had been taken in his house...

Having lost both DHs mum and my own, both had address books where people that they'd fallen out with were scored through with various character assassinations.

@ShotsFired I am there

''The contents of my laptop. There's everything on there! (Nothing illegal, obviously, just private.)''

this. I think this sits for alot of ppl as our search histories can be very private stuff and we wouldn't want ppl seeing them, other things i can think of would be my phone with whatsapp private convos on them.

The coroners report that was sent to me as next of kin for my late father, there are things that only I know that horrify me in the most literal sense of the word and I don't want anyone ever knowing but I don't feel able to burn it yet as he only died last year, if that makes any sense! I'll bet that teenage diaries are hilarious.

This was a great thread - things people have found after someone died:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3208198-what-s-the-weirdst-thing-you-found-when-someone-died?pg=1

My fiance recently passed away. His family hacked into his computer, phone, you name it. I feel like I sort of died with him that day. They read our private messages, emails, saw intimate photos. I feel so violated. Yeah, so this is the stuff I wouldn't want other people finding. I bared my soul to him as he was the person I loved and trusted more than anyone else.. I would never tell anyone else those things (or send them those photos). Grieving him + having that happen has been hell. His brother wrote me a horrible email that was very painful and hateful and said he had read our emails.

Have you just sat and thought this said person may have had underlying issues, ocd traits even...possibly....you are making a joke of it....😕

My fox tail butt plug 😑

I have plenty of pills hidden in my childhood bedroom just in case I ever want to off myself with them. Mind you, they've been there since my mentally ill teens, I bet if I did swallow one, I would die from some sort of bug before an OD could happen.

Queen & Frozen you’ll hate me forever, it’s so addictive, and so frustrating that you can never get as many uses as you should
I’ll apologise now

I be you've resorted to using a measuring jug to eke out your washing liquid to the last ml...

Nothing for me. I mean, I have sex toys but who doesn't? They're nothing to be ashamed of.
Can't think of anything else.

Plus, I'll be dead anyway.

How awful, poppy.

I’m with the others that say teenage diaries. Here’s a quote (me age 15): “I hate my mum she doesn’t trust anything I do. I asked if I could go out with Hilary tonight and she said no because I was up to something. It’s so annoying. We spent all week pursuading Kris to buy us fags and Bacardi breezers and had to pay him £10 to get us them. Now she’s gone and said I can’t go out. We are now totally going to have to change our plans and wait till Danny’s party to get totally smashed next week. What a waste of time. I’m 15 not 12!!! Why can’t she just treat me like an adult?’

I have a lovely friend, whose first job upon hearing I've died is to run to my house and clear out a certain drawer. She knows which drawer and she knows what is in It, so she isn't weirded out!

That’s just awful poppy.
I’m glad I’ve read this thread. I would never have dreamt of that one.

Ilovesleep...hilarious, Im 15 not 12!!!!

Did you also write ( stamps foot ) 😂?

WaxOnFeckOff
My Dad does the same for his and my Mum's cars but on a spreadsheet.

My son borrowed one if the cars once and forgot to log the mileage on the petrol receipt for adding to the spreadsheet.

My Dad pretended not to be bothered but it was so obvious that he was annoyed.

My family would have a field day.
All my complimentary therapy books, dowsing books , pendulums, crystals. My stash of homeopathic remedies ( which we all know don’t work) , essential oils, Bach flower remedies, vits and mins.

Without my stash of clothes, shoes, bags, jewellery
If there’s anything I’d rather they didn’t see, as someone said, it won’t matter , I won’t be here.

Wonder what this says about my DH. We are still using the stash of his mum’s cleaning chemicals. We’ve been together 10 years and she died a couple of years before we met!