To think my boss & colleuages are having a good ol' laugh behind my back.

[WingerGitch]

Okay so bit of backstory first to try to avoid dripfeeding.
I'm 7 months pregnant, had a LOT of time off due to morning sickness/ hyperemesis.
Tend to be okay for the first bit of the morning then progressively get worse in the hours leading up to midday. I've been sent home A LOT halfway through the day due to spending too much time puking.

Not even bothering to pretend they're not.
Colleague C said to B this morning- oo did you tell her about the part time employee? chuckled and walked off.
Boss and B kept laughing between themselves for a good five minutes before one turned round and said "o come on, we have to tell her". Basically they had someone in for an interview and when telling them about the structure of the workplace Colleague B "accidentally" referred to my desk as "the part timer". Hilarious.

Now its getting silly. I popped to the loo thanks to my increasingly squished bladder- walked back into the office as Boss was saying "C has bets on half 11, I have bets on 12".
I asked what they were betting on and Boss simply replied
"If I tell you I'll have to kill you"
Clearly not willing to tell me- because its a reference to my recent half sick days and the times I leave?!
Prepared to be told I'm just over thinking this and I'm over emotional anyway thanks to hormones- but need clarification. I feel singled out and like I'm being mocked for having had so much time off. I always thought it was better to show face at work then leave if needed- apparently this has made me a thing to bet on.

Contact a solicitor and get some free advice about this. take them to the cleaners not acceptable at all

Well done on deciding on ACAS they are great at what they do,and look forward to finishing to-day and not having to return until Tuesday after the Bank Holiday.
Throw up in your bin for good measure as you are leaving that will teach them.

I would actually consider the tribunal aspect of this.

I worked somewhere where a boss made an unacceptable comment about one newly married female worker not being "allowed" to get pregnant and the woman took them to tribunal, got a pay out, because it's unacceptable. That was a LOT less than the shit you're having to put up with, it was a one-off comment, not sustained shit. And it IS bullying.

Are you MNing in work time about this, OP ?

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And remind them you’re growing a human who in 25 years will be paying taxes for their pensions and filling jobs in the care homes they will be in"

Hahahahahaha! I'd piss myself laughing if anyone said that to me while pregnant. I don't think it would solve the situation tbh!!!

Citizens advice? see what they say about your options

@PenCobSwan
Nope, at home.

Will see what ACAS have to say before acting further I think, only got a short time left here anyway before mat leave

I would take a bucket into work with me and sit throwing up in front of them all day.

^^ OP

I haven't directly asked them to stop

Umm, why not? That's seems silly. I'd send a quick email telling them that you don't like them joking about you being sick
and taking time off and that you want them to stop immediately. Personally I'd also tell them in person but if you are someone that finds that difficult just tell them that you have emailed them.

If you want them to stop then it's seems odd that you haven't told them. I know you shouldn't have to tell them but by not doing so you are just dragging things out.

@PotTheRed
Because it brings me so close to tears when I hear the remarks, honestly if I said anything it'd be drowned out by waterworks :/
And when boss has just blatantly tried to drop the topic cause she knows I've walked in on her convo- what am I supposed to reply to "if I tell you I'll have to kill you " ? Obvs lighthearted but easy way to shut me off asking about it again

I knew that was about me though- and did try to find out why first

If it brings you close to tears then send an email. Doing nothing just means they will continue. Complaining about them is potentially going to take longer and cause more upset than clearly telling them to stop.

I KNOW you shouldn't have to and I know they are out of order and obnoxious but I think it's really silly to say nothing to them about it. Send an email. You don't have to speak to them.

Dear X and Y
I don't want to speak to you in person about this but I want to ask you to immediately stop 'joking' or making comments about me being sick and or leaving work early. I don't want an apology either. I literally never want it referred to again.

Hopefully that's clear enough for you.

OP

... or whatever. Maybe you do want an apology. Anyway, it depends what you want out of this. If your main objective is to stop them behaving like that then not letting them know you want to stop seems odd.

Good on you for the fighting spirit! Right behind you, at your shoulder along with 100s of lurkers! We are all with you.

I think you would drive yourself mad trying to constantly find out what they are saying about you. You can easily guess. They are total idiots.
Look after yourself and let ACAS do the rest

I agree with Pot, email if you can't do it in person.

Horrendous misogynistic, bullying behaviour. And, for me, all the more galling as your boss is female.

My concern would be; if this is how they treat a pregnant employee, how will they be when you return from maternity leave? What happens if your DC is ill or childcare falls through?

@WingerGitch Keep an incident diary of every comment from now on, and good luck with ACAS.

Keep a diary but do it really obviously to get the wind up them!

They sound horrible, would you feel strong enough to just say to your boss that its upsetting you, it's unkind and unprofessional so please stop, if not you will take it further, then puke all over her. we are all with you on this

Pardon me sticking my Oar in but do you really want to work at this place, sounds like its not at all pleasant there?