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To be concerned about my 3 year old's behaviour with his penis?

62 replies

hungryhungryhippo8 · 04/05/2018 09:51

My 3yo is going through the standard phase of touching himself all the time which is fine as I know it's a 'thing' and I just ignore it.

However, he is saying stuff to my 2yo like 'my willy is out come and touch it'.

What the...? Is this normal?

OP posts:
PotTheRed · 04/05/2018 17:08

Gawd, some people will discuss anything online. 🙄 Personally I wouldn’t share stories about my child’s genitals online there are too many weirdos about.

AnotherOriginalUsername · 04/05/2018 17:08

My husband is in his 30s and still fiddles around with his. What age do they grow out of it? Hmm

(I'm currently pregnant with our first and quite liked the idea of a boy until reading this thread!!)

Nogodsnomasters · 04/05/2018 17:10

My son is 3 and currently going through this phase too, thinks it's funny to rub his willy against me and his daddy during getting changed etc and also when he's pooping he tucks his willy in and says "look mummy it's a front bum like yours" 🙄

FranticallyPeaceful · 04/05/2018 17:12

Googley eyes on his willy seems to be an unlimited amount of fun

Bluelonerose · 04/05/2018 17:14

Yup normal. I think it carrys on throughout life though Grin

Smeddum · 04/05/2018 17:15

@NellytheElephant18 he sounds ace! Grin

OP DS2 is just potty trained and my god he’s fascinated with his willy! Just enamoured with it, I’m hoping it will pass Blush

Kidssendingmenuts · 04/05/2018 17:18

Very normal, but maybe you need to start talking to him about the underwear rules/ pants and private bits etc.

Original poster
hungryhungryhippo8 · 04/05/2018 17:29

Gawd, some people will discuss anything online. 🙄 Personally I wouldn’t share stories about my child’s genitals online there are too many weirdos about.

Get a grip!

OP posts:
Gottagetmoving · 04/05/2018 17:43

Personally I wouldn’t share stories about my child’s genitals online there are too many weirdos about

Your child's penis is a body part. OPs question is perfectly acceptable.
If there are any 'weirdos' about, how exactly is that going to harm anyone?
Why should OP not discuss this on a parenting site just because weirdos exist?
You are being ridiculous

clockworklime · 04/05/2018 18:44

Gawd, some people will discuss anything online. 🙄

Gawd, some people will moan about anything

PotTheRed · 04/05/2018 19:00

I’m not moaning, I’m just saying I wouldn’t share ‘hilarious’ willy stories online. There are too many weirdos about. Look at the weirdo troll threads that you get on Mumsnet. Suggesting to the OP and other posters that they may want to be cautious about what they post seems like a good idea.

IfNot · 04/05/2018 19:05

I couldn't agree more Pot
Do posters not realise that MN gets regularly trolled by paedophiles asking for stories of child nudity/first bras/ wetting pants etc etc? You're on a massive public forum. OP is probably kosher, but still, THINK about the things you post people!

T1M2N3T4 · 04/05/2018 19:05

Dp got scared as a child the 1st time he noticed it become erect.

The pet hamster had died a few days before and gone unnoticed so pil had explained the process including of why fluffy had gone stiff.

Cue 4 year old dp getting scared thinking his willy was dying and fil telling him to run it under the cold tap to "bring it back to life"

I was Shock when his mum brought it up over sunday lunch one day

QueenDoris · 04/05/2018 19:08

Don’t worry, he’ll grow out of touching his willy. By the time he is in his 90s and in a care home he will probably ease off on the fumbling.

callmeadoctor · 04/05/2018 19:12

ugh!!!!!!!!

PerfectlyDone · 04/05/2018 19:13

This is a parenting forum.
Parenting involves a fair bit of dealing with bits, bodily functions, inappropriate behaviour which in a toddler may be hilarious, in a school age child not so much.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with saying 'yep, my DS did this too'.

4GreenApples · 04/05/2018 19:14

Very normal, but maybe you need to start talking to him about the underwear rules/ pants and private bits etc

Seconding this.

PerfectlyDone · 04/05/2018 19:14

By the time he is in his 90s and in a care home he will probably ease off on the fumbling.

Don't count on it - sexually disinhibited behaviour can be one of the most tragic symptoms of dementia sometimes Sad
Not cute, not dignified and not something the person is likely to grow out of.

comaawakening · 04/05/2018 19:15

Yes, my four year old and one year old had a phase of being obsessed with each others penises! Always waving them about at each other. My eldest would also do this weird thing, where he would kind of hang his penis over the top of his pants and wave it about at people. I caught him and another boy at nursery doing this at each other, sabre rattling!

Okaynowimconfused · 04/05/2018 19:15

I have two DDs but I am expecting my first DS and this thread is really making me laugh!

Singlenotsingle · 04/05/2018 19:23

An ex of mine used to hold his all night. (Aged 43)! Yuk! One of the reasons why he's an ex.

NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 04/05/2018 19:26

My cousin came into the bathroom when I was doing a wee and cried to my Aunt saying my willy had fallen off. He was really upset bless him.

TorviBrightspear · 04/05/2018 19:29

I laughed aloud at this, and DS (aged 14) asked me what made me laugh. I told him and he asked if I had stories about him as a kid (yes Grin).

But don't worry OP, yes it's normal.

Bowlofbabelfish · 04/05/2018 19:30

Perfectly normal. (Mine is fascinated by my lack of one as well.) Don’t make a big deal out of it or create any negative associations.

At this point you start the ongoing conversation that willies are great, but we only play with them at home and then onto the private parts convo. The ‘pants’ campaign from the nspcc is really good and has material on this.

ERipley · 04/05/2018 19:31

Gawd, some people will discuss anything online.

I know, it’s shocking. Be careful people.