AIBU to be fuming about period "joke"

[Polkadot1974]

I’m likely answering this myself by admitting I’m feeling intolerant today
DH not listening to me is particularly annoying today. He’s just wandered in with jam sandwich, no plate, spilling crumbs (always tells kids off for this) then when I mention his inconsistency he wobbled hiis belly at me (meaning my belly is fat) and said “it’s a jam sandwich. How ironic”
Jam being a delightful reference to periods.
I’m ok to eat chocolate and rage inwardly right? Won’t be making his tea now

I remember teenage boys in our school referring to tampons as 'jam rags'

Gross and pretty pathetic I know, but they can be forgiven for being silly young boys.

Think your husband needs to grow up a bit.

I don't get the joke. I've never heard jam and periods together

But the husband didn't reference that? What I mean is I don't see where the OP gets the connection from? He didn't say or do anything to suggest he was talking about periods

You should have kneed him in the balls. Now that would have been a jam sandwich.

Yes I understood same as HeartCurrent

How was him wobbling his own stomach fat supposed to be a dig at your stomach?

This would have gone STRAIGHT over my head.

Jam = period.

Who knew?

There must be something really wrong with me, I’m going to stick my head above the parapet and say that really made me laugh! But then I have always had a bit of a warped sense of humour. You have to have a sense of humour about periods when they resemble something along the lines of a Games of Thrones battle scene I’d imagine the jam reference is to the term ‘jam rags’ used to describe sanitary towels back in the day.

I'm genuinely baffled by this whole thing... but I'm glad he's apologised.

My DP doesn't do this, but I suppose some do. I guess it'll depend on how often it happens. If he says something odd and mean once in a blue moon, some people might find that acceptable. If it's more often, less people would. I'd be pretty sad if DP said anything mean deliberately to be honest; but I'm baffled by this and whether he was trying to be funny or is just a knob.

grumpy4squash

Honestly that sounds a bit nasty to me.

I'd be upset too. Did his mask slip a bit?

Take it was strawberry or raspberry jam, rather than blackcurrent or apricot?

I think you are inferring a lot here. The belly wobbling could mean, I don’t care if I’m fat I will still eat the sandwich.

Storm in a teacup.

"he wobbled hiis belly at me (meaning my belly is fat)"

Why does it mean that?

Polka did you mean to say "what a clot"? In context, it made me laugh, sorry

I think your husband was a bit daft, he's apologised and you've said he's not always like this.

I fine the overreactors on mumsnt really tiresome; they spoil the board for everybody with the 'crying wolf' refrain, it always sounds like a smug swipe at an already upset OP too. When OP says that her husband isn't bad, she knows him better than we do.

I had never heard the jam/period connection till a couple of years ago, when there was a fuss because on one of the soaps there was a message board with a list of shopping, including "jam rags".

Wait until he has man flu and remind him !

My very wretched abusive former step-dad used to refer to it as being on your ‘jam-rag’ . It’s a horrible term.

When I was in college I worked part time in a supermarket. Most of us were in and around the same age (late teens/early twenties) and some of my male co-workers used to refer to sanitary towels as 'jammy rags'. Disgusting.

Yes I was saying clot on purpose. And red flag!

I don't get it either.

Jam sandwhich as I’m bloody tampon

That's the sort of silly joke I would make - to my husband's disgust, but then he's not the one suffering..
I doubt very much that he wanted to upset you that much.

Not heard that expression since the 70s!

As I understand it if you roll up a used ST to dispose of it in a bin it can be referred to as a 'jam-roll.'

I still don't get it. Yes I realise Jam=period, but what did he mean by saying 'Jam sandwich- how ironic'? And what's the belly-wobbling got to do with anything?