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To be livid with ndn

52 replies

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 01/05/2018 17:27

Been out all morning running errands for my elderly mother. Got back home after calling in to get a quick shop. Unloaded shopping, part of which were some plants and bags of soil for the tubs. Plonked them down the side of the house by my gate to bring straight into the garden later, the path felt all crunchy under my shoes, looked down at the path and it was absolutely stinking dirty with dried dirt.

Puzzled, I looked around to work out where this had all come from and realised that ndn had jetwashed their wall (which is the boundary).

They (or someone they'd employed) had come onto our driveway and path which runs up the side of my house to jetwash the wall. Done the job (very well actually as the wall now looks fab) but had failed to clean up my path slabs and driveway.

When I looked more closely my gate was covered in dirt, my recycling tubs were covered, Dh's hosepie which he leaves tidily along the path was stinking, my electric box, my front window and windowsill and also the portion of the driveway where I park my car.

Dh washes the cars and windows every weekend so I know everything was clean.

Bloody tamping, I stormed around to the ndn's to ask why they'd failed to clean up after themselves. They weren't in, luckily cos I was bouncing.

Anyway, I phone Dh in a flat spin only for him to tell me "well there's no real damage", no but the bloody place is stinking and the last thing I want to do is clean up a mess I haven't made.

In a right temper I've cleaned it all down but I'm fuming at their thoughtlessness.

OP posts:
jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 01/05/2018 18:45

I don't usually have anger issues.

Was looking forward to coming home after a stressful time with my mother, have my lunch and a cup of coffee, instead I had to clean up someonelse's mess.

Couldn't sweep it up as it had dried solid onto the slabs which are riven, it was all up the gate (its a full height gate), the driveway, on my windowsill and all over the window.

I was annoyed cos they'd clearly not made any effort to clean down after themselves.

Dh washes the cars and windows most weekends, is that strange then? He's always done it, one less thing for me to do so I leave him to it.

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Amanduh · 01/05/2018 18:47

I’d annoyed too but they may not know.

SuttonHooHoo · 01/05/2018 18:49

I sympathise. My neighbours are nice enough but have recently decided they need to have a light on ALL night in their conservatory - which is separated from the house by a permanently closed door. The conservatory overlooks our backgarden as their house is on higher ground than ours. It’s for security Hmm. It means if we sit at the back of our house at night (big family kitchen/sitting area) we either have to have the blinds closed or sit staring at the bloody Crystal Palace. Arseholes. I am planning on growing a VERY big hedge at the back of our garden.

Greenglassteacup · 01/05/2018 18:49

I think washing the car & the windows on the house every weekend is excessive but if that’s what he wants to do let him get on with it

flubdub · 01/05/2018 18:49

First world problems at its finest

Calatonia · 01/05/2018 18:50

I think you have every right to be pissed off: what kind of anti-social git thinks that cleaning their property entitles them to shift the muck onto their neighbour's property?
Furthermore they should really have asked permission to go on her path if they have no access of their own.
Not only would I have been equally livid, there is no way that I'd have cleaned it up if it had dried. There is only an argment for cleaning it off yourself if it's still "fresh" 'cos once it dries it's harder to shift.
Unfortunately now you have removed the evidence how are they going to realise just how bad it was?

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 01/05/2018 18:51

Very irritating, but your use of 'stinking' and 'tamping' made me smile - am I right in thinking you're Welsh?

I am indeed Grin

There was so much dirt I could have made a big huge twmp out of it all Wink

Thanks for the Wine

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Notreallyhappy · 01/05/2018 18:55

jelly I feel your annoyance. Mine did this last week...sending a big cwtchSmile

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/05/2018 18:57

That would really piss me off. I’m surprised at the responses. Any old idiot can see the muck and dirt jet washing causes. If it were a company, too right they know and if it was the neighbour, it’s not difficult to see where the dirt goes. We had our roof and patio cleaned last year and we made sure everything was cleared up. Paid for ndn windows and front door to be cleaned as they were splashed - he’d moved the cars.

ICantCopeAnymore · 01/05/2018 18:57

Stinking = dirty. Also, buzzing, mining, gopping.

HTH.

sparklesmakelifebetter · 01/05/2018 18:58

Just wondered, are you saying that someone had jet washed YOUR side of the boundary wall?

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 01/05/2018 19:04

Notreallyhappy thank you for the cwtch Smile

sparkles yes.

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Jaxhog · 01/05/2018 19:05

It was totally thoughtless. We've had a similar problem, only I caught their workman in the act. Did they offer to clear up. No.

You should have left it and shown them calmly when they got back. If they're generally decent sorts they would then have cleaned it for you.
This is what you should done, but it's too late now unfortunately.

I'd let them know and give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn't realise or used a thoughtless workman.

Lonesurvivor · 01/05/2018 19:07

Who's wall is it? Need a diagram please;)

Grassyass · 01/05/2018 19:08

It's a bit of mud, you didn't have to clean it up, just wait for rain.
Cars function perfectly without washing. Mine has a little moss growing but as long as I can see out of the windows it's fine.

Theducksarenotmyfriends · 01/05/2018 19:09

I can't imagine cleaning the car and windows every weekend.....every weekend?! I think maybe we do it every 6 months

lunar1 · 01/05/2018 19:09

I'd be asking them to get the mess sorted. Why should you do it??

sockunicorn · 01/05/2018 19:10

@jellyshoeswithdiamonds Grin this post is amazing. sending flowers for you and a big cwtch! Flowers

shadypines · 01/05/2018 19:11

There’s usually someone who swoops in almost immediately & asks whether the OP is “always such an angry fucker” etc

I know Green it's classic MN, really pisses me right off.....(like OP's got no reason to be annoyed? Really?)

Cue someone rocking up asking me if I'm always pissed off?

Grin
Mightymucks · 01/05/2018 19:15

As others have said you should have spoken to them calmly. Is it possibly a misunderstanding and they thought doing your side of the boundary wall was a favour so you wouldn’t mind a bit of cleaning up? Possibly something has happened like they’ve paid a clueless teenager a bit of pocket money to do it and they’ve wandered off and left it.

The other possibility is that I am getting the vibe from you that you have extremely high standards and what looks awful to you is pretty unremarkable to most other people. You would literally have to set fire to my recycle bins and melt them completely before I would notice, mud just wouldn’t even register.

sparklesmakelifebetter · 01/05/2018 19:16

I'd have mixed feelings... rather impressed that they chose to clean my side of the boundary wall as well as their own. However, a tad unimpressed that I hadn't been informed it was happening and that they hadn't asked before coming on my property. They are probably thinking you will be so happy and grateful at their thoughtfulness and instead you are seething about the mess they left, oh dear.

CocoaGin · 01/05/2018 19:18

I'd get a nice few bags of soil, rip them open and using a jetwash, blast onto their nice clean wall.

Preferably at about 11pm. With a few arc lights for good measure.

DairyisClosed · 01/05/2018 19:19

I was going to say that ywbu but then I got to the windows. Putting dirt on the ground. OK, many people would be fine with that if it wasn't muddy. But making windiest dirty is just not on.

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 01/05/2018 19:20

Nope. ..op well within her rights to be livid...it drives me mad when my ndn does the same thing

Piffle11 · 01/05/2018 19:23

It might not be your neighbours' fault ... we had our driveway and patio paths jet washed by a professional company last year: thought all was well, but the poor woman next door was hopping mad, as her part of her property was covered in crap! We are set back from the main road, she isn't, and there is a large leylandii hedge between us. I couldn't see her place and didn't think for a second that it would have been affected. When we found out - neighbour collared my DH when he returned from work - we made sure they put it right (thankfully they were still here, otherwise it would have been me and my bucket). But it is amazing how many people are oblivious to the mess they make.

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