I know I am but

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Ok so name changed.
I've been offered a job of my dreams but it's about a 30 min drive from home, (no public transport links apart from 1 bus per day)
Better money, better hours, better benefits 1 being a salary sacrifice car (important)
However I can't take it 😔 we've only got one car it's and old banger and my dh is going to need it for the School runs, School is 2 miles away dd has hypermobility so walking is out and I'll have to leave before and be home later than School times breakfast club etc.
Been offered a car on finance but as I've poor credit history from a few years ago (undiagnosed asd in ds resulting in not being able to work-now sorted) the payments are very high (unaffordable) for not a very good car, all I need is £500 to get another car until I can get my salary sacrifice one (after 6 months) and I'm sulking cos can't do it. So I know Aibu but am still sulking ☹️ and venting here because dh is sick of me moaning.

OP is it just you on the DMP or is your DH's credit rating also affected? It's not clear from your post whether or not he works but if he has an income then could he take out a credit card and buy a second old banger?

If he can't then it has to be the long days for 6 months. You are part of a family and that means TEAM. You will all work harder for a short period in order for everyone to then benefit in the longer term.

Cream- the OP has stated poor credit history. You won’t find interest free anything with poor credit.

If it breaks down, you can have the taxi idea as a fallback option. I think you need to relax and focus on the new job, rather than worrying about things that might not happen.

Have to spoken to your employer?

We would advance you some money after, say, 2 weeks in this situation.

Dh doesn't work (ds main carer) he will be returning hopefully in sept now ds is at a more suitable school and more settled.

Is your DH a SAHP?

If so, you could knock the nursery on the head until September anyway.

Or look into a more local childminder who is a short walk away.

Can't you get a disability car using DLA payments?

We could skip nursery but dd would miss it massively, she could though go 3 days instead. Excellent idea.

Ds get low rate for the mobility element so don't qualify.

Sorry, cross-posted.

Lots of good ideas on this thread.

@Popchyk no cross post I was replying to you

If DH has the car, are there any alternatives for you to get to work, such as a bike or a moped? The latter would be as quick, but cheaper to run, plus you'll have completed the 6 months before the winter weather causes too many issues? x

I've seen people sit a child on a bike seat and wheel it to school. Kid gets off and adult then cycles home. Could your DH do that? If you already have a bike then it would be a free option. Cycling 2 miles takes less than 15 mins so your DH would then get some time before pick-up.

A mixture of bike/taxi/walk/DD skips a day sounds doable, albeit a bit faffy, for short term. It then would mean your DS stays settled.

Don't forget that with May half term and the Summer holidays, there's almost 2 months out of the 6 months that won't be a problem at all.

Could you possibly get a cheap 2nd hand bike and cycle to work?

DH hates taxis? He's an adult isnt he? Its only for a bit!

Can you get a scooter?

Motorised scooter obvs

What about a nursery closer to the new job for DD?

Do you receive middle or higher DLA? If so how about taking the lease car option?

Can your husband not taxi it for the 2 miles a day and let you use the car? It's not long term is it and 2 miles might only be £4/£5
Not ideal for now but thinking in the long term is important.

Just remember, I bet you would inconvenience yourself for an opportunity for any of your family, your dh has said its worth the inconvenience. So take a moment to enjoy your success getting the job.

Could you get a sling or carrier for dp to get dd to nursery? He could walk the 2 miles, have a coffee or mooch round while she does her session then take her home.

2.2 miles isn't far tbh. Dd might struggle but your dp could easily do it with a 4 year old in a decent carrier designed for toddlers/pre schoolers.

See if you have a sling library and get him to go along. I had ds in a carrier until he was 18 months and walked miles and miles with him as he refused to use a pushchair. Dds school was 1.2 miles away and we did there and back easily twice a day. Plus walked the dog etc.

It will be hard to start with but he will soon build muscles up where he needs them.

Is there a bus to DD's school? even if DH got the bus for drop off and then walked for pick up that would cut the walking down. Or a bike with a parent handle for DD (so she wouldn't need to peddle the whole way).

Bike trailers are quite expensive (like £400+) but you can get a tow bar thing that attaches a childs bike to an adults bike or a child seat for a lot less.

Maybe your DS would qualify for DLA if he has a mobility need? That could pay for taxis to school??

My mum used to take my dad to work at sparrowfart every morning, so that she could have the car for her own job 40 mins away. It was what it was. Fifteen years later, I got a waitressing job and public transport got me into work either ninety minutes early or ten minutes late.
: didn’t occur to me to ever get the later bus. My parents needed their jobs; I needed mine. As someone has pointed out, school holidays will ameliorate the difficulty. If you want the job, you’ll figure it out for a few months.