Playgroup worker said this to DC. AIBU?

[littkeredchairs]

Speaking to DS (2yo) in front of DD and I:

“I’d take you home if I could. You are just so gorgeous!”

Pointing and speaking to DD (3yo):

“I’d leave her. No thanks! She’s too...I don’t know.”

AIBU to think this is just not acceptable?

yeah that’s not acceptable!

2 out of 3 of my kids would have found that really funny. The other one wouldn't.

I suppose it depends on how your child took it?

Was she saying it as a joke? Not funny but can't believe someone would say that

is this a playgroup where parents are with their children? If it's a paid childcare facility then it is Incredibly unprofessional. I would be taking it up with their superior. If they are prepared to say that out loud what sort of care are they giving?

YANBU! Horrible thing to say.

I wouldn't have been able to keep quiet at that!

Wtf! Find a new Nursery!

People used to say this sort of shit about me as a kid, as I was much more of a whirlwind than my sister. I fucking hated it.

Wow! Very unprofessional, we'd get a disciplinary if we said that at my nursery

I would definitely have a discussion with the manager about that particular member of staff. I know some children can push you to your limits however, I would never directly single a child out or make it obvious to the child or others. Staff should be trained and there are policies in place to prevent such behavior such as “inclusive practice and providing an enabling environment where children feel welcome” some parents complain about all sorts of silly situations where management and other staff eventually become tired of it however, this could escalate or have a negative effect on ur child when they transition to another setting.

That is not funny, it is not a joke. It is so unprofessional I would report it.

Were you actually there OP?
I am sure it was said as a joke!

Was she kidding.?

I’m pretty laid back but that’s not funny at all.

Zx81 well yes, she wasn't actually planning to take either of the kids home. Doesn't make it OK though.

A misjudged joke. Are they a paid member of staff or a volunteer?

Even if it was a joke it was a shitty unfunny one

I might say something similar to a nine year old that I know well and who I’m confident will get the joke, find it funny and play along. But even then it wouldn’t be “I’d take child A but not you” because that’s got a mean spirited comparison to it.

If it’s paid for childcare it’s very unprofessional. Even if it’s like a playgroup where parents stay, people need to be more aware of what they’re saying

Highly inappropriate.

I'd have asked
too what? I don't know.
Yes, poorly judged.

Even if it was “a joke” children at this age typically don’t understand sarcastic humour. If she had a problem about your child’s behavior she should be speaking to you or the manager to talk to u personally or for u to maybe offer strategies that work at home to be used in the setting. She could really hinder your child’s emotional development or start competing with her sibling which could lead to behavior issues at home. Why is she even working with children?

Omg! If that's what's being said IN FRONT of the parents, I'd really worry about what's being said the rest of the time!
Was this just one weirdo v immature worker or is it the accepted culture throughout? Massive lack of training alert!

What?? That's awful!
YADNBU

something like that used to happen when we were a lot younger between me and my younger sister - some people still say it now were both adults and my sister hates it - i totally agree and hate it too but people are just so rude sometimes.

Mine would have laughed and agreed !

Depends whether your kids have a sense of humour and understand their own personalities or not

Anyone phones 111/called the police/called the nursery worker a narc/tried to have her sacked yet ?