What rules do you have for your child in the home?

[90schick]

For my girl (aged 9).

They include:

Ask for food and drink
TV only for an hour after all homework is completed
Bed by 9 o'clock.

Put toys away when finished with them
No climbing on anything
No walking about with food, stay at table
Playdoh, paint etc to stay at table
No ball games in house
Once in bed, no coming downstairs

I'm sure there are more....

DD age 3

Shoes off in the house
Eating in the kitchen at the table
Cups with lids only in living room
No peeing on the carpet..
don't stick fish food in your mouth
No jumping on beds
T.V off at 8pm on a school night
Drawing, playdough, magic sand nd more crap on the kitchen floor.

These are the top of my head, there is thousands more.

I did paragraph them all..

And eldest ds is 3

They're teenagers now, so it's really just,

Everyone does chores
Keep your room tidy
Keep on top of your homework

Do what I say, when I say it, and without protest.

Unfortunately nobody follows my rules.

@MimpiDreams

That made me laugh, be more assertive.

I don’t really have any...

Mostly be nice and say please/thank you.

Otherwise that’s it. DS is only 5 so I’m sure this will change as he gets older.

No electronics upstairs.
No food in any carpeted area
No iPad before 7pm
Only 30 minutes of TV after school
Chores are: Tidy rooms, make beds, flush toilets, plates/cups in dishwasher after meal, shoes and blazers in box when get home from school.
Kids are 7, almost 10 and almost 12

My only rules are don't shout, don't annoy me and you can do what you like so long as you are up in time to go to School, bathed and clean, rooms tidy and tidy up after yourselves esp if making a baking or arty mess in the kitchen.
No food ever in the living room unless its clean dry easy to pick up from floor food ie popcorn.
Oh and homework is always to be in on time.
Works fine so far.

Oh yes forgot a big rule is no shoes in house.

No TV on a school day - before or after.
Food and drinks in kitchen only (except water bottle)
Ask for snacks
Try a bit of everything at the table
Bedtime 7.30-8pm

Cant think of anything else...there must be more tho.

Kids are 1, 4 and 7,

Keep your hands to yourself
No screaming or shouting
Be kind to each other
Say please and thank you
Listen to each other
Ask before taking or doing

This is for 2 children under 9, if we're lucky we get them to keep to the rules about 75% of the time!

Oh yes no shoes in the house. But this is a rule my kids enforce on guests more than me lol

No more than an hour's screen time on a school night. That's about it really. They are well-behaved kids (10 and 12) and we deal with any problems individually rather than with set rules. Stuff like taking food - we've never made a rule but it wouldn't occur to them to take without asking tbh.

Tidy up after yourself
No food upstairs

They don't listen to either!

No food upstairs
No jumping on sofas
No calling people idiots
Don’t lie about washing your hands or cleaning your teeth

@ZX81user

My daughter is pretty good at following rules.

I'm a teacher, so I just give her my teacher face.

DD 11 yrs

Straight home from school
Shoes off when you come in
Homework first before tv/computer
Ask if you want something to eat
Set bedtime during term time
No shouting/throwing/slamming doors.

That's about it. Are they rules though or just things we do/don't do?

Expect politeness and kindness but they are not 'rules'.

There will be more rules I guess when she starts senior school, gets a phone, becomes a teenager.

No jumping off the back of the sofa
No jumping down the stairs from more than 2 steps up
No jumping on your sister/mum/Dad

Other than loving jumping off things he’s a very well behaved 4 year old! There’s no point in having rules for our 1 year old, she has a well practised look of pure defiance well beyond her years - I’ll tackle her when she’s a bit older

• No shoes in the house (that's more of a family rule, but they have to be reminded despite it being in place since before they were born but anyway...)
• No coming into my room before they hear my alarm/me waking up.
• No wrestling. Ends in tears.
• You get it out, you put it away.
• No snacks straight after dinner unless you made an effort with everything on your plate.
• Treat cupboard access is via permission only.
• Change clothes as soon as you're in from school.
• Help tidy up the living room before bed.

DCs are 7 and 4.

No TV during the week.
Don't eat snack food without asking.
Eat all the food you've asked for.
Ask nanny for help but not to do something you can do.

We expect many different things like manners, doing what you're told etc but these are clear rules which the children know.

No food or drink upstairs apart from water.
Tidy up after yourself (doesn’t happen).
If you put your phone/computer/any electronic device on charge you are not allowed to use it again until it is fully charged (makes them take a break from it).
No kids programmes on the tv after 7.30pm.
No screaming.
Ask before taking a snack.
Don’t leave the house without telling someone where you are going.

I think that’s about it for my dc who are aged 16, 13, 10 and 3.

A 9yo has to ask if they are allowed to have a drink?

Mine are no food upstairs.

Tidy up after yourself.

That's it.

We have dd9 and that's all, so pretty harmonious and chilled household.

@DannyLareus
Don't you think it's fair I make her ask?

Speak when you're spoken to,
Do as you're bid,
Shut the door after you,
There's a good kid.