What rules do you have for your child in the home?

[90schick]

For my girl (aged 9).

They include:

Ask for food and drink
TV only for an hour after all homework is completed
Bed by 9 o'clock.

No juice before breakfast
No tv before 9am
No juice upstairs
No touching my phone

Rules that I have accidentally implemented -
Ask for snacks all the time
Leave all plates and cups in the playroom
Drop your banana skins where convenient for you
Throw your coats in the hall on the floor.

15 and 11.

Be nice to each other.
Be nice to the dog.
Be nice to me.

Keep your rooms tidy.
Help me out in the house when I ask - about once a week, if that, without complaining.

That's it. We manage pretty well. They're lovely actually.

I can’t believe some of you are so strict with watching the television, however do you get anything done at home with young DC around without it?
I think I was incredibly lax with DD (now 22) after reading these replies.

No electronics upstairs
Help with chores when asked
Manners, especially at the table
No wrestling on the sofa
(2 boys, 12 and 8)

My dcs don't have any specific rules applied just for them. Generally, the house rules are:

Food at the table, not randomly wandering around the house

No shoes on the carpet

Everything else is just good manners and politeness.

No shoes in the house
No food upstairs
Tidy up after themselves
Flash toilets, wash hands
No IPAD during school days; it used to be not tv either but not anymore as we seem to have quite a bit of time after school at the moment.

No fully extended light sabres inside
No bouncing/kicking balls inside
No aiming nerf guns at people
All electronic devices to be downstairs at bedtime
No fighting/punching/karate-kicking your brother

Keep your room tidy
Don't scream
Be home on time (for my oldest)
Get up/go to bed without any fuss
Be nice to each other
Don't play football in the house
Do your chores

Occasionally they listen. Well my youngest is 19 months old so some of this doesn't apply to her yet

• No shoes on indoors other than the hall/back porch (especially not on my new bedroom carpet)

- No food upstairs - Half eaten apples must be taken back to the kitchen, not hidden - No biting, slapping, kicking, hair pulling or screeching - Don't empty clothes drawers - Only one squirt of soap per hand wash - Ask before opening the fridge

Children are only 3 and 4, and the food cupboard is child locked and the TV remotes are hidden.

Mine are adults now but the rules were

If you use it you move it
Be kind to each other
If it's not in the basket then it doesn't get washed

Shoes off by the door, uniform off after school, food by the table. Be kind, please and thank you, share toys, no shouting, hour of tv on schooldays, not be fussy with food you try it before saying you don’t like it.
Finish dinner before pudding
Washing hands when going bathroom and coming home from outside

Probably more but pretty much what I can think of right now

Be kind to each other, be respectful of furnishings and other people's things, to ask for food before helping themselves (just in case I'm about to prepare a meal or something ), homework done on time, electronics switched off when told to, and to be back home at set times (for teenager.) We don't have many major rules and it works fine for us, I see too many teens rebelling in households with strict rules.

Same rules for everyone in the house.
Be kind
Tidy up your own mess
Put away your own washing

Extra rule for the kids - ask before you get a snack

No jumping on furniture
No stamping our feet on the ground as we have a downstairs neighbour
No sweets just before a meal
No hitting kicking or biting
If the cat is sat where you want to sit find somewhere else to sit (because the cat moves for no-one)

DD aged 2

No specific rules I can think of. I make them up on the spot when the situation arises!
But I have a list of jobs/activities for every day that's stuck up in the kitchen. Somehow, DD(10) seems to have adopted them as 'rules' and completes them each day, generally without question. I add a new chore in to the list every now and then. She moans a bit but generally accepts it eventually (I'm talking g small chores, such as taking responsibility for her school water bottle).

She's a bloody good kid

2 year old

• no hitting
• no spitting
• no biting
• no kicking

Everything else is negotiable!

We don’t have a lot of rules, mainly because on a weekend/holiday I am quite likely to let DS have breakfast in bed with me as a treat for both of us! And also if he’s particularly tired and hungry after pre school he can have early dinner in the living room with TV on.
But things I am insistant on are
No running/lying down with food in your mouth
No screaming/shouting
No jumping on the sofa
Don’t ask for things in a whinging/crying way, ask nicely
Please/Thank You
Don’t stand on toys!

He’s nearly 4. He has never attempted to get his own food without asking before but if he started I’d probably not like that, although I’m not so strict around food as he eats a good range including fruit and veg and I’m usually inclined to believe he’s hungry if he wants some food. I leave water out all the time so he can get it, I wouldn’t make him have to ask for a drink (because he probably wouldn’t unless desperate whereas having it there means he drinks more)

No violence, no being nasty/rude. Don't damage things on purpose. Pens are for paper only, not walls/furniture. Don't hurt the pets. Teeth done twice a day, always. No stamping on the floor (we are in an upstairs flat).

I've just had a bit of a panic reading through this that we don't have any rules in our house.
I asked my 7 and 4 year olds and they've told me our rules are
No iPad before school and
No playing with toys after I've put them to bed.

It's not really anything to do with 'fair', but I can't imagine my dd asking my permission before getting herself a glass of water.