My SIL has informed me that she thinks my parents are odd and implied that my bro agrees with her.
Apparently, they 'don't have any friends' and 'don't get out and about and do anything'.
So, they are both nearly 90. My dad still drives, but only locally. My mother is visually impaired. They go out and about for coffee and walks at the local NT place. They have lunch out.
It's true that they don't drive over to where SIL lives and they don't have not been on holiday for a few years. But they are quite old and quite active.
They no longer do dinner parties, but I'm not sure I think that's such a big deal. They do sometimes make lunch for family.
As for no friends, well many of them have passed away or are not still living independently. They do see people but they do coffee out not trips to the theatre. I see it as winding down.
Also, they are happy and get help with household tasks enabling them to stay in their house.
Feel she is judging them too much based on the one other elderly lady she knows who is remarkably adventurous and still going on cruises at 87. Oh and also a couple of yrs younger.