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Original poster

To think she shouldn't have dropped me?

35 replies

MulanRouge · 26/04/2018 11:32

Friend suggested we go together to a local event this weekend. The event is running at a few different times. I told her I would love to, and told her the times I would be able to make. Friend said great, she'd get the tickets and confirm. She mentioned that she might invite a couple of other people along and I was fine with this.

She's just texted to say other friend can only make one time and it's one of the times I can't make and she's really sorry, she's going to go with this friend instead.

AIBU to think this is rude?

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AjasLipstick · 26/04/2018 11:34

How rude! Is she usually rude like this or is the behaviour unusual for her?

TaytoAllDay · 26/04/2018 11:35

Biiiiiitch.

I would drop her like a hot potato. She doesn't deserve your friendship. Spend your quality time with better people. Xx

Sharpcattlegridheavyhat · 26/04/2018 11:38

Wow. Have you replied? I don’t even know what I’d say to this, it’s like her saying ‘soz! I prefer the other friend, buh bye!’

Raffles1981 · 26/04/2018 11:38

So she asked you to an event, worked out a time to suit, confirmed she would buy the tickets, then dumped you for someone else? Hmm with friends like that OP....

PalePinkSwan · 26/04/2018 11:40

That’s very rude. She’s obviously happy to let you know that she prefers the other friend.

If you still enjoy her company then carry on being casual friends, but know that you’re not a priority for her and you can’t rely on her.

ChasedByBees · 26/04/2018 11:41

That’s completely rude!

Bexter801 · 26/04/2018 11:43

Good grief,that's horrible....I wouldn't even reply.

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MulanRouge · 26/04/2018 11:43

I don't know her that well, fairly new to the area, but I wouldn't have expected this of her IYSWIM. I haven't replied yet because I'm so Shock

It's an event that's only on in our area this weekend but will be on in other places after that so I could still go if I wanted to, but it isn't really about the event, it's about being dropped!

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RoundaboutSnail · 26/04/2018 11:46

YANBU, it's rude for her to make it seem she'd find something that works for you both, and then ditch that making it clear you're not her priority after all.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 26/04/2018 11:51

Oh dear. Did she maybe intend to say she also couldn’t make the times you suggested and therefore had to go with this friend? I may be slightly clutching at straws...

Bexter801 · 26/04/2018 11:51

Again I wouldn't even reply(doesn't deserve to know your angry,upset,or pretend your cool with it). I'd arrange to go again with someone else....your new to the area,branch out with more positive peeps.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 26/04/2018 11:52

Rude.

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MulanRouge · 26/04/2018 11:52

She could definitely make the times I suggested. I wouldn't have minded so much if she suggested the three of us go together but she didn't, she made plans with me and then said she might invite a couple of others along.

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Zeze247 · 26/04/2018 11:54

That’s the trouble with arranging things as a group. Was it just 3 of you or more? Shame she had to choose between two friends, but that’s life I guess. She should have set a time with the priorised friend then invited you though I suppos.

VladmirsPoutine · 26/04/2018 11:55

Is it more about what she did or how she did it?

RoundaboutSnail · 26/04/2018 11:56

She made plans with you first. It should have been the later person who was left to go by themselves, not you.

kissthealderman · 26/04/2018 11:57

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JessicaJonesJacket · 26/04/2018 12:03

She shouldn't have dropped you but I'd probably clarify what happened. Perhaps the others have immovable commitments and she thinks your times were preferences rather than set in stone?

Mummyoflittledragon · 26/04/2018 12:06

Have you paid her for the ticket?

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 26/04/2018 12:09

That’s true. If there were 2 or 3 more people involved and she had to try accommodate everyone it makes sense she’d just go with the group.

Original poster
MulanRouge · 26/04/2018 12:09

There are only the three of us. The conversation I had with her when we arranged it, it was very much the two of us arranging to go together. She then said after the time was decided that she would see if anyone else wanted to come along. Only this other friend said yes and she can't do the times I can. So she hasn't gone with the majority, she's gone with the friend who was invited along after we had already set the plan.

I haven't paid her for the ticket, I'm assuming she hasn't booked yet or she wouldn't be now going at a different time with the other friend.

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Sweetpea55 · 26/04/2018 12:09

Rude Cow.!!!!

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 26/04/2018 12:15

Sorry OP, did you say friend .... I could think of a better name.😬

TomRavenscroft · 26/04/2018 12:18

Shit. YANBU. What a horrid thing to do.

FizzyGreenWater · 26/04/2018 12:25

I wouldn't have the balls to do this but would love to reply:

'Sorry no, we made plans first so you're already booked. I'll reiterate my times: x, x, and x. When shall we book for? Do let your other friend know that they're more than welcome to join us if they can move their plans around.'