In being really angry that my father drove this morning ...............

[mosschops30]

Have just phoned my mum who let it slip that my father had 'gone to the hairdressers'. At which point i flew off the handle and said 'right thats it this time I am reporting him to the dvla' my mum has begged me not to and said its just a one off and just down the road but I am furious . The GP has told him not to drive and i am bloody fuming

yes but heiffer I find it frustrating because it all gets heaped on me but they wont seek out any help themselves. She wont go to the gp repeatedly, and he certainly wont, they wont consider SS help, or any repsite for my mum.
I have spent lots of time sorting out Parkisons meetings/consultants appts/GP appts.

And all this on top of raising my own family and doing a full time nursing degree so I have enough on my plate too!!

I do understand MossChops, please don't think that I am being unreasonable, but when I read your posts it took me back about 10 years as that is how I felt then with my Dad.

My parents burried their heads in the sand too, and looking back I wish I was more supportive.. It wasn't until my dad was very ill with Dementia that I understood what they had to deal with on a daily basis..

Admitedly I didn't have my DD then, but did when my mum was dying of cancer and had similar issues thebn, but because I handled it completely different (tried not to get cross with her etc), it was much smoother and I was able to help out much and be involved more as I didn't allienate my mum (as I did first time around)...

Maybe a good idea to re-read your posts when you have coolled down and you might see that you were being very harsh on your mum. If so the chances are this is how you speak to them at the time and therefore will just push them away....

I'm 100% with you on this. If he never drives then it doesn't matter if he doesn't have a licence.

Take his keys, drop them down the nearest drain. If he continues to drive after that, report him. Doesn't have to concern your mum at all.