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To take down ‘let’ sign

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TeasndToast · 24/04/2018 09:15

As soon as we move in?

We are moving into a rented property this weekend. Having been on MN for a long time I’m acutely aware of how much stigma surrounds renting. Once we move in I really do not want it being advertised to visitors that we rent. Most of our friends don’t even know.

Once we are in we are paying for the use of that property so don’t see that we should have to put up with a great big board letting randoms know our situation for weeks while we wait for someone to collect it.

I can’t find anything on line. Would we be within our rights to take it down and store it until someone organised its collection?

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Coveredinbeeeeeeeeeeeees · 24/04/2018 11:42

I rent BTW. If anyone said anything derogatory to me about it then I'd tell them where to shove their opinions. Life's far too short to care that much about what people think of you, especially on such trivial things.

Paddingtonthebear · 24/04/2018 11:46

We rent. I couldn’t care less what anyone thinks about renters. Our house is tidier inside and out than any of our friends owned properties!

Don’t worry about it. Take the board down and enjoy your house. Maybe read this

The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*k: The bestselling book everyone is talking about (A No Fcks Given Guide) www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1784298468/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_6QW3AbRY5FNNR?tag=mumsnetforum-21

TotHappy · 24/04/2018 11:51

@ThisistheFirstStep it was English people I meant!

Foreign i.e. Not Cornish...

GladAllOver · 24/04/2018 11:54

I live in an area where many houses /flats are rented. It's plastered with Let By /Managed By signs. It's a real eyesore and mess.

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TeasndToast · 24/04/2018 11:55

Thank you Paddington I’ll buy that! Seems I could do with it xx

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TeasndToast · 24/04/2018 11:55

Ooops sorry about the accidental xx

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missperegrinespeculiar · 24/04/2018 12:22

I know what you mean OP, we rented for a long time in a very affluent area, and yes, there was a "vibe" when we said we rented, very patronising

like for example the time a school mum saw pictures of my parents' house and was all startled and telling me in surprise how nice it was, or the time another one told me it must have been nice for us to finally have some space (in a two-bed terrace!) as we must have been used to being very cramped in small flats before, or another's shock in learning we do not receive any benefits as we earn too much...

but you know, the world is full of idiots and you and I have both have to learn to ignore them!!

flamingofridays · 24/04/2018 12:27

there's no stigma but take it down if you want to!

we bought our house and took the sold sign down immediately - I still have it in the cellar because nobody came to collect it!

I don't think renting is a bad thing, and the post you mentioned, I can disagree with that, what's worse is living next door to morons who own the house, much less likely to leave!!!!!!!

As long as you look after it, and aren't a total arse, I wouldn't mind living next door to you, whether you rent, buy or won it in a raffle!

Does anyone really care about these things?!

ThymeLord · 24/04/2018 12:54

Yes, people do care about these things. Unsurprisingly it upsets some people to be viewed as second class citizens because they don't own their home.

flamingofridays · 24/04/2018 13:02

no, thyme I wasn't referring to OP caring, I meant do people really care if they live next door to someone who rents!?!

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TeasndToast · 24/04/2018 13:21

My husband has owned previously and rented after his divorce. He never hides it and a family member of his asked us outright how come we didn’t just buy as we both work full time so could afford a mortgage. I really didn’t want to go into where my deposit savings went, my defaulted credit card that was run up in part by my ex but I couldn’t clear as a single parent so set up an IVA and couldn’t get a mortgage etc. It seems to bring about personal questions and assumptions like the ones you described and I just don’t want to tell people in RL. I just mumbled something like ‘yeah we are trying out the area first’ or some similar bollocks.

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ThymeLord · 24/04/2018 13:23

Ah I see, in that case apologies flaming

FASH84 · 24/04/2018 13:25

We asked four times for our sold board to be taken back by the agent, they didn't bother, it went in the skip they never asked for it. Take it down put it in the shed for a bit. If they ask for it they can have it. I don't get the renter's shame at all, I certainly wouldn't judge a friend on that basis, but that's not what you're asking for input on.

MissDuke · 24/04/2018 13:35

I get this op! There was serious angst about this in my old town, so much so that when we sold to a landlord - we didn't tell any of the neighbours. When they asked about the buyers, we just described the family who were going to be moving in (we had met them as they came with the landlord to view).

We had heard so many comments from neighbours bitching about a few families on our street that were renting, these homes tended to have a high turnover (perhaps because of nosy neighbours??) and so they were constantly anxious about who would move in next.

I do agree there are some out there who make this an issue.

I would ask them to remove the sign and just give them a few days, if its still there then take it down. I am sure you can wait a few days before having play dates etc! However I highly doubt your friends will care.

ConciseandNice · 24/04/2018 13:57

People suck and unless you’ve experienced it you’d never know the bad or patronising attitude some have towards renters. I rented all my adult life (nearly 30 years) until recently, and met many a snobbish wanker who would decide to condescend to me by advising me on my finances and scoff at my inability to buy (plus shakes of the head and sad face). It defies belief and YANBU to get rid of the sign. Hopefully your neighbours won’t be like this, but I totally know where you are coming from.

missperegrinespeculiar · 24/04/2018 14:08

yes, precisely, in the end it is nobody's business, and they are private issues, if you don't want to go into it, don't, it is not really lying, you simply decide what information to share, and if telling people you are renting may invite unwanted curiosity or worse, then since no one has a right to know no harm done!

Copperbonnet · 25/04/2018 02:48

I’m a landlord (renting out our U.K. home while we live abroad).

Once the house is let I don’t care about the sign and wouldn’t mind if it came down at all.

All the neighbours know that our house is rented because they know us and know we haven’t sold it.

No one cares.
No one has ever reported any of our tenants to us or the property agents.

We occasionally get the odd email saying how nice the new tenants are.

Don’t worry too much about it, just enjoy your new home.

notacooldad · 25/04/2018 11:03

concisea
What an idiot that guy is but I suspect if it wasn't the renting issue he would be mocking something else.

Perhaps the guy is such a jerk there are probably 100s of reasons why people rent and money is not an issue?

My managers manager rents ( a head of services) . In my team both the principal department officers rent and the on the same level as me 1 women rents and below my grade 2 other members of staff.
They are all long term renters. Nobody would dare mock any of them for supposedly not being able to afford it. I don't know everyone ps reasons and it's not my business to but the woman on my level is hoping to stay in her rented place for another 11 years and one of the heads likes having little household maintence responsibilities.

In fact my brother rented from the age of 18 until 47 and last year bought a house outright. His hand was forced when a new landlord came in and things weren't as good otherwise he would have stayed for ever.
As I said in an earlier post the best thing to do, in my opinion,is to bite the bullet and address it head on and say 'it's really working out well and suiting my life at the moment!'

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