to think this was incredibly rude?

[KirbyKane]

At work this morning and have just told people I'm pregnant. I'm 12 weeks and have a slight (very slight) bump. I am showing fairly early and put this down to having a late miscarriage some time back where I had developed a significant bump. Nobody at work knows this as I don't feel it is anybody's business.

Everyone was very happy to hear I was pregnant apart from one woman who seemed indifferent, which is fine! I really don't mind. However it has come to light that she has been making comments about me sticking my stomach out and wearing tight clothes to make my 'fake bump' more noticeable.

I am livid! First of all I am not so pathetic that I would stick my belly out 24/7 to make myself look 'more pregnant' and the clothes I am wearing are the same ones I wore before I was pregnant, so if you can see my bump... then so what? I'm pregnant and proud of it!

Would you let this slide? Or would you confront? It's upset me very much and made me feel like I need to justify myself.

Part of me wishes that my colleague never told me what she said but I guess she was only trying to help.

Ignore her. She's obviously a bit bored to spend her time pondering your bump size. Don't let her stress you out.

*just ignore although you can judge their rudeness too

@KirbyKane you're right, she was incredibly rude. She's bitter and jealous in that case! Good luck with your pregnancy and ignore her.

I don't see why the messenger's being blamed here. I would have done the same thing so that you know you can't trust the critical colleague.

Yes it was rude but there's nothing to be gained by having it out with her. Whatever issues she has with you are her problem not yours.

Congratulations! I would find it amusing someone has been so petty, they obviously have their own issues so ignore them.

Crikey, has your colleague no work to be doing if she has time to scrutinise other women's bodies.
I'd feel a bit sorry for her, how unhappy do you have to be to take time to do this?

What a strange thing to say about you! Ignore definitely and congratulations on your pregnancy, hope it goes smoothly for you

Thanks everyone. I didn't realise it was that strange to be showing from 12 weeks anyway!

Being pregnant is exhausting in every way possible

Congratulations.
I'd lean backwards and push your stomach out and start parading up and down past her desk.

It's just silly everyone is different. I was very obviously pregnant by nine weeks In my first pregnancy. It's just the way I'm built.

She sounds insane.

Avoid and ignore.

Oh, and do remember to discuss morning sickness every so often - when she's eating a yogurt.

Ah perhaps as she’s had five children she thinks she’s an ‘expert’ and likes to make sure everyone knows it. And she quite possibly loves being pregnant and having babies too, so is jealous that you have it all ahead of you!

Whatever, it’s her problem not yours.

Let it go. Throughout your life, tere will always be some people who for one reason or another choose to rain on your parade. Just ignore them. Congratulations, by the way!

Thanks all. I feel a lot better! We have another woman in our office who is 16 weeks pregnant and is barely showing. We are all different! I love my bump even if it isn't all baby!!

I was showing at 12 weeks with my second pregnancy, but it turned out to be twins....

Stuff a jumper under your top in front of her desk whilst flipping her the bird.

Congratulations!

Congrats on your pregnancy but move on. Not worth getting aeriated about.

Don't get me wrong I wasn't crying in to my cereal, it just made me feel extremely self conscious and like I had to explain myself. I think any pregnant woman would be upset by someone telling her she had a fake bump implying that I couldn't possibly have a bump as it is my first pregnancy (when actually little does she know it's my fourth). Just touched a nerve I guess...

@Storminateapot fab! I've had a very early scan so know it's not twins but wouldn't that be lovely!!

Part of me wishes that my colleague never told me what she said but I guess she was only trying to help.

NO, she was trying to shit shir. Why would she tell you that, knowing that no good would come of it? Ignore both collegaue and nasty woman and carry on as you are. Congrats!

Congrats

Has she been trying to get pregnant (would you know?) Not quite the same but when I was a lonely Singleton I would get really miffed every time an engagement was announced (sad I know ) Jealousy does strange things to people.

Tbh If I found out someone was saying nasty things like that about a colleague who I considered a friend then I would want to give them a heads up so they could deal with it in whatever way they felt best.

I would ignore her and forget about the comments.
If she continues then someone will get back to the manager about it one way or another.
She sounds jealous and bitter, not worth upsetting yourself over and definitely don't start changing your outfits.

Oh and congratulations!