AIBU to be pissed off people constantly asking if I'm pregnant

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

I'm getting really annoyed with people constantly asking if I'm pregnant or when I'm going to get pregnant me and my DP have been trying for a couple of months but nothing has happened yet but every little thing that I say or do has people running straight for the pregnant card and it's starting to annoy me if I was pregnant I would tell people but if I say nothing then chances are that I'm not. Why when people know that your trying to they suddenly take so much interest in your reproductive organs just leave me alone it's not going to happen over night and constantly asking won't make it happen any faster.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

Thank you I won't be telling anyone anything from now on because it gets upsetting every time I have to tell them no it hasn't worked again.

[JustaLittlePrick]

By the way, you're not having a hard time getting pregnant. You've tried twice.

[SachaStark]

See, I don't think that response will stop them in their tracks, OP. Since you were the one who originally told them the equivalent of, "DH and I will be having a lot of sex in the near future."

[RedForFilth]

Just tell them being asked is upsetting you. If they continue to ask in the knowledge it upsets you then don't engage with them.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

I do understand that people are excited for me just gets a bit much when people keep asking but I will learn to just change the subject because they will all know when it has finally happened for me just not yet.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

We've been trying since Febuary and it hasn't worked yet. I will just let people know that its upsetting me that will hopefully put a stop to the questions. I am waiting for a BBT to arrive that was my mums suggestion because I have no clue if I'm ovulating or anything we went in to this a bit blind and kind of excpected it to just happen.

[SchoolMoney]

I just reply with 'are YOU?' even if it's a 60something year old man asking, while giving a very hard stare. It is horrible though.

[TalkFastThinkSlow]

It can take a year to get pregnant, even if there are no fertility issues.

Calm down

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

Haha thank you SchoolMoney that would really shut them up. It is horrible and it does make things feel a little bit harder but I think I'm being too hard on myself thinking that maybe there's something wrong with me because its not happened yet.

[SachaStark]

I really don't think you need to start with the stress, OP. As a PP said, you've actually only tried to get pregnant twice.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

Thank you TalkfastThinkslow my DP is always telling me the same thing that I need to stop stressing and worrying and that it will happen. Think I'm kjust putting too much pressure on myself to make it happen which is probably having completely the opposit effect.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

SachaStark I know I have and both times it didn't work but that could be because we went in to all this blind and I have no clue if or when I ovulate which is something that I do kind of need to know.

[SachaStark]

Start with getting the app "Cycles". Using your last period and your average cycle length, you can have an estimate of your ovulation date.

[RockinRobinTweets]

At 2 months into ttc, just dtd every other day between periods. Trying to time it for fertile moments isn’t particularly romantic.

WRT the questions I’d just say ‘not yet’ as you sound like someone who likes to share and talk about what’s on your mind - this is good! IMO there should be less secrecy about fertility, it’s like a dirty secret for some reason.

[Viviennemary]

Well if you've told people you are trying then it's natural for them to what to know if anything has happened yet. You should've just kept quiet but too late now. Just say that they'll be told in good time.

[mandieleeinatree]

I have to also ask, why did you tell people you were trying?

When we were trying, we never told a soul til I was 4 months.

You can't put the genie back in the bottle sorry.

Hope you conceive soon. And when you do. Leave it at least 3 months before telling anyone.

[backsackcraic]

Just say well are you asking if me and DH have regular sex or do you want to know when my last period was? Because to me both are very personal questions that I'd rather not answer!!

That'll shut them up!

[mandieleeinatree]

Just say well are you asking if me and DH have regular sex or do you want to know when my last period was? Because to me both are very personal questions that I'd rather not answer!!

But the OP volunteered to tell people she was trying, so she can't very well have a go at people for now being curious.

[Coastalcommand]

I’m the same. I think it’s because my body was stretched so much last time I still have a bump. We will probably need more IVF but most people don’t know we struggled to conceive our first child.
Really sick of people asking now :( I can’t wear Spanx in this heat!

[coffeeforone]

YABU because you told people that you were trying, they are now interested. I don’t think it’s common to tell anyone when TTC.

I do feel for you as it must be a difficult situation to be in. Relax, enjoy trying and I hope you get a BFP soon! When you do don’t tell everyone until after the 12 week scan.

[HolyShmoly]

I told my family 'when there's news, you'll know, but please don't ask anymore.' Straight to the point. I didn't want to tell people during the first 12 weeks but I didn't want to lie either.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

I can’t understand people announcing that they’re ttc. In other words they’re broadcasting the fact that they’re shagging with no contraception. Just why?

[AudTheDeepMinded]

Just wait until you are pregnant and close to term. My lovely FIL rang me twice a day to check if I'd forgotten to mention that I'd given birth! 9 days overdue felt like a very long time indeed. Good luck.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

Thank you SachaStark I will try that might give me a better idea of things.

RockinRobinTweets Your so right we tried doing it only round my fertile window and it just sucked all the fun out of it and it was more like a chore than just being fun so I will give that a try thank you my DP will be pleased with more sex. I do like to share things with people and talk to people about things just think I should maybe learn to keep a lid on some things but talking to my mum has helped a lot she's given me some great advice.

Vivennemary Yeah I know that was my mistake and I understand that people want to know but they will just have to wait until I have something to tell them which right now I don't.

mandieleeinatree I now regret telling anyone about it because I can't take it back now guess I will just have to get use to people asking me because they are just excited. Thank you so do I and I will definetley be keeping my gob shut until I'm 3 months gone when it does happen. Think it might help if I stop putting so much pressure on myself to make it happen because that won't be helping matters much.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

Hahaha backsackcraic that really would shut people up if I said that to them.

Coastalcommand It's hard isn't it good luck with your next round of IVF when you do have it I hope it works for you again. Would really help if people just weren't so nosey.

coffeeforone I know that was my mistake I just didn't realise that this would happen. Things are really difficult at the minute because I really feel like this isn't working because of me I need to find a way to relax and just enjoy trying and stop worrying about it all and trying to blame myself if it doesn't work not even my DP knows how hard i am on myself when it doesn't work just feels like my body is letting me down.

HolySchmoly think I might try that because when there is news to be shared I will tell people but I don't feel like saying anything when I don't have anything to share with them right now.

AudTheDeepMinded I can only imagine how much worse it will get when that happens. Aww bless him thats so lovely but its not like it would've slipped your mind to not tell him if you had given birth.