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AIBU?

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Aibu - maid chucked away a bag that had clothes in

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Sammy901 · 22/04/2018 14:57

Currently on a 2 week holiday abroad in Mexico.

The maid comes daily, 2 days ago we went to the shops and bought some trinkets for my daughter to take home. The bag it come in I told her to start putting her dirty underwear in so they didn’t get mixed up with her clean (she’s 7).

My partner didn’t hear me say this and the next time I seen the bag he had put some rubbish in it, my daughter then put her dirty but brand new top from next in the bag and a brand new pair of shorts. I seen her do this and thought il need to remember to take them out but forgot.

The maids come and now the bag is gone, but iv only just realised a day later. So it would of had a empty box type thing which was the rubbish and my daughters clothes in.

I’m a tad pissed off that her new clothes are now gone. THE BAG WAS NOT NEXT TO THE BIN, Before anyone asks.

Am I right to be abit annoyed, I don’t understand why the maids binned the bag, I know there was some rubbish in there but it was actually a box to something we bought so we might of wanted to keep it anyway.

So AIBU? I asked at reception last night for them to check but they did say it was more then likely gone already. I have to go back this morning to check.

OP posts:

MushroomGravy · 22/04/2018 16:18

Why is it OK to read a trashy book on holiday but not MN on your phone?

TheJoyOfSox · 22/04/2018 16:18

Ffs, just get on with enjoying Mexico with your family rather than wasting time on mumsnet moaning about some new pants!

MushroomGravy · 22/04/2018 16:19

Thinking about it OP if I saw some children's pants mixed with rubbish I might think they'd had an accident and for the bin.

Sammy901 · 22/04/2018 16:23

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Mummyoflittledragon · 22/04/2018 16:28

I get you’re angry. But perhaps use some of that fight to get your stuff back instead of insulting everyone.

YippeeTipTap · 22/04/2018 16:32

That sounds annoying but if you husband thought it was a rubbish bag then it’s not surprising someone else did too.

ourkidmolly · 22/04/2018 16:32

You sound so aggressive and rude. I would forget about the whole thing, they'll be no joy from the hotel on this one.

Goingalonenow · 22/04/2018 16:33

Do you mean to be so rude?

honeyroar · 22/04/2018 16:34

If the rubbish wasn't obvious in the bag then it's a bit suspicious that the bag was thrown away. It doesn't sound like the hotel will get involved anyway and you could never prove it, so you just have to let it go.

I'm another that generally leaves the do not disturb on my room too.

mintich · 22/04/2018 16:38

YANBU I was once very angry because the maid threw away half a large packet of crisps....I was looking forward to them!

TomRavenscroft · 22/04/2018 16:38

You sound so aggressive and rude.

That's quite funny. The OP has been queried on why she's on holiday with kids when (people are assuming) they should be at school. Her writing and grammar has been criticised. She's been roundly sneered at for having the temerity to be on MN while on holiday.

I'd be feeling aggressive and rude too in her shoes.

maddiemookins16mum · 22/04/2018 16:39

I'm so pleased I'm not in an all-inc hotel in Mexico right now.

missymillsysmum · 22/04/2018 16:41

Last time we went to Mexico we had a pair of new pj's go missing from one of our family's rooms that had been left folded on the bed ready for the evening.

The customer services rep said it would probably have been the maid that misunderstood and thought that they were a 'gift' to her for cleaning the room (hmm). We told them that they were not a gift as any 'gifts' would be given to her at the end of our stay. The hotel looked into it and they were returned a couple of days later.

I would recommend you tell them you understand it was taken by mistake but ask them to look into them being returned to you.

offupop · 22/04/2018 16:46

I'd complain. If I leave my room a mess when I go away, I pop the do not disturb sign on the door, as I would want them clearing my mess up or seeing it. Though they shouldn't remove anything from the room unless in the bin or hotel toiletries they are replacing.

Sounds like a genuine mistake from an over helpful maid, so your complaint should be informal and understanding. Perhaps they can offer you dinner on them etc

Though if it's not forthcoming, let it go, holidays are too precious!

Jaxhog · 22/04/2018 17:01

It happens in the UK too. I was on a conference many years ago and left a white cotton nightdress on my pillow. It was really lovely with lace etc. The maid took it with the bed linen and it disappeared. The conference centre bought me a crap polyester replacement and said that was the best they could do, as only Sainsbury's was still open. It never turned up.

Gabilan · 22/04/2018 17:04

so it wouldn’t of all looked like rubbish

But some of it was rubbish, which you hadn't bothered to remove. Why would the maid look at it and think "oh well that bit is rubbish but that bit isn't"? Your DH assumed it was rubbish and put rubbish in it. I can well see how someone cleaning in a hurry would think they were doing the right thing by disposing of it.

Allthebestnamesareused · 22/04/2018 17:09

My guess - the maid has a daughter the same size as yours especially if denying all knowledge

Jux · 22/04/2018 17:22

It wasn't just pants, was it? There was a t-shirt and a cardi and shorts. Stop being silly and pretending you can't understand.

missbattenburg · 22/04/2018 17:53

My guess - the maid has a daughter the same size as yours especially if denying all knowledge

My guess is she made a genuine mistake and is now denying it because either she cannot remember this room among the multiples she has to clean in a short space of time or to do otherwise risks penalties far beyond the 'crime' - i.e. docked wages or loss of job that ultimately lead to extreme hardship for the amid's family. Again, I assume that because that is exactly what I have seen happen. I lost count of the amount of times I spoke to Brits, other Europeans and Americans in India who assumed everything that went missing was stolen by their maids, even if those maids had worked diligently for them for years. In most cases there turned out to be a different explanation (husbands moving stuff or taking the cash for something or kids breaking it).

In truth we don't know which it is, but to assume theft based on minimum knowledge seems a bit extreme...

Allthebestnamesareused · 23/04/2018 16:31

But a maid who has worked for you for years you would assume it was a mistake. A maid who knows you'll be gone in 2 days is different. They may be denying knowledge because they don't remember, or they remember but don't want to get in trouble lose their job or they may have taken it.

When we were in Kenya if we gave gifts to the staff ( which we gave all our son's clothes to a waiter as we were there in January and they would not fit him by Summer) the member of staff had to get us to complete a form and sign it as they were checked by security when leaving the hotel.

sueelleker · 23/04/2018 19:22

I had the opposite problem once--I put some old clothes I didn't want to take home in the bin, and the maid kept taking them out and putting them on the sideboard. I had to tie them up in a bag eventually.

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