How much can I expect DH to do?

[MaryPoppinsBloomers]

Irritated as spending Sunday morning tidying and cleaning again. I work full time, DH is shad to 1dc in school full time. Don't earn enough to employ a cleaner but enough to be comfortable. Although original idea was for him to return to work this hasn't happened and doesn't look like it will.

DH does ALL cooking, laundry, dishes and general day to day stuff. I do all of the shopping and take care of bills, planning etc.

Thing is my job involves working at home on top of full time hours so after dc goes to bed I work until LATE every night plus weekends. DH doesn't tidy or (deep) clean so any down time I might get is spent tackling the pig sty that the house is by Friday.

He gets far more down time than me but I am a workaholic so my AIBU is that should I be expecting him to do more in his extra down time or should I just suck this up? I know he already does a lot but I honestly think if roles were reversed I'd be expected to, and would, get more done. He has at least 5 hours a day during the week.

I think that childcare is generally undervalued in our society and as much as OP.

It does sound like he could do a better job of cleaning but what would worry me more is that as your partner is not working dues to a lack of confidence this will ultimately make him miserable.

I would be surprised if it was his perfect scenario. The thing is he is in a perfect place to find a way to make some extra income in the free time he has during the day with a minimum amount of pressure. The extra money could pay for a cleaner and the extra confidence will make him happier and lead to some kind of career when the DC has become older and more self sufficient.

I'm a sahp , my husband works full time my kids are at school ,I spend the time they are at school doing the big cleaning jobs and whatever housework needs doing, my husband has long hours in a stressful job and I know if I needed help he would help but I see this as my job because I'm at home . Have you discussed this with him