Why would someone not read the divorce papers

[suspiciousandconfused]

NC for this post but am a fairly old hat.

BF has been divorced for about 4 years. He continued to live with his wife for about a year after they split until she got her own place. She's now engaged to someone else. He's quite vague about when it all happened but I've met her and they are definitely divorced. I've met his family, been on holiday with his kids and parents and no suspicions over him still being married incase any one suggests that.
One thing I do find really weird though is that he says he didn't even read the divorce papers, he just signed them. I say bullshit. His wife filed for divorce and he just went along with whatever she wanted. Why would he either lie about not reading them or if he's not lying why on earth would someone not read why their wife was divorcing them? It makes no sense to me and I don't see a reason to lie.

I would imagine he does know is he just doesn't want to tell you.

Maybe he didn't care.

Why do you care?

He knows. Hes not telling you thats all

Could be that it makes no difference what it says. You can say pretty much anything is 'unreasonable behaviour' to get a divorce. From not replacing the loo roll to snoring too loud to shagging the neighbour. Fact is they wanted to divorce, there has to be a 'reason' given, I would imagine that not too many people bother to contest whats written as they just want the divorce and the reasons make no difference to the outcome, and its not like they are published in the papers.

Why does it matter what goes on the paperwork? Once they'd decided to split up the reason put on the forms is inconsequential.

Is he claiming he doesn’t know why she divorced him or just that he didn’t read the papers?

Whatever it is doesn’t paint him in a good light so he doesn’t want to tell you.

He knows. Maybe he was a dick or he cheated. He just doesn't want you to know.

Of course it wont 'paint him in a good light' its a reason to divorce him. If it said 'yeah he's lovely and brings me tea in bed' then they wouldn't be getting divorced.
It really doesn't matter what it is. It could be things that are true, it could be the ranting of a bitter ex, it could just be some boring stuff to get it over and done with.

Quite honestly I'm not sure its any of your business.

Are you happy with him? Because that's all that counts.

Lol are you my ex’s NG? I’ve never known anyone to sign and return so quick. Before she could get home from work he’d dropped them to mine. Basically because like most men, they tell the NG the ex is crazy, it was a mutual decision, she cheated etc etc lie lie lie.

The divorce papers told a WHOLE different story

My ex husband signed the divorce papers without reading them, even the ones relating to arrangements for our child.

Forgot to say, hasn’t he got his own copy of them? Pretty sure you both get them.

Maybe she divorced him for adultery and he doesn’t want you to know? Or maybe the irreconcilable differences reveal something negative (obviously) about him that he doesn’t want you to know? Either way, it’s in the past.

I am fairly certain my ex wouldn’t have read them, well maybe a cursory glance but that would have been it.

Why not find out from her?

If there are dv issues or manchild issues or cheating issues it would be good to know

is he a gazillionaire ? why does it matter ?

I signed my divorce papers without reading them. We'd decided beforehand what he was going to say. We just wanted a cheap, quick severing (no dc). That was decades ago, hope I didn't miss anything!😱

He knows, he just doesn't want you to know the reason she divorced him.

I suspect he is trying to tell you to mind your own business. His divorce is nothing to do with you at all.

I'm sure he knows what's in there. I would want to know all the more if I asked someone and they didn't tell me. Especially if I had been with them for a while. How did you meet? Do you have mutual friends you could ask?

He wanted to know the ins and outs of mine and is very vocal in stating his opinion on getting a fair deal from my stbexh.
I had to give 5 examples of unreasonable behaviour and my stbexh is arguing against these reasons as he claims they aren't reasons to divorce him.
I just feel like he's hiding something.

Dd1 lives with a divorced man. Really acrimonious divorce before she met him. Maybe she needs to sneak a look at the papers, he could have been lying all this time!

There's no point in reading them really. Their only impact is that you will get a divorce- it's not like they have anything to do with money. Literally nobody cares whether anyone cheated or who did what. Also, often people agree what will go in them beforehand.

Could be because it doesn't matter and he doesn't want to anger himself reading what her 'take' on why they split is.

Part of being divorced is that you don't have to give a &%$%& what your x thinks of you anymore