AIBU?
In calling my dd Vagina a "Vagina"
lilymolly · 13/05/2007 20:19
DD is 16 months and is noticing body parts and pointing to them and making a noise, at which I will say "arm" "leg" etc. Tonight, she touched her privates and I said "Vagina" dp was a little shocked , and before any one shouts, I KNOW its her Vulva, but dont think that word is acceptable with adults never mind children iyswim.
We where having relate counselling last year for sex issues on my behalf, in other words I dont like it, and we discussed this particular issue, and the counseller told us to call it by its name, which is what we woould do with any other body part, such as her arm ect as already mentioned.
As a rookie mum, will this come back to haunt me in later years?
In other words, when she can talk will she talk about her Vagina, will she say it in inappropriate situations.
i.e my friend dds are 7 and 10 and still call it "mary" and I am pretty sure they would not know what a vagina is, and also pretty sure their mother would be mortified if my little angel came out with it
What do other people call it? Advice please
lulumama · 13/05/2007 20:25
we call it a foof or fanjo here....vagina sounds a bit po faced !
don;t think you are being unreasonable, but my 22 month old cannot say mama, never mind vagina. so i wouldn;t stress about it
also, calling it a mary, a twinkle, flower , button or any other name that is used for other things , i feel gets a bit confusing...so we stick to words that cannot be used for anything else
lilymolly · 13/05/2007 20:31
FZ- i nswer to your question, I know its not a resonable argument, about vulva, its just a personal thing for me which I dont like.
I know I am prob being a little too worried, as many have said she isnt talking yet! but I just thought I would ask the question to get some decent responses.
I do tend to "grow" dd if you know what I mean? As a first time mum, I am convinced what I do/say "now" will be the same in a few years time but those of you with older children can quite easliy tell me otherwise I am sure
P.S Mouse with clogs.... think its up to me where I post threads yes? please send me the rule book that you have, as I would be grateful for any guidance, as to where and when I can post threads.
lulumama · 13/05/2007 20:33
DS used to refer to girl bits as a vagina, as that was before he had a sister, and we were being all grown up and showing him a book about where babies come from...
now we have DD, we call it a foof or fanjo, as i don;t think she needs to call it a vagina, just yet !!
WelshMum23 · 13/05/2007 20:37
wen i was a child i was told my bits were my "privates" or "tuppence" lol
my dd is 22 months n can name her leg arms fingers toes belly nose eyes ears teeth n her boobies but hasnt once pointed 2 her "bits" so i aint worried yet but will prob go with "bits" or "privates"
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