To ask if you are gay/bi/straight? Favour please

[EasterRobin]

I’m a mum and I’m bisexual. I’ve had so much help and support from Mumsnet through my pregnancy, miscarriages, PND, breastfeeding, post-birth injuries, child health concerns, and all the usual issues that come with being a mum. I love Mumsnet.

And it REALLY PISSES ME OFF when people who are meant to represent the gay community attack Mumsnet… because you know what? A lot of LGBTQ people have kids. And this is the main support network for gay parents in the UK, not because they’re gay… but because they have kids. I’ve been on here pretty much daily for over 4 years and I’ve never felt uncomfortable or that I had to keep my sexuality hidden. Because most people here treat gay parents as, you know, parents!

So, I have a big ask for you all… if you are comfortable with it. I’d like to get a rough idea of how many LGBTQ users there are on Mumsnet. If even just 2% of users are LGBTQ, that’s a hell of a lot of users. Please do change your username if you like, or DM me… I’m just looking for a percentage, and I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable.

So if you are up for it, please could you answer the following question:

1. Are you (a) LGBTQ or (b) Straight or (c) Other/Prefer Not To Say

Thank you!

I take your point too, Robin. There are a lot of lesbians on the FWR boards.

Dickensian Quite so! It won't give me an accurate figure. It will be a very rough approximation. And it really depends on, like you say, how many people see and reply to the thread, and will be biased based on that.

If I was using this for government policy or scientific research, I would want the results from a proper randomised sample based survey. (This is when someone tells me this already exists and I feel like a right tit!)

I prefer not to answer, partially because I'm not 100% sure that the recent data breach has been sorted out yet, and partially because I honestly don't think your sample from here will be big enough to be statistically significant. Assuming you're genuine (I haven't done a search on you btw) I do understand why you'd want to have this ammunition ready for next time the GF TRAs make one of their regular assaults on us though.

I'm straight OP, don't care what you do with that data

(A) - bisexual

*TERFragetteCity" Fair point. I've noticed that on the boards lately.

Thank you people for replying!

Why not look through Relationships or Sex topic and count how many questions are not about straight relationships or encounters?

Fair point. I've noticed that on the boards lately.

I meant you.

TERFFragetteCity haha... sorry. Please do feel free to look me up. I'm not terribly interesting but I have a long history on here.

Straight, and I don't care what you are as long as a) you're happy and b) you're not impacting others by your personal choice. I know or have known straight, bi, lesbian, homosexual, trans at various stages of transition, cross dressers of all inclinations - most of whom are pretty tolerant of each other's choices and considerate of their feelings. The only Intolerant ones I've known have been aggressively straight people (mostly men) and the one "self-identifying as female" guy I met once. I've never met or even heard of a woman who self-identifies as male though.

There will always be some ignoramus spouting bigotry, homophobia, disablism and racism etc everywhere, and we're not even allowed to be separatist now!
Just concentrate on the support and know they are the fools

The results would be interesting but I’d be surprised if you get a big enough sample for it to have any validity, it is a self-selecting group of responders, you can’t tell how many unique responses/ duplicates you may have... actually is this really research into how willing we are to participate in #surveys# from people we dont know post cambridge analytica?

Gwenhwyfar That's an interesting approach. I'm not sure how to get a read on bisexual women from that though. I know quite a lot of bisexual women and they are mostly in straight relationships, particularly when they have reached the age when they are more interested in having children. It's not a bad idea though!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_surveys/3088632-Calling-all-MNers-its-census-time-prizes-worth-over-to-be-won

Mumsnet do their own annual census. Maybe ask HQ if they know the answer to your question?

This thread will tell you nothing.

Like many, I prefer the term GSD (gender sexuality diverse) to the ever growing LGBTQQIA as it feels more inclusive.

I don't, as all it does is make spaces and platforms that LGB people have carved out for themselves, at great cost and in difficult circumstances, "inclusive" to straight people, often straight men, who have plenty of platforms and spaces of their own. It's appropriation, it's homophobia, and it's bullshit.

ShowOfHands I have to admit I've not filled that in for a few years. I don't remember a sexual orientation question. Is there one on there now?

It's appropriation, it's homophobia, and it's bullshit.

Annie, I owe you a pint for that!

I'm a lesbian but, as a previous poster said, don't accept the label 'LGBTQ' person. Misogyny has always been endemic in the "community" with lesbians at the bottom of the pile and things have got a hell of a lot worse in recent years.

I will take you up on that sometime, Empress!

My sexuality is irrelevant to anyone except my partner.

I have no time for divisive identity politics and hierarchies of oppression and victimhood.

ShowOfHands Annoyingly, the survey is closed now (that'll teach me not to do it!) so I can't see if there is a sexuality question on it.

@ArcheryAnnie So what are those of us who don’t fall into one of those neat little LGB categories supposed to use?

C) Asexual Aromantic but I wouldn't rule out the possibility of sexual/romantic relationships with either sex in the future - so possibly bisexual/biromantic but absolutely not pansexual/panromantic. I've only ever had sexual/romantic relationships with men up to this point.